Need Help With Life/Girl

[Bankai231]

Some I come to the Internetz.

Theres this girl I REALLY like. We went out once when I didnt realize how much I liked her. Than after we broke up I realized she was like perfect for me (Dont know what you have till its gone.)
After this my best friend decides to be a ****** and go out with her. I forgive him though Im a REAL nice person when it comes to this kinda stuff. While they were going out this girl and I got REAL close. She told me all about her life. Everything. Were like Best Friends right now. She always used to call me her best friend and how she didnt know what she would do without me. Like we are real tight. My Best Friend and her broke up last week. Now shes telling me how much she loves me and stuff. I really want to ask her out but I dont want to ruin our friendship. But I like really like this girl Alot. I just want to know if shes leading me on as her Best Friend or if shes trying to go out with me again. Im so torn right now you wouldnt believe whats going through my mind. Please help. I know I look pathetic coming to the internet but I really have no one else to ask and talk to this about

[Phunkie]

Did your best friend like her a lot?

Ehhh, I dunno. I wouldn't go out with her if she was romantically close to your best friend. You'd betray him, even though he went out with her while you liked her. But you forgave him. I wouldn't do that to him.

It's always iffy these kinds of situations.

But it ultimately comes down to you.


Can I ask, why do you like her so much? What about her gets you?

[Papaya Pok Pok]

You could ask her if she likes you as a friend or more than that :x

And if you both have feelings for each other, then you guys should go out

I'm not good with advice

[Hiccup]

If you stayed close after one breakup you can stay close again.

[Bankai231]

Did your best friend like her a lot?

Ehhh, I dunno. I wouldn't go out with her if she was romantically close to your best friend. You'd betray him, even though he went out with her while you liked her. But you forgave him. I wouldn't do that to him.

It's always iffy these kinds of situations.

But it ultimately comes down to you.


Can I ask, why do you like her so much? What about her gets you?

Everything. Absolutley Everything. Like we think so much alike. It always makes both of us smile.

Update: We were just having a conversation about how were such good friends and how were both gonna move as soon as we graduate. We say we love each other but...idk.

@Minisoda: I think thats what Im gonna do

And Phunkie how did I know you would reply to me ;P

[Cucurbita]

Bros b4 hoes man.

If she doesn't like him anymore, the relationship will eventually end. So there is no need to make this forceful. The end result would be the same, just delayed, with less people pissed off.

[Phunkie]

Everything. Absolutley Everything. Like we think so much alike. It always makes both of us smile.

Update: We were just having a conversation about how were such good friends and how were both gonna move as soon as we graduate. We say we love each other but...idk.

@Minisoda: I think thats what Im gonna do

And Phunkie how did I know you would reply to me ;P

Haha, you're psychic, Bankai. :thumb:

And it seems like you've decided already and need some reassurance.

Be kind enough to tell your friend (the one who dated her). You don't wanna have any conflict there.

Good luck and tell us how it goes! :ran_ronald:

[Bankai231]

Haha, you're psychic, Bankai. :thumb:

And it seems like you've decided already and need some reassurance.

Be kind enough to tell your friend (the one who dated her). You don't wanna have any conflict there.

Good luck and tell us how it goes! :ran_ronald:

Yeah well now Im definetly not sure. Were talking right now and were saying how much we love being around each other. I was gonna do it right here and now but...Im not really sure.

[Hiccup]

go for it! YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DIDNT!

[Phunkie]

go for it! YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DIDNT!

YEAH DO IT!

This is 2010!

No "what ifs"!! You'll wonder what could have been if you don't do it.

Don't wonder, take action. Ask her out.

[Bankai231]

YEAH DO IT!

This is 2010!

No "what ifs"!! You'll wonder what could have been if you don't do it.

Don't wonder, take action. Ask her out.

But...

Ok tell me this: I just told her shes so amazing. And she said I was amazing back. Is this a friend thing or and Intimate thing?

[Cucurbita]

Nobody seems to understand the situation here properly?
What you people are telling this boy to do, is to tell a girl who is already going out with his friend, to break up with him so she can go out with him instead.

If the OP is correct in assuming that the feelings are mutual, then it should be the girl's responsibility to break up with her boyfriend. If she is waiting for OP's instigation, then she is pretty much using him as a shield and placing all the blame on what is happening.

The best way to resolve this case isn't for the girl to break up because she wants to go out with another guy, but rather for her to break up because she is no longer interested in him.

This method will leave far less hate. It might take a little longer, but there is far less drama and we kept the sacred rule of BROS B4 HOES in tact.


But...

Ok tell me this: I just told her shes so amazing. And she said I was amazing back. Is this a friend thing or and Intimate thing?

Don't over-read it.

I can tell just about any one of my friends that they are absolutely amazing and they'll respond the same.

If anything you can have a serious discussion with her about it.

[Bankai231]

Nobody seems to understand the situation here properly?
What you people are telling this boy to do, is to tell a girl who is already going out with his friend, to break up with him so she can go out with him instead.

If the OP is correct in assuming that the feelings are mutual, then it should be the girl's responsibility to break up with her boyfriend. If she is waiting for OP's instigation, then she is pretty much using him as a shield and placing all the blame on what is happening.

The best way to resolve this case isn't for the girl to break up because she wants to go out with another guy, but rather for her to break up because she is no longer interested in him.

This method will leave far less hate. It might take a little longer, but there is far less drama and we kept the sacred rule of BROS B4 HOES in tact.



Don't over-read it.

I can tell just about any one of my friends that they are absolutely amazing and they'll respond the same.

If anything you can have a serious discussion with her about it.

Kita she already broke up with him because she felt like he was cheating on her.
I really think the best thing is to just ask her if she has feelings for me.

Any other suggestions. Thanks to anyone whos helped so far. This may not be big for you but it is for me.

[Phunkie]

Yes, don't overread things and don't make her break-up with him for you (if she's still with him).

If she's single (or when she's single), go for her. See what happens.

Life is short.

Also, ask her how she feels about you. Like, honestly. Tell her how you feel as well. See what happens from there.

[Bankai231]

Life is short.

Just pretty much made up my mind right there. Thanks man :)

[Taycat]

If you go out with her, your best friend may not be a best any more.

[Bankai231]

If you go out with her, your best friend may not be a best any more.

Yeah well hes been kinda a big baby about it. Really wouldnt matter to me.
Shes kinda like my whole life right now.

[Taycat]

Watch him go out with some random girl he only knew since last year, and only in passing too.

[Phunkie]

Yeah well hes been kinda a big baby about it. Really wouldnt matter to me.
Shes kinda like my whole life right now.

Be careful. If he's a good friend, he might not be there for you if things don't work out with the girl.

Just keep it in mind.

[Bankai231]

Be careful. If he's a good friend, he might not be there for you if things don't work out with the girl.

Just keep it in mind.

Well if we do go out. First thing im doing is making her promise that not matter what happens with us we wont EVER spread apart.

[Hiccup]

Thats a big promise. Especially cause you never know what might happen

[Phunkie]

Well if we do go out. First thing im doing is making her promise that not matter what happens with us we wont EVER spread apart.

Those are good wishes. :)

But sometimes crap happens, you know? But I'm optimistic, so I'm hoping for the best.

I hope both of you do work out.

[Kazuni]

Ya know, it's not being a crap friend if he goes out with her. I mean, his friend jumped right in after they broke up.

And I wouldn't recommend making "forever promises", those don't usually work out too well unless you're like, 20 or something.

[Cucurbita]

Well if we do go out. First thing im doing is making her promise that not matter what happens with us we wont EVER spread apart.

Such promises usually bust when the two of you end up going to different colleges.
It tends to only work out in mangas. Besides, every divorced couple start off assuming they'll be bound together, and see our divorce rates are at 50%. Everyone always thinks their relationship will last, but its more of a flip of the coin. Try your best, stay optimistic, but don't be blind by your positivity to the point where you start digging your own holes. Overconfidence can sometimes prevent you from resolving an issue that you could've seen coming weeks or even months away in a relationship.

Anyways, I'd take it slow imo, even if they are no longer going out. Of course, since she is available, you want to let her know that you are interested in her, but try not to go out until this friend of yours cools down a little from this break up.

He wasn't going out with her because he didn't like her, and since he just got dumped, you going out with her would be incredibly insensitive. If the girl's accusations of him being a cheater is not true, then this guy is probably taking a lot of stress and heat right now.

[Hiccup]

Like he wasn't being incredibly insensitive when he went out with her after they broke up?

[Byte]

Idk why these people did not factor age into the equation.

HOW OLD ARE YOU?

[Cucurbita]

Like he wasn't being incredibly insensitive when he went out with her after they broke up?

>We went out once when I didnt realize how much I liked her.

It wasn't a big deal for him at the time.

And just because one guy is a douche doesn't mean you should be a douche. That sort of thing turns everyone into douches and the world falls apart.

[Hiccup]

It's already falling apart. Even if bankai isn't "a douche" no matter how long you wait his friend may never accept the fact he is going out with her, or will go out with her cause at this point we know they gonna go out.

[Cucurbita]

It's already falling apart. Even if bankai isn't "a douche" no matter how long you wait his friend may never accept the fact he is going out with her, or will go out with her cause at this point we know they gonna go out.

Which is why I said he should make a sort of reservation type of thing with her.
Let her know he's interested, and then also let her know that he wants to wait until his friend simmers down a bit, give it maybe 2 weeks.

Sure, he might never be over it. But he won't take it like a stake to the heart if it happens a few weeks later as opposed to a few days.

[Phunkie]

You can get the girl and not seem like a douche though. It's just the way you take control of the situation.

Communication helps. A lot.

[Hiccup]

no matter how long you wait his friend may never accept the fact he is going out with her

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[Cucurbita]

Sure, he might never be over it. But he won't take it like a stake to the heart if it happens a few weeks later as opposed to a few days.

.___.

There is absolutely nothing to lose.

[Hiccup]

Yeah but doubts his friend will be there when Bank needs em. Ahhh this whole conversation is hypothetical ;~;

[Phunkie]

I doubt I could ever date someone who has been seriously involved with a friend of mine or viceversa.

I'm too jealous.

[Cucurbita]

I doubt I could ever date someone who has been seriously involved with a friend of mine or viceversa.

I'm too jealous.

Used goods aren't very appealing to me either.

[Phunkie]

Used goods aren't very appealing to me either.

I don't mind dating someone who has been with another person before.

But as long as it's not a family member or a friend. Oh gosh.

Nothing wrong with it. It's just me.



Also said person cannot have slept with everyone and their mother. Or at least, I don't wanna hear it!

Gross.

[Cucurbita]

I don't mind dating someone who has been with another person before.

But as long as it's not a family member or a friend. Oh gosh.

Nothing wrong with it. It's just me.



Also said person cannot have slept with everyone and their mother. Or at least, I don't wanna hear it!

Gross.

Your brother dated your current girlfriend and they have slept together before.

Think. THINK. IMAGES.

[Phunkie]

Your brother dated your current girlfriend and they have slept together before.

Think. THINK. IMAGES.

OH GOSH, NO. EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW :!!:

[Compass]

:3 So I'm guessing you're about to ask her out soon?
I don't see why not you shouldn't go out with her.
Also your friend seems like a douchebag I wouldn't like to be anywhere near him but then again I hold grudges, I wish I was as forgiving as you.

[Cucurbita]

:3 So I'm guessing you're about to ask her out soon?
I don't see why not you shouldn't go out with her.
Also your friend seems like a douchebag I wouldn't like to be anywhere near him but then again I hold grudges, I wish I was as forgiving as you.

You don't know the guy. You just heard one story.

If he's so close like the OP suggests, then I wouldn't risk falling out with him.

[Papaya Pok Pok]

We say we love each other but...idk.

Love each other as in a friendly way or more than that? o3o

Like.. ex 1: ily ;D or ex 2: I love you <3

[BobYoMeowMeow]

Idk why these people did not factor age into the equation.

HOW OLD ARE YOU?

OP answer this question first
(although the cat would judge OP to be in high school)

[Shanghai]

OP answer this question first
(although the cat would judge OP to be in high school)

This, because relationships this early will lead to break-ups(most of the time) from what I've experienced, and can make the person who lost his/her boyfriend/girlfriend extremely and utterly depressed. To the point where their favorite things are unable to please them, and lean toward suicidal thoughts, as well as slacking off in school. ESPECIALLY if all they think about is their love, and it fills their life, like you.

[Cannibal]

Stick it in her pooper.
That solves everything.

[Phunkie]

LOLWUT

[Hiccup]

Wow san-san.

[Cucurbita]

Stick it in her pooper.
That solves everything.

Clean it out first stupid.

[Cannibal]

Pft, not needed.

[Hiccup]

Stinky.

[Cucurbita]

Lotion.

[BobYoMeowMeow]

Clean it out first stupid.

you forgot Saani has fetishes

[Bankai231]

Im 15. Yup. Saying again: It may not be important to you but is it to me.

Update:I fixed her 1 day old blackberry today. (Come to the nerd :P) She kept looking at me and saying that she loved me and laughing. It was all good thinking I had a good chance until she said I was like her brother. Im now more distraught. But she keeps saying that she wouldnt know what she would do without me.

@Kita and others: I really dont care about the friend part. It dosent matter what he does. Like really as long as im with her I could take any ****. Me and her already have had our fair share. I could care less.

[Cucurbita]

@Kita and others: I really dont care about the friend part. It dosent matter what he does. Like really as long as im with her I could take any ****. Me and her already have had our fair share. I could care less.

BUT DUDE. BROS B4 HOES REMEMBER?!


Im 15. Yup. Saying again: It may not be important to you but is it to me.

Update:I fixed her 1 day old blackberry today. (Come to the nerd :P) She kept looking at me and saying that she loved me and laughing. It was all good thinking I had a good chance until she said I was like her brother. Im now more distraught. But she keeps saying that she wouldnt know what she would do without me.

Okay, seriously, if she said you were like her brother, thats like her giving you a massive hint. She knows you like her and she likes you but not in the same way. If its such a huge issue for you, just let her know, at least without sounding obsessive. It won't stop you two from being friends, trust me.

And you're 15.

This girl will probably not mean anything to you in about 5 years. So hell, go for it. You've got nothing to lose.

[Sam]

And you're 15.

This girl will probably not mean anything to you in about 5 years. So hell, go for it. You've got nothing to lose.

^this
Im 20 now, and 90% of my friends that I had when i was 15, are now either in different university's as me, and are just facebook friends, or sitting in my msn list never talking to each other.

You should tell her how you feel, just dont go all out there and say that you LOVE HER and you CANNOT EVER BE APART!
just say that you like her, and want to spend more time with her. You only live once, and I have had too many instances to count where I have not asked someone out because I am afraid that they wont like me or I think that it wont go anywhere.

[Phunkie]

Oh, you guys are being negative.

One of my good friends has been together with her boyfriend for 7 years. She is 21. It sounds CRAAAAZY, but he's a put-together guy and they really do seem to love each other, hence all the time they've been together. Great guy, to tell you the truth. Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke. Goes to school, etc.

Bankai, don't think about the future now. Worry about that later. If you like her, go for it man. 'Cause 2012 is coming close... kidding.

Every time I've had a major crush on someone, I've told them. And sure, we deal with rejection, but we get over it and move on. Your situation is different. There's a good possibility that she may like you as more than a friend. That's worth going after, especially since you like her so much.

And who knows, you guys might feel strongly for each other for a very long time. Though it if doesn't last forever, you'll remember the good moments you shared with her.

But man, you are 15. You should not be worrying about the future right now. You like her? Go after her. Enjoy these years man! (And all that making out...)

[Cucurbita]

One of my good friends has been together with her boyfriend for 7 years. She is 21. It sounds CRAAAAZY, but he's a put-together guy and they really do seem to love each other, hence all the time they've been together. Great guy, to tell you the truth. Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke. Goes to school, etc.

Not saying it isn't possible. Just saying its incredibly implausible.

[Hiccup]

My older sis has been dating her current boyfriend since 9th grade (last year of middle school) and they still going and they both done college next year. My friends parents have been dating since middle school and are celebrating their 25th anniversary today.

[Phunkie]

Not saying it isn't possible. Just saying its incredibly implausible.

Definitely, I'll give you that.

[Kazuni]

One of my friends got too obsessive over a girl and he got rejected hard because she got pissed off at his clinging.
Not saying that'll happen to you, of course..

But make sure your priorities are clear, and make no promises that last too far into the future. Stay away from the "ILOVEYOUFOREVERRRR" stuff, it doesn't go anywhere, really...

[Hiccup]

^sounds like Pepe and Saani lol

[BobYoMeowMeow]

My older sis has been dating her current boyfriend since 9th grade (last year of middle school) and they still going and they both done college next year. My friends parents have been dating since middle school and are celebrating their 25th anniversary today.

there's a pseudonym for those according to collegehumor...
it's just that their list of "people who would meet in college" is around 50 internet pages long.
and you can't use "word search"

[Kazuni]

^sounds like Pepe and Saani lol

lolsrsly?


And personally, I've never actually told any person that I've had a crush on that I liked them. Sounds kinda odd, really, but now that I think about it, it's true. I'm a bit of a coward, I guess. Can't take rejection. http://www.cute-factor.com/images/smilies/missbone/miss-bone-60.gif

I can't recall making any forever promises either, those just strike me as.. too fake. Not everything is directly off a movie screen, imo. Love's great, but real relationships suck.

[Hiccup]

@Kazuni I know same ;~; well minus one exception.

@Kitty @_@ k.. He's gonna propose to her soon though XD

[Phunkie]

The worst that you can get is a No, I don't like you like that.

Or the person can start avoiding you... :what:

Then again, you don't need people like that.

[Hiccup]

But if their your friend, it'll sting

[Phunkie]

But if their your friend, it'll sting

Friends don't avoid each other.

If someone does that to you, he or she is not your friend.

[Hiccup]

Well the situation could make it awkward. My best friend liked me since 8th grade. I think she still does but I dunno sux to be her cause I don't roll like that. But yeah she asked her friend to ask me out when I didn't know her it was soooo awkward. Like it was weird. But I just ignored it though and started talking to her 2 years later.

[Bankai231]

Still havent done it. Im proabably doing it tommarow since tonight its her B-day and shes at the Phillies game.
Ill tell you guys the results. Holpefully there good results :l

[Hitaki]

Still havent done it. Im proabably doing it tommarow since tonight its her B-day and shes at the Phillies game.
Ill tell you guys the results. Holpefully there good results :l

What a coincidence o3o; I decided I'd finally man up and confess to this girl I like just to get it off my chest. I'd completely understand if she didn't return any feelings to me since I'm a pretty hectic person in real life and we're friends, but we rarely talk to each other occasionally (I would, but once I realize I like a girl, it becomes really hard for me to talk to her because I see her in a whole new perspective), but being a shy person I'm freaking out over it a little. The best thing I can hope for is that we remain friends.

Meh, anyway good luck tomorrow. Hopefully everything turns out good and we get no news of drama and whatnot.

[Bankai231]

What a coincidence o3o; I decided I'd finally man up and confess to this girl I like just to get it off my chest. I'd completely understand if she didn't return any feelings to me since I'm a pretty hectic person in real life and we're friends, but we rarely talk to each other occasionally (I would, but once I realize I like a girl, it becomes really hard for me to talk to her because I see her in a whole new perspective), but being a shy person I'm freaking out over it a little. The best thing I can hope for is that we remain friends.

Meh, anyway good luck tomorrow. Hopefully everything turns out good and we get no news of drama and whatnot.

Oh dont worry I wont rant if I dont get the girl.
But yeah I already conffesed to her that I liked her, so bud, I know what you mean.

[Tedio]

love....? bleh.

Its okay if you get rejected. If you two are that "tight" it wont be a problem.

[Lan]

Good on you man ^_^ I'm a coward.

I act differently towards girls that are potential girlfriends than girls I have no interest in or would never date (or are dating someone). With the first group I can't talk properly -_-

[Phunkie]

Reading this again makes me wanna tell the guy I like that I like him... a lot. x_x

[Kazuni]

Reading this again makes me wanna tell the guy I like that I like him... a lot. x_x

Me too :T .

It's probably not a good idea for me, though.

[Jun]

I'm having the opposite problems you guys are having... =_=
Girls keep saying they're in love with me.. about 3 now :l
I hate making people feel sad.. so it's a big problem, last week one of these girls stole a kiss from me, don't get me wrong she's actually a good person and all and she's very pretty.. it's just, that I felt nothing for her :l.. Didn't know what to say so I just stood there quiet when she said she loved me.. and she made a big drama that day. I tend to avoid being sentimental due to how a girl toyed with me.. so yeah.. People now call me Cold and that kind of things :L

Just becareful one bad expirience can well.. sour them all.
But if that "I like you as a brother" mainly tells you that she doesn't see you as you see her.
Good luck.

[Taycat]

Protip: If you feel awkward asking a friend you've known for awhile to be your BF/GF, just do it. They may give back the love that you give them.

[Bankai231]

Protip: If you feel awkward asking a friend you've known for awhile to be your BF/GF, just do it. They may give back the love that you give them.
Yup Ima just do it. Still havent because we havent talked but as soon as I can I will. And I have things to say if she rejects me. But frankly I was thinking I dont have anything to talk about if we do go out.

[Skye]

But frankly I was thinking I dont have anything to talk about if we do go out.

That's when you just look at each other lovingly. :)
Or makeout. XD

[Bankai231]

That's when you just look at each other lovingly. :)
Or makeout. XD

Lol. I quoted you and saw your message. But yeah thats on the list ;) And im gonna say to her what you have in your sig. Ty

[Skye]

Aaaaawwww!!! :D That's soooo sweet. x3
I wish you so much luck on this. I know it's stressful. :P

[Andy-Buddy]

Well.. I took the thread's advice and I asked out the girl I've liked for 4 years. Yey rejection. x.x

[Phunkie]

Well.. I took the thread's advice and I asked out the girl I've liked for 4 years. Yey rejection. x.x

Props to you! I'm proud of you actually. :)

What a real man.

[Bankai231]

Realized shes not the girl for me. Shes been flirting with her ex. (Thats what I call it.) Was bugging me so I said eff it. Just hoping for the right kind of girl now. Maybe next year will bring some hope. To much drama at the end of this year x.x

[Chockeh]

Realized shes not the girl for me. Shes been flirting with her ex. (Thats what I call it.) Was bugging me so I said eff it. Just hoping for the right kind of girl now. Maybe next year will bring some hope. To much drama at the end of this year x.x
That sucks man.
I'd try to make her jealous, but that would make you an a-hole.

[Bankai231]

That sucks man.
I'd try to make her jealous, but that would make you an a-hole.

Lol im to nub to make her jealous. Yeah 4 days of school left. I dont want to screw everything up.
Thing is I trust her a lot. More than anyone else and I have HUGE trust issues.

[Chockeh]

Just a question, is she giving out hints?

[Bankai231]

Just a question, is she giving out hints?

To me? She was telling me how I was so great and who she would be different without me and so on and so forth. But today and the past few days were different not talking to me nor telling me that.

[Hiccup]

What a whoar! D:<

[Kazuni]

So sorry for you :(

[Bankai231]

What a whoar! D:<

Bleh dont say that. I know her life so I know what she went through. But thanks.

[Hiccup]

That's me way of saying I sowwwy.

[Bankai231]

That's me way of saying I sowwwy.

Its k. All good Mr.Giant.

[Phunkie]

Realized shes not the girl for me. Shes been flirting with her ex. (Thats what I call it.) Was bugging me so I said eff it. Just hoping for the right kind of girl now. Maybe next year will bring some hope. To much drama at the end of this year x.x

Glad you found this out early rather than already into the relationship. :)

Don't worry. As cliche as it sounds, you will find someone. People meet potential significant others everywhere these days. You just gotta put yourself out there.

Let people know that you're AWESOME and available. haha

And you're young, so you got a lot of time to plan. School is definite good start, of course.

[Skye]

^Agreed.
But I'm still sorry for you. ilu <3 :)

[paladin]

^Agreed.
But I'm still sorry for you. ilu <3 :)

^ that
I bet in 5 years you will be happy with a real girlfriend

[Hiccup]

5 years!? Why not go pick up a girl at the bar, oh wait those are just one nighters......

Still in school, ya? Find the hottest girl and show off ya swagger

[Phunkie]

SWAGGER

[Bankai231]

5 years!? Why not go pick up a girl at the bar, oh wait those are just one nighters......

Still in school, ya? Find the hottest girl and show off ya swagger

She would slap me :P But summers here, and unless someone presents themself ima stay single :P

But thanks guys for the help :D

Love ya all :)