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iPod wrote on 2010-12-26 21:30
Who should say it first in a relationship?
In general, I say "I love you" a lot, to anyone who I actually love. I end every conversation with my parents with that, I end every conversation with my girlfriends like that, it's just how it goes.
Because if I didn't say it, what if something happened to them or me and it was left unsaid? I want to make things clear and I don't like leaving it vague if there is a real connection.
I love you isn't something that should be said too strategically. It's something that should be a bit more mature than Politics. So, that's my take.
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hengsheng120 wrote on 2010-12-26 21:54
you should only say it if 1)you think the other will say it to you too at the time you say it to him/her in the same manner 2) you say it in a playful way when he/she gives you pleasantness/satisfaction
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TA wrote on 2010-12-26 22:04
I dunno, I don't like saying it if you aren't entirely sure you mean it yet, but I don't know of a non-creepy way of casually saying you like them (other than that).
And... it doesn't matter who says it first. Doesn't even matter if anyone says it. It's the feelings that matter.
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PandaSong wrote on 2010-12-26 22:24
I don't think it really matters who says it first, as long as you mean it. I personally have the "I love you" to my parents/family/pets, a different "I love you" to friends (it's more playful).. and the I love you to the special someone. And I will say it to whoever, as long as I know that I love them.
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Teaberry wrote on 2010-12-27 02:27
I generally don't say it. I just express it in what I do. I feel that the word has way too much power in the relationship once it's said.
That being said I don't think it should be mentioned until both sides of the relationship are showing love and affection in everything they do together. It doesn't really matter who says it first. It's more of a when.