Sex. When?

[Phunkie]

A lot of people rush into sex these days, especially in America.

For many reasons too:

peer pressure
TV, movies
alcohol
hormones, crazy sex drive
desperation, "to get it over with"
because it looks hot
etc., etc.


You'd be surprised at how many kids (and adults) there are out there who don't fully understand what STDs are or their effects, or who don't even know how to put on a condom correctly.

In my opinion, if you don't know how to practice safe sex, then maybe you shouldn't even be having it.


I know that our bodies are physically capable of having sex at really young ages, but I'm talking mentally, maybe emotionally.

According to you, when's the right age to have sex? For both girls and boys alike.

Is it the same age? Different? Should it be different for girls than boys? Why?

What are some important things a person should know when engaging in sexual relationships? Or basic things?


This discussion is all a matter of opinion. No wrongs or rights here.

Okay, maybe. No 12-year-old should be having sex, period.

What do you say?

[Finnea]

Okay, maybe. No 12-year-old should be having sex, period..


I SAW THAT. Any age is an okay age for sex if it is fully consensual, this would obviously rule out the extreme younger age of the spectrum. However just because you're so willing you shouldn't give it away so easily, first and foremost you should actually have feelings for the person first. Personally I'm pro-choice as to when as long as both parties agree and have no regrets. Note: I do not approve of whoring yourself out alot, if you're gonna start having sex with someone, then you guys should be together for a good while(especially in a younger situation.)

As for safe sex as a whole, I completely agree that recently people tend to be completely clueless. Make sure you know exactly it is you're doing before you do it, and that should apply to everything.

[emomutt]

i lost my virginity when i was 12-13
i think its all a matter of maturity and being emotionally strong
so its always a different age for who ever

[Finnea]

i lost my virginity when i was 12-13
i think its all a matter of maturity and being emotionally strong
so its always a different age for who ever

Yeah, it's more about what age you are mentally rather than physically. Obviously this can vary, for example, some of my students are 17; however they act like they're in 4th grade.

[Phunkie]

Okay, let's gear it this way.

If your kid was having sex at 10, 11 or 12 years old?

Would you freak out? Why or why not?

[emomutt]

Okay, let's gear it this way.

If your kid was having sex at 10, 11 or 12 years old?

Would you freak out? Why or why not?
depends
how old the partner is, is he/she hot, will offspring let me join :lol:

[Finnea]

Okay, let's gear it this way.

If your kid was having sex at 10, 11 or 12 years old?

Would you freak out? Why or why not?

Depends who it is, how far they've been in a relationship, and how long they've been in it. Plus age too, a little(I'm not her, so i don't know if she's getting something out of it ect ect.)

[Phunkie]

depends
how old the partner is, is he/she hot, will offspring let me join :lol:

Okay, no.

I would definitely not condone my son or daughter having sex at the age of 12. Not trying to criticize you or anything, Emo.

I just honestly feel like (on average) kids aren't emotionally ready for it at that age. I definitely wasn't. I was into video games and the such. My sister was into... I dunno what she was doing, but it wasn't sex.

I mean, for example, just because you're sleeping with someone doesn't mean that someone loves you. And adults sometimes have problems coping with that fact. Imagine a poor little girl who gives her heart and soul to this boy she thinks she "loves."

It's too much to bear at the age. Sex at such young age can really hurt you emotionally.

15, 16, 17. Call me old-fashioned, but I think people around that age are a little more "emotionally ready."

I'm speaking on average, of course.

[Cannibal]

I think it all depends on where the person is emotionally.
Let's say a 16 year old girl could be having sex, because she thinks she's ready, since all her friends are doing it. She's physically ready for it, but it doesn't make her feel quite right.
There could be another girl who's 13, ready physically and emotionally both, and doesn't get the same wrong feeling as the 15 year old.
You can't really put an age on things, since it depends on where someone is in their life and doesn't rest only on age. A lot of people forget that sex comes with really, really strong emotions sometimes. No, it isn't the same for everyone, but I know from experience what feels right and what feels wrong sex wise, and they're two totally different feelings. Someone who isn't mentally ready for sex might get the latter feeling, which totally ruins something thats supposed to be beautiful.
So, like I said before, I don't agree with really young people having sex, but if someone is emotionally and physically ready, I say go for it.

[Phunkie]

At what age do you think most people are emotionally ready for sex?

Keyword.

[Finnea]

Okay, no.

I would definitely not condone my son or daughter having sex at the age of 12. Not trying to criticize you or anything, Emo.

I just honestly feel like (on average) kids aren't emotionally ready for it at that age. I definitely wasn't. I was into video games and the such. My sister was into... I dunno what she was doing, but it wasn't sex.

Haha, I mean, just because you're sleeping with someone doesn't mean that someone loves you. Adults have problems coping with that fact. Imagine a poor little girl who gives her heart and soul to this boy she thinks she "loves."

It's too much to bear at the age. Sex at such young age can really hurt you emotionally.

15, 16, 17. Call me old-fashioned, but I think people around that age are a little more "emotionally ready."

I'm speaking on average, of course.

Depends how well you know them to judge accurately, it's a much tougher situation looking in. Plus you always have that overprotective feeling of being a parent. As it pertains to my past you'd think I'd be an incredibly protective parent, however I'm going to set my fears aside and let her live her life. Ofcourse I will be there for her when she needs help, or something has gone wrong. However I'm a firm believer of the possibility of love at such a young age. Ofcourse it should never be "Oop, we've been dating for a month, soooo... LET'S SCREW!" it should progress over the years until they are ready. This year would depend on them ofcourse. Really put yourse'f in there shoes, then you can see the possibilities.

[Cannibal]

It still depends. But if a number has to be put to it, I'd say 16+.

[Finnea]

At what age do you think most people are emotionally ready for sex?

Keyword.

Can't categorize it really, but with the quality of people nowadays far past their teen years.

[Phunkie]

Can't categorize it really, but with the quality of people nowadays far past their teen years.

That's interesting how you put it. And to be fair, I agree. People these days...


Another thing you mentioned. Your "Oop, we've been dating for a month, soooo... LET'S SCREW!" example; what's the "right" time to wait before opening a serious relationship to that next level?

It obviously depends from couple to couple, of course. But it's always so frowned upon when you date someone and 2 weeks later you're sleeping with him or her.

There are no definite answers.

But what do you guys think about all that?

[Cannibal]

My mom always says she won't sleep with a man until she's dated him exclusively for 6 months, and she's always lived up to it.
Sure, it sounds like a long time, but it shows her that the guy really wants her, and not just her poonani.
I think anything more than 2 months is the best. A wait shows that sex isn't the objective of the relationship.

[Finnea]

2 months is the general time infatuation lasts, so most dedicated relationships last longer than that. If both of you know everything about eachother, then you can just start screwing. However, normally, my viewpoint is more of a progression. Where you let them get closer and closer at a rate that you both feel is right. It's important to talk about this too, after the whole infatuation stage.

[Science]

I think if you are having safe sex, and know the consequences of sex if stuff goes wrong, you're okay with having it. I guess if I had to put an age on sex it would be around 16~18. A lot of my friends are all sex-crazed though, so I think the age might be a little higher Dx

[Phunkie]

I think if you are having safe sex, and know the consequences of sex if stuff goes wrong, you're okay with having it. I guess if I had to put an age on sex it would be around 16~18. A lot of my friends are all sex-crazed though, so I think the age might be a little higher Dx

And how does that make you feel?

[Science]

And does that make you feel any different in respect to sex?

Yeah, but it makes me more cautious of sex if anything.

[Phunkie]

Yeah, but it makes me more cautious of sex if anything.

YEAH! I like that response. :)

Man, some stuff like herpes is so contagious that you can catch it even while wearing condoms.

And people are out there going sex-crazy. It's really not healthy.

[Science]

@Phunk and the catching stuff comment

Ikr. My teacher made me do a project on genital herpes and all that nasty stuff Dx More reason to fear sexytimes QQ

[Finnea]

YEAH! I like that response. :)

Man, some stuff like herpes is so contagious that you can catch it even while wearing condoms.

And people are out there going sex-crazy. It's really not healthy.

Yeah seriously, do what ama did. Have only 2 comitted relationships. Uhh and incest, but I know the state of my family as far as STDs. Sister is paranoid.

[Science]

Yeah seriously, do what ama did. Have only 2 comitted relationships. Uhh and incest, but I know the state of my family as far as STDs. Sister is paranoid.

Really?

[Finnea]

Really?

Yeah. we all live together and sleep together o.o.

[Phunkie]

@Phunk and the catching stuff comment

Ikr. My teacher made me do a project on genital herpes and all that nasty stuff Dx More reason to fear sexytimes QQ

Totally!

I'm not even trying to bash people who like to have many sexual partners.

Just know who you're sleeping people, really. Don't do it with a bunch of strangers.

[Science]

Yeah. we all live together and sleep together o.o.

Interwesting.

[Spartaaaaa]

Common sense guidelines for sex:
-Make sure that the other person is of the opposite gender
-Only have sex after marriage and only if you want babies

I am still a virgin, but I know for a fact (common sense) that if you and your partner follow these two things, then 99% of problems that arise over sex will be avoided.

[Science]

Common sense guidelines for sex:
-Make sure that the other person is of the opposite gender
-Only have sex after marriage and only if you want babies

I am still a virgin, but I know for a fact (common sense) that if you and your partner follow these two things, then 99% of problems that arise over sex will be avoided.

LIES.

[Finnea]

Common sense guidelines for sex:
-Make sure that the other person is of the opposite gender
-Only have sex after marriage and only if you want babies

I am still a virgin, but I know for a fact (common sense) that if you and your partner follow these two things, then 99% of problems that arise over sex will be avoided.

Yeah, I'll ignore that. However I hope you realize that you're more than likely to get an angry post eventually.

[Phunkie]

Common sense guidelines for sex:
-Make sure that the other person is of the opposite gender
-Only have sex after marriage and only if you want babies

I am still a virgin, but I know for a fact (common sense) that if you and your partner follow these two things, then 99% of problems that arise over sex will be avoided.

There are people who have sex with others of their same gender.

And people who have sex before marriage and just for fun.

Those aren't pretty good guidelines therefore.


Also, I actually think that 99% of the problems that arise over sex can be avoided with communication.

[Daccat]

I am still a virgin. 18 Years old. Tell me: Am I missing out on anything? :O

[Okami]

I think a good age honestly is 16 years old. That's when you start getting responsibilities and a "taste" of the real world.

I don't like how some people these days walk around saying "You have to have sex to be in a good relationship." I'm in a relationship of over a year and half, and we are both still virgins and will remain ones until we both can support a family. We don't want any accidents or anything.. 8D

@Daccat - Just keep it till your ready. Don't let society sway your own hearts opinion :E

[IceBlade]

Depends who it is, how far they've been in a relationship, and how long they've been in it. Plus age too, a little(I'm not her, so i don't know if she's getting something out of it ect ect.)

I have to agree. A persons mental maturity and the relationship they have with the other person is the main factors in being able to say if it's right time or not. It's hard to say at what age people will have the maturity for having sex, though if I found out my 12 year old was being sexual active I'd most-likely go postal lol


I am still a virgin. 18 Years old. Tell me: Am I missing out on anything? :O

For me personally the emotional components far out weighs any physical pleasures. So unless you've got someone really special to share that intimate moment with, I'd say wait. You don't want to have it being meaningless and hollow and regret not waiting.

[Bankai231]

I only think you should be having sex if you are like both in love with each other. (Below 18+) But 18+ Pretty much can do what they want. At 18 you realize what you need to support for yourself. But yeah im 15 and I know girls who have gotten pregnant. ><

[Zid]

I'm going to hold my Catholic tongue on this matter, and just go with what I've seen is effective.

What I do know is, concerning minors and sex:


If you're having sex with another person just for pleasure, you usually get a bad label.



Meaning that sex isn't meaningful and just for very selfish reasons. It can be a reason why it makes some people believe sex is controversial on one hand, corrupting on the other. And why it's a very iffy subject when concerning minors. You wouldn't want kids to have sex just for pleasure, right? It's corrupting in that sense. It can interfere with education and mental processes at certain ages, like the identity-searching teen years. That's also another reason why minors having sex is controversial, because it can affect their mental/emotional growth in a bad way if done/taught incorrectly (which is not that uncommon).

Sex is actually a risky gamble on your emotions.



Now, of course, I think the best way to experience and get the best out of sex is through being emotionally intimate with your partner. However, keep in mind, while it may foster emotional growth and attachment to the other person, it also creates a side effect of emotional vulnerability. Easiest way to put it in a situation is if the partner cheats on you by sleeping with another person after having a very emotional sexual experience with you. Obviously, very crushing on the emotions. Said crushing of emotions can be determinant to a minor's life, much more so than adults.

Sex can, of course, have the risk of STDs and unwanted pregnancies.



Diseases that hang onto you for the rest of your life? In your private area? With those marks? Yeah, seriously, how will a teen (much less a 12 year old) deal with that? Much less what it would implicate for the rest of that teen's sexual future. "Crud, I have herpes at age 16. Who would want to have sex with me now?" That already puts depressing risks into the minor's mind. Pregnancies. Kids. Responsibilities. Work. No time for things like school or fun. All of those going on in the mind of a growing kid.

Sex seems more appealing because of its implications on one's self if done.



Pressure to have a favorable identity, basically. The pleasure of "looking like a cool adult", being "I've done it and nobody has", or just to experience this physical pleasure from it. All sound like good incentives for minors, no? The problem is, the reasons I've listed attract them and can affect their definition/perception of what sex really is or is best for.


Seriously, I can see why some people fear minors having sex (at least intercourse). It has to take strong emotional will and maturity to be able to handle sex as a minor and still live like any normal person. And when people consider the physical/mental/emotional processes and growth of children before becoming adults... It just doesn't seem worth the risk to put sex and minor together. There's a reason why we have laws on what age is the consenting age and what age is the legal age.

Now for my answer, I think the right age to have sex is indeterminable. You have pointed out that the human body is capable of sexual functions at really young ages (I believe this because it's been proven in history that sex have occurred as early as between 12-14 year olds legally, because of early/arranged marriages and shorter life expectancy). Because of that, what measurable age to have sex becomes an invalid question to me.

A better question to me is, when are the individual's mindset and maturity at a point where he/she can engage in sex, in a knowledgeably responsible and intimately sacred manner with regards to risks and consequences?

That question answers itself, it depends on the individual's (not the minorities, adults, girl/boy, or whatever group as a whole) mental understanding and development in regards to sex (for lack of a broader term than "sex").

I say this to everybody, because... I've made mistakes in my past, and I still ponder if it's regret or not. Looking back on it, it's easy to make lifelong mistakes concerning sex, and yes, it can hurt a lot. The mistakes are real, the regrets are real, and the impact on your life from those is much larger and stronger than you originally think. And it irks me to no end that there are some people (much less minors) that disregard the true risks and consequences of sex, only to fall into these pits that I wonder if they can ever climb out of it for the rest of their lives.

The point I'm trying to make is, you have to be smart about sex, you have to learn to fear its repercussions as much as you love its joys and deepness, you have to take sex seriously, whether it's for fun or for passion. It's not a kid's game, it's so much more and only through knowing, understanding, and accepting its rules without breaking it, makes it an incredible and truly too-wonderful-to-make-into-words kind of game.

tl;dr Gotta be smart, mature, and responsible about sex, m'kay? :thumb: It makes for really great sex. I think I said too much there.

[Cucurbita]

Gosh, being 20 and a virgin, this thread kinda strikes me a bit.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it though.

[Chockeh]

I wouldn't say that age 18+ is the right time to have sex.
People that are 18 just go crazy in parties and all...
I guess it really depends if you are ready for it.

[Drifter]

Gosh, being 20 and a virgin, this thread kinda strikes me a bit.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it though.
I'm in the same boat as you pal

anyways, I see some pretty smart opinions in this thread.
in my opinion however, I believe kids should enjoy their youth and leave the highly emotional part of life for a later age :/
(but that's just my way of thinking...)

[starpaw7]

I don't think I could ever want such a thing :scare:

There is absolutely no need to do that to have a "good relationship" :what:


My opinion on the age of mind, also with someone you know for sure cares about your thoughts on this and not just for their own


But I don't much about these kind of things :fail2:

[Sleeperdial]

I think the right age is at least half way through puberty, about 15-16 for guys anyway. Sex isn't something that needs to be hidden and it isn't something that needs to be waited for, its written into your brain to want sex as a default.:lol: Either way sex means different things to different people, usually it means one of two things. 1:Its just an activity that doesn't really mean anything and feels hella good. or 2: It's a ceremonial communion of two people in love and it should be treated special. <(This can be on different levels though)
If its just an activity to you than by all means, do your xxx friends, but even if its special to you I don't think there needs to be an age cap, just wait to do it with someone who you really care about.

[Juno]

I think people underestimate the emotional attachment involved. For that reason I'm not really a fan of sex outside of a committed relationship. And by committed, I pretty much mean married. Anything less just isn't good enough for me...it doesn't make sense that someone can want sex but not want to actually be bound to each other since it seems to me that physical intimacy is more binding than a ceremony. Socially that precedent can be seen regarding the consummation of marriages where the ceremony isn't legal until they actually have sex.

Of course, there are edge cases where the people either don't believe in marriage (which is -always- suspicious) or can't get married.


Casual sex is like playing with a loaded gun. There're all manner of things that can screw you up for life for a moment's pleasure. Even if you dodge the stds and pregnancies you can't avoid the emotional impact. Whether you realize it or not your perspective on the matter has changed.

[Finnea]

I am certain at this point that the age in which you start to have sex depends on -you-. Most, if not all, of the opinions stated here vary upon definite age and normally our based on their opinion. Sex should be undertaken as an act to show love between people, may that be only one person or multiple. Sex is not something to be taken lightly, at least in my opinion, and it should not be treated as a reward of starting a relationship. Be sure that you love them, and be sure that they feel that way back.

[Chiri]

I want to say that sex should come naturally in a relationship when both parties are ready and have proper communication and protection-- but that opens up a lot of doors, to say, questions about minimum age and maturity.

There was a girl in my high school, who sincerely said things like, "I want to hurry up and get married, so I have have sex, and then, more sex."
And for a lot of people, that'd fall under the guidelines of waiting until being in a committed relationship marriage. But really? I doubt her emotional readiness. If the basis of a marriage is the desire to have sex, its as sham of a relationship as a one-night stand is.

On the flip side, I feel like it can be healthy to experiment and have sex with people that you do not intend on spending the rest of your life with (read: sex while dating). As a learning experience, and assuming full communication. Sex can be fun and there isn't a solid reason in my mind why you have to be lonely while waiting for Mr./Ms. Right.

edit: My own bg for 'reference': I wasn't remotely interested in sex or relationships past friendship until I was 19, when I found myself, puzzlingly, in a relationship. We waited until I wanted it, too, and sex ... Well. It changed everything and nothing about us being together.:tea:

[Shanghai]

At this age and time? Preferably in the late-LATE 20s and early-to-mid 30s, and when your relationship with another has gone over like 5 months or so to know each other completely. The thing is, if someone were to have sex and have a child in their teenage years, they would have a load of responsibility burdened on themselves, as they have to take care of the baby 24/7. Not to mention they don't have a job until they're 18 most likely, that adds to the burden and their parents will most likely be in awe or shock at their son or daughter already having a child before they even finish college or something. The baby causes the teens to stop going to school to take care of the baby, and end up not getting a good education to get a good job, thereby worsening their life even more. Baby and the parents. You can't really risk it with safe sex since there's still a chance of having a baby sprout up. Best to practice abstinence until your relationship is really, really, deep. Then consider it with family(Note the consider part, not "LESH DO IT").

And sex and lust isn't the only thing in a relationship. People these days usually think that, which is extremely wrong in my book.

Me? I lean towards being single.

[Tedio]

Yea, Im staying the hell away for sex.

Even if I do decide to, I don't even think 6 months is enough.

[Kazuni]

Whenever you can sit down with the other party and have a sober serious conversation about it.

Which is awkward sounding as it is :>

[Phunkie]

Whenever you can sit down with the other party and have a sober serious conversation about it.

Which is awkward sounding as it is :>

You know what surprises me about some couples?

Some of them actually get awkward with each other...

My idea of a real, solid relationship is being able to take a crap in the bathroom and not getting embarrassed if my significant other walks in to wash his hands. You know?

People think relationships are darn simple. Well, it's not if you're not comfortable with each other.

Like, some people would die if they accidentally farted in front of their SO because it's so "embarrasing."

lmao

[dasu]

I don't think you can put a physical age on the "right time" for sex. Even a minimum is too imposing; barring physical impossibility. However, the important deciding factor should be responsibility. I don't really care to bring up the relationship status side of this. That's something for individuals to worry about. But if you boil this problem down to its core, it's only a problem because some people get hurt. So, if people have some show of responsibility for their actions, I see no reason to disallow sexual activity. Think of it like playing contact sports; if you don't wear protective gear or play in unsafe conditions, and you get hurt, you should be responsible. Except that when it comes to sex, your injuries are probably going to be pathological or emotional. And to help people be responsible, I think sexual education should start at a much younger age, so that regardless of how someone develops mentally or physically, they're aware of the goods and the bads of having sex. It could go a long way.

[Finnea]

I don't think you can put a physical age on the "right time" for sex. Even a minimum is too imposing; barring physical impossibility. However, the important deciding factor should be responsibility. I don't really care to bring up the relationship status side of this. That's something for individuals to worry about. But if you boil this problem down to its core, it's only a problem because some people get hurt. So, if people have some show of responsibility for their actions, I see no reason to disallow sexual activity. Think of it like playing contact sports; if you don't wear protective gear or play in unsafe conditions, and you get hurt, you should be responsible. Except that when it comes to sex, your injuries are probably going to be pathological or emotional. And to help people be responsible, I think sexual education should start at a much younger age, so that regardless of how someone develops mentally or physically, they're aware of the goods and the bads of having sex. It could go a long way.

That is such a nice metaphor. Love it.

[Phunkie]

I don't think you can put a physical age on the "right time" for sex. Even a minimum is too imposing; barring physical impossibility. However, the important deciding factor should be responsibility. I don't really care to bring up the relationship status side of this. That's something for individuals to worry about. But if you boil this problem down to its core, it's only a problem because some people get hurt. So, if people have some show of responsibility for their actions, I see no reason to disallow sexual activity. Think of it like playing contact sports; if you don't wear protective gear or play in unsafe conditions, and you get hurt, you should be responsible. Except that when it comes to sex, your injuries are probably going to be pathological or emotional. And to help people be responsible, I think sexual education should start at a much younger age, so that regardless of how someone develops mentally or physically, they're aware of the goods and the bads of having sex. It could go a long way.

I definitely agree. The "right time" depends on the individual(s).

I guess I just wanted to read all of your responses, as I myself don't believe that many kids bear that knowledge and responsibility for sex at such young ages. As I mentioned already, I wouldn't want a kid of mine doing it at age 12 or 13.

I don't think most kids at that age would show responsibility for their actions. If they did, I wouldn't have a problem with it. There's always exceptions though and I'm aware of that.

Last, I do agree with giving sexual education to children at young ages so they can be better prepared for what's out there.

Nonetheless, the only way you learn in life is through experience. It's just up to us to make sure that our kids and younger brothers and sisters (and whoever) have a safe and smart experience.

[Hiccup]

I think you should only have sex when you are truly in love with someone. It has to feel right for both of you or it is a bad idea. I learned about the love making parts in 5th grade. It was part of the curriculum for health and is taught every year.

[Finnea]

I think you should only have sex when you are truly in love with someone. It has to feel right for both of you or it is a bad idea. I learned about the love making parts in 5th grade. It was part of the curriculum for health and is taught every year.

Slightly offtopic question, did the school try to make it seem like it was an "inappropriate" urge?

[Phunkie]

I think you should only have sex when you are truly in love with someone. It has to feel right for both of you or it is a bad idea. I learned about the love making parts in 5th grade. It was part of the curriculum for health and is taught every year.

I never was taught sex-ed. @_@

Everything I know has been through the internet and friends.

It's quite sad actually.

Every kid should be taught sex-ed.

[Daccat]

We gots taught about it in biology classes quite a bit. :3

[Hiccup]

Slightly offtopic question, did the school try to make it seem like it was an "inappropriate" urge?
We didn't learn what they did together. That was learned elsewhere, just what the parts did. Names, where they were on the body. They didn't tell us that the one was put in the other to make babies.

I never was taught sex-ed. @_@

Everything I know has been through the internet and friends.

It's quite sad actually.

Every kid should be taught sex-ed.
Mandatory in health :x

[Okami]

I had a sex-ed in Jr. High.

It was more of a Beware of the consequences and use protection.

[Rose]

This is my opinion, and my opinion alone.

Whenever, the hell you want to.

[Phunkie]

This is my opinion, and my opinion alone.

Whenever, the hell you want to.

Age 7 sound good?

[Hiccup]

This is my opinion, and my opinion alone.

Whenever, the hell you want to.
Birth!?

[Tedio]

haha, reminds me of this one time when some people found out that a kid at my school had condoms.
They overreacted but I just laughed and said "what, you expect him not to use them?"

[Rose]

Age 7 sound good?


Birth!?


Lets not be silly >:l

Anywhozzle, just meant if you want to have it, and shes game....go crazy! Just make sure she doesnt die halfway through

[Cannibal]

haha, reminds me of this one time when some people found out that a kid at my school had condoms.
They overreacted but I just laughed and said "what, you expect him not to use them?"
This happened in my middle school with a girl. A teacher suspected she was carrying cigarettes and searched her bag, with her consent, of course. She didn't find cigarettes, but she found condoms, and she got in trouble for it and they were taken away. When she all told us about it, we thought it was the stupidest thing ever. They thought they were going to prevent her from having sex, when all they were doing was making it more of a risk.

[Finnea]

This happened in my middle school with a girl. A teacher suspected she was carrying cigarettes and searched her bag, with her consent, of course. She didn't find cigarettes, but she found condoms, and she got in trouble for it and they were taken away. When she all told us about it, we thought it was the stupidest thing ever. They thought they were going to prevent her from having sex, when all they were doing was making it more of a risk.

That's.. my god. Idiots. It's something to advocate, people these days.

[Cannibal]

That's.. my god. Idiots. It's something to advocate, people these days.
Exactly. I swear, people don't think as deep as they should.

On a side note...

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Really? >:|

[Finnea]

mabination i want sex with saani
Yeah, your point?

[Cannibal]

Perverted little freaks >:|

[Finnea]

Perverted little freaks >:|

/rejected. who cares, not your user name anyway.

[Cannibal]

I am Saani. D:

[Finnea]

I am Saani. D:

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[IceBlade]

This happened in my middle school with a girl. A teacher suspected she was carrying cigarettes and searched her bag, with her consent, of course. She didn't find cigarettes, but she found condoms, and she got in trouble for it and they were taken away. When she all told us about it, we thought it was the stupidest thing ever. They thought they were going to prevent her from having sex, when all they were doing was making it more of a risk.


That's.. my god. Idiots. It's something to advocate, people these days.

I think teachers have a really hard job when it comes to sex-education. They have to teach kids about safer-sex, without influencing them to have sex at an early age. How and where do you draw the line. Because it's easy for us to say that it should be determent by the individuals maturity, but how do you implement that into rules that have to be applied consequently to all pupils.


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Can be changed if you bribe the mod lol

[Finnea]

Can be changed if you bribe the mod lol

Or if you pay, and uhh. I know =3 and exactly my point. SAANI DOES NOT EXIST. Also I'm a teacher, and you can't stop them from having sex. what I took from that was, HAHA! NOW YOU CAN'T HAVE SAFE SEX! But wait you can just have sex anyway.

[IceBlade]

Sure you can't stop them and their actions might have cause her to have unprotected sex. But doing nothing would have sent the message that the school condones it. I honestly don't know where one should draw that line. lol

But I also see that her having the condoms does show some form of responsibility and maturity. Even though she might have wanted to have sex at a young age, she was responsible enough to want to do it safely.

Tough choice, but the sad thing is that keeping the parents happy is more important to schools than the kids. So you'll always see this kind of action taken by schools.

[Finnea]

/teacher? It's up to the teacher unless it's taken higher and made a larger deal than it should be. Even at that level it should have just been taken away, no other punishments. It's not like having condoms means your going to have sex either, you know.

[Daccat]

What's wrong with condoms... We've actually been given condoms twice from school. ._.

[Finnea]

What's wrong with condoms... We've actually been given condoms twice from school. ._.

middle school though, and my old highschool I worked at in NY gave out condoms like candy.

[Rose]

middle school though, and my old highschool I worked at in NY gave out condoms like candy.

Condom candy, Taaasstyyyy

[Cannibal]

/teacher? It's up to the teacher unless it's taken higher and made a larger deal than it should be. Even at that level it should have just been taken away, no other punishments. It's not like having condoms means your going to have sex either, you know.
Why would you take them away, though? What if the girl was in a sexual relationship, and those were the only condoms she both had and had access to? Taking condoms away won't stop her from having sex, so now she's having unprotected sex because her protection was taken away.

[Finnea]

Why would you take them away, though? What if the girl was in a sexual relationship, and those were the only condoms she both had and had access to? Taking condoms away won't stop her from having sex, so now she's having unprotected sex because her protection was taken away.

well the schools public image >w< hate it when schools over-publisize. I like the small management ones

[Rose]

Looooollll Saaaanniiii i love your new name

[Cannibal]

well the schools public image >w< hate it when schools over-publisize. I like the small management ones
Imho, taking the condoms away creates a bad public image.

[Rose]

Imho, taking the condoms away creates a bad public image.

Do you supply condoms fro your school?

[Cannibal]

Do you supply condoms fro your school?
Why would I supply condoms for 1,000 people? It isn't my job.

[Rose]

Why would I supply condoms for 1,000 people? It isn't my job.

Lies

[Tiiria]

I find it odd that alternative sexual acts haven't been mentioned in this entire thread. You're leaving out oral and mutual masturbation and such. The unwanted pregnancy part of it is taken care of with that.

I know a guy, the smartest guy I know, who knew all about sex when he was eight and started doing sexual things with one of his friends not long after that because he understood what it was and the risks and things and he was already more mature than most high schoolers and he had been friends with that kid for his entire life and wanted the pleasure from it. He has a freakishly high sex drive...

Anyway, you should only do anything sexual with people you know and love and only after you're aware of EVERYTHING about sex. Not just the stupid abstinence-only crap they teach at my school where they show us a bunch of disgusting pictures of STIs and some lady giving birth and say "THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE SEX", but the stuff about condoms and birth control pills and other contraception and alternatives to actual sex that have a much lower risk and may actually give more pleasure than sex itself. The age itself doesn't really matter, but you have to be mentally ready for it.

Sex sex, though, should wait until you can support a child. I say should, though, not it HAS to wait. If you can be very responsible about it and use a condom and only do it on a safe day and use birth control too (which is pretty much total overkill), then you can be a little lenient.

[Chiri]

Sex sex, though, should wait until you can support a child.

Lesbian sex, my anti-protection.

[Tiiria]

Lesbian sex, my anti-protection.

That works too. I was referring to penis-in-vagina sex when I said "sex sex", though. Because it's the one that gives a risk of pregnancy and what most people think of when sex is mentioned.

[Virtue]

I had sex ed at school when I was 12.

It was glorious.