Do you ever stop loving someone?

• Phunkie wrote on 2010-12-09 19:13
  I talked to a friend of mine last night, for the first time in a month. We talked for an hour or so.
  
  I remember used to have the biggest crush on him for years. haha I think I wrote about him here before. We're still pretty close friends.
  
  He's seeing someone now and they're pretty darn cute together. I'm happy for him. :)
  
  
  But it made me raise this question.
  
  Do you ever stop loving someone?
  
  Say you loved a girl for years and then you break-up, and you meet someone and you fall in love and get married.
  
  Or say your first husband dies and after years of suffering, you finally find the strength in you to move on and you happen to fall in love again with a good guy.
  
  Do you ever stop fully loving that first person you loved?
• Teaberry wrote on 2010-12-09 19:18
  Well, I think there's two types of love:
  There's loving someone and then there's being in love with someone
  
  I think the former, once you get there, you never lose that feeling. They're like family to you and you love them through the good and the bad. Unless you have bad relations with your family, then that analogy won't work at all.
  
  But from your examples I think you're referring to the latter, which I believe can stop. Circumstances change, people change, feelings change... and at the end of it all you don't think you want to spend your entire life with that person. You might not hate that person, hell, you might love them in the first sense of the word... but you're not in love with them anymore.
• Zid wrote on 2010-12-09 19:26
  Ah... I can't say there was anything I could do to prevent the loss with that girl. It was unfortunate that the loss was only because of circumstances.
  
  From the depths, I have the memories and the feelings that were present during those times. I don't think I can forget them.
  
  But here I am today. With someone else I love equally (or more? It's hard for me to tell with love). There are some people who can't move on and forget though. I understand that too.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-12-09 19:28
  I never thought of it that way. Loving and in being love as two different things.
  
  I like that. :)
• Adelynn wrote on 2010-12-09 19:38
  It's one of those that probably depends on the person. I'm probably someone who can let go of people more easily than others, although I don't really do it on purpose. I think that may have been the difference in my first relationship. In the end, I still loved him, but I wasn't IN love with him, and thinking back on it, there is a very noticeable difference between my two relationships.
• Haydrian wrote on 2010-12-11 02:00
  When you fall in love so hard you want nothing more than for that person to be happy and that you know in your heart that you will try and protect them until your dying day. When you have been away from that person for years and their name still stops your heartbeat, then you know you will never stop loving that person. If you want to know how long you can love someone try the test of father time and you will see just how much you care about that person but only after a lifetime of either being together or being apart will you actually know for sure.
  
  That's just me though.
• Akemii wrote on 2010-12-11 02:02
  Yeah remember the girl I told you about Joel? The one in Brasil, well she's with someone right now and I'm super happy for her, because all I want her to be is happy. I still do love her though, so I guess I get what you're saying. :3