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Phunkie wrote on 2010-11-16 18:34
I was thinking about this the other day when I read this article about a husband who kept secrets from his wife.
Is it wrong to forbid your significant other from knowing your password to, let's say, your email?
Similarly, would you be suspicious if your significant other was always careful with his or her phone? Careful as in, didn't want you to see the text messages or listen to the voicemails, etc.
What degree of privacy is required in a loving relationship before it becomes just plain suspicious?
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EndlessDreams wrote on 2010-11-16 19:02
It would really depend on their "terms" of relationship. It isn't something you can easily say that it is wrong or right.
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-11-16 19:02
What would be your "terms," for example?
I just wanna get a few opinions.
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Teaberry wrote on 2010-11-16 19:13
I don't have a problem with someone going through my phone. Nor do I really have a problem with someone reading my email... but actually knowing what my passwords are is crossing the line to me. They're used to identify a person. My significant other isn't me, so she shouldn't really have that knowledge.
If they were especially careful with the messages they were receiving I may get a bit suspicious, but in the end I'd trust them. If I couldn't trust them, I don't think there's a point in me dating them.
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Athde wrote on 2010-11-16 20:30
Quote from Teaberry;217646:
I don't have a problem with someone going through my phone. Nor do I really have a problem with someone reading my email... but actually knowing what my passwords are is crossing the line to me. They're used to identify a person. My significant other isn't me, so she shouldn't really have that knowledge.
If they were especially careful with the messages they were receiving I may get a bit suspicious, but in the end I'd trust them. If I couldn't trust them, I don't think there's a point in me dating them.
^This is my thoughts exactly.
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Chihaya wrote on 2010-11-16 20:51
Quote from Teaberry;217646:
I don't have a problem with someone going through my phone. Nor do I really have a problem with someone reading my email... but actually knowing what my passwords are is crossing the line to me. They're used to identify a person. My significant other isn't me, so she shouldn't really have that knowledge.
If they were especially careful with the messages they were receiving I may get a bit suspicious, but in the end I'd trust them. If I couldn't trust them, I don't think there's a point in me dating them.
Pretty much what I want to say =/
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Adelynn wrote on 2010-11-16 21:46
I don't think people should do things that gets in the way of building trust, especially if they really mean that much to each-other. They shouldn't get in the way of each-others' enjoyment of things. Zid and I have each-other's in-game information, but it's not like either of us is going to abuse it. Like Teaberry said: If you don't trust that person, why are you going out with them?
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Cucurbita wrote on 2010-11-16 21:48
Password is fine. I have nothing to hide right?
But then at the same time my waifu/girlfriend should respect that and shouldn't have to put my password to use unless its in order to do something FOR me or it is in a case of emergency, not because they don't trust me and need to track through my emails.
Individuality is what makes us who we are, so a line of privacy is necessary. But I don't mind letting everything off my chest to someone who has vowed to be my lover.
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Ruquion wrote on 2010-11-16 22:29
If they're demanding it, then definitely not.
If I've been with her for a long time and know I can trust her, then I will.
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Zid wrote on 2010-11-17 04:40
Giving my information like that away means I trust my partner to not use that information against me.
Best way I can put it.