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Minuki wrote on 2011-02-14 17:01
S'up Nation, I'm curious.
1. Have you ever been in one?
2. Would you consider being in one?
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
5. How long did it last?
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
My answers:
I have never considered being in one before; I'd always thought the concept of e-dating was stupid and pathetic, and I feel bad now to say that back then, I actually judged people who were in one. Then I actually met someone, and that changed my entire outlook, and now I an involved in one myself. As much as I like him, it sucks that we can only talk online since we live SO FAR AWAY from one another (me in Ontario, him in California), and money, school, and parents are both huge issues impeding our ability to meet irl. Because of this factor, I don't know if this would work out. Is it worth it to continue it, knowing the possibility that it could be years before we could actually meet? It's been 6 months so far.
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Cynic wrote on 2011-02-14 17:05
[FONT=Arial]1. Have you ever been in one?
Yessir. The majority of mine were, actually.
2. Would you consider being in one?
Right now? Uh.. probably not.
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
The people I've dated online before, yes. But only two of them.
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
lolol. I did before, yes. But not with those people. I did it via roleplay.
5. How long did it last?
My longest lasted 3 months.
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
tl;dr; after f-cking with my mind she cut all ties with me and left. I didn't see her again for nearly a year.
And that's just one of them. 8D The other one I actually cared about nearly did worse.
(FFF THIS PINK FONT. But I'm lazy. QQ)
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Bride wrote on 2011-02-14 17:05
1) yes, my one and only relationship
3) he's visiting me on my birthday to propose hellz yeah
4) obv
5) almost 4 years so far
and i'd say hang in there. i have for a few years and i have no regrets
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Cynic wrote on 2011-02-14 17:10
To answer your question.. Honestly, online relationships are like taking care of a pet. You have to feed it, give it love and look after it, or it will cause hell. Not to mention it may not always work out..
If you are both dedicated and willing to maintain the relationship, then there is a good chance it will work. (Ignoring other uncontrollable factors) Honestly, real life relationships are a lot better in that aspect. But sadly, it's hard to meet someone to truly care for in this world. Especially someone who happens to live in your area.
The only two people I have ever cared enough for to say I loved were girls I met online. Do I regret it? No. Do I think it's silly? No. Love knows no bounds, not even distance.
But it is always a challenge. Do what you think is right. If you deem it worth putting effort into, then do so.
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-02-14 17:16
1. Have you ever been in one?
*points to Zid*
2. Would you consider being in one?
*see above* I wasn't actually
expecting it to happen. It just did and here we are. 8D;
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
Plan to. QQ
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
YOU GUYS CAN THINK WHAT YOU WANT.
5. How long did it last?
This question is really funny if you read it right after the previous one.
We're getting close to two years. >w<
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
I HOPE nothing bad happens. x.e
I'd say hang in there. It's hard not seeing each-other but at the same time, it's worth it.
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otto wrote on 2011-02-14 17:38
1. Have you ever been in one?
Nope
2. Would you consider being in one?
One day, sure. Ive met a number of really good friends online, so im sure it wouldnt be too different with a steady relationship (as far as meeting someone and getting close)
the rest of the questions make no sense to answer xD
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Taycat wrote on 2011-02-14 17:40
Quote from Adelynn;335906:
YOU GUYS CAN THINK WHAT YOU WANT.
ohbby lynn....
1. Have you ever been in one?
4 or 5 I think....
2. Would you consider being in one?
...yes
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
I did once....
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
ugh, this one bastard.....
5. How long did it last?
They usually last about 6 months. One I had lasted a year and a half...
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
...Well we were never on at the same time anymore....
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Herro wrote on 2011-02-14 18:23
1. Have you ever been in one?
Plenty. Majority of my relationships were online ones.
2. Would you consider being in one?
Yes
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
I met two gfs irl. Im not mentioning names since i know one of them will kill me...
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
Yep.
5. How long did it last?
Longest relationship lasted....2 years.
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
Various things, most reasons relationships don't work out for me is that im not willing to give everything so easily. I know it sounds mean but for most women i experience they would want at least a certain amount of things from you or you aren't that useful. Then again these are based off my experiences (only one gf i ever had didn't dump me because i didn't provide them with enough items/gold/ect)
P.S. Minuki you're adorable formaking this topic, remind me to message you later XD
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Wing wrote on 2011-02-14 19:53
1.Yes
2.Yes
3.Met because we went to same school.. but that was my ex.
4. Yes
5. Few months..3?
6.Friends...?
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manasou wrote on 2011-02-14 20:09
1. Have you ever been in one?
Yes.
2. Would you consider being in one?
Maybe not for awhile after my current one.
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
Yes a few times.
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
No, not seriously.
5. How long did it last?
It's present and has been going for 5 or 6 years.
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
We'd leave and stop talking.
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Shirayuki wrote on 2011-02-14 20:26
1. No.
2. No.
3. No.
4. I "coughcybercough" to annoy they hell out of every person I know. But no.
5. Never started.
6. Refer to all the no's.
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Minuki wrote on 2011-02-14 20:42
Quote from Cynic;335901:
Love knows no bounds, not even distance.
I like this.
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Mama wrote on 2011-02-14 21:12
online relationships have the same potential for shallowness as real life tends to be, especially with online mmos where people can pay money to buy each other items.
it really is the same as dating a person .. well, in person, except it's easy to feel lonely without hearing them, or holding them, or at a more mature age making love to them. It's definitely harder to make it work especially if you're young, live with a strict family or don't exactly have the courage to lift your roots and travel to a new country or state/province to live with them as it is quite risky. you can visit each other now and then at least, which makes encounters just so much more emotional and valuable.
basically, it's a much more difficult to work out so it requires a lot of dedication on both sides. but it can and does work out for many people, so be optimistic <3
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Motemote wrote on 2011-02-14 22:01
1. Have you ever been in one?
Too many to count, all failures. First cut is the deepest if it's your first ever relationship. Could probably write a book.
2. Would you consider being in one?
QED, If I could go back, I'd tell myself don't do it.
3. Have you ever met irl or plan to?
Never met / pictures / cam only, but the pain of loss was definitely real in a relationship that can be said to exist or not exist.
4. Did you ever /coughcyber/cough?
You can only cyber so much before things get so generic it's no longer fun. c2c / phone / voice is much better than pure text..
5. How long did it last?
Average 4-6 Months.
6. If it didn't work out, what happened?
Love is just an inconvenience when you have this kind of distance. Granted, there are successful ones, but these are FAR AND FEW IN BETWEEN.
It's all about chemistry.. and when you're doing it online, without the irl aspect, you're your own chemistry and that really messes up your perspective.
if you've exhausted your irl resources for relationships, and/or you are socially challenged, If you're gonna try it, keep your guard up.
Good for finding friends yes, but don't expect it past that, because misery loves company.
As long as both of you are in sync within that zone that pushes "future together" then you should be fine but if and only if you've met IRL and that doesn't crash and burn.
Online Relationship means nothing because once you bring the IRL aspect into it.. it can end up a huge mess because we paint ourselves a picture of our SO (Significant Other) to be a certain way and when you see them irl and it doesn't meet that expectation, it's just downhill from there.
If you seriously want to make it work.. don't have expectations and focus only on the up times... because there are ups and downs, and the more you realize you're at a disadvantage of distance, those down times are going to feel like chasms.
Depending on the girl/guy, but unless the guy screws up somehow, the girl probably has the advantage because there are far more lonely guys than girls... so imo, it's really up to the girl if the relationship sticks. Chances are if you've met IRL already, you're no longer an OR but an LDR (Long Distance) which has better chances at success since you've got that first real memory..
Worst things to probably say is "I wish we were together." especially if you've never been together irl before..
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Skye wrote on 2011-02-14 22:08
I've never been in an online relationship. I don't think the idea of one is bad though. It all depends on a person's outlook.