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Time wrote on 2011-02-17 21:42
Okay, today my friend and I wound up on the topic of Emma Watson, then some other topics, then the argument of if you can choose to love someone.
He said that you choose who and when you love someone.
I said you dont really choose to love someone, you dont just decide, Im going to love this person, you fall in love, maybe you choose in your subconscious, but you dont actively choose to be in true love.
What do you think?
And this isnt a homosexuality thing either, this is EVERYONE, just one person loving another person.
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Tatsu wrote on 2011-02-17 21:46
You can't really force yourself to love someone. You can try. You hang out with them for a while and hope you fall in love with them, but you can't forcefully love them.
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Edeott wrote on 2011-02-17 21:51
When you find the special someone, you'll know. It may not be "Love at first sight" like the movies make it out to be, though. It may take weeks, months, even years to realize that they're the right person. But something WILL emerge between the two of you, and will evolve into a bond that cannot be separated.
...Unless you're single. In which case, you've always got my love. Unless you're evil...
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otto wrote on 2011-02-17 21:52
Loving someone isnt something you just decide. It's something you realize over time.
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Shirayuki wrote on 2011-02-17 21:57
Yeah, Love is more of a natural thing. Sure, you can try to make yourself fall in Love, but you can't completely do it by yourself.
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Joker wrote on 2011-02-17 21:58
This may be dumbed down and sad... but In cases that I've gone over love in a good chance that its more like an addiction to the other persons actions or movements and when you lose out on those for a time (depends on the person) you so call.. Fall out of love.. it was described like this by a quantum physics movie known as "What the bleep do we know"
they way I talk about it is simple... but its allot more complicated than that...
it has allot to do with our err forgot the gland that produces the hormones/Peptides of emotions
anyways the brain links neural pathways with addiction and stuff like that hence.. smoking drinking sex addictions etc..
anyways they form over time and when they do their hard to break... when they do... they can sometimes change and hence a loss of a addiction etc.. thats another way its described I sugguest watching the movie its an interesting topic and many more things in it that the most average person couldn't understand (hard for me to understand it so i had to watch it a few times).
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Bride wrote on 2011-02-17 22:23
Quote from otto;339344:
Loving someone isnt something you just decide. It's something you realize over time.
i like this :D
and yeah i don't think you can just choose to love someone, it happens naturally
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Cynic wrote on 2011-02-17 22:54
It's impossible to choose to love someone. You can choose someone and strive to love them, but you can't actually force yourself to love a person.
If that were true, I wouldn't fall for all the wrong people. -scoff-
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pinkkea wrote on 2011-02-17 23:11
I wish I could choose who I feel like falling for...
But no, I have to notice only those who need a reminder that I exist. >___>
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otto wrote on 2011-02-17 23:16
Quote from Cynic;339391:
It's impossible to choose to love someone. You can choose someone and strive to love them, but you can't actually force yourself to love a person.
If that were true, I wouldn't fall for all the wrong people. -scoff-
Poor bby -petpet-
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Medusa wrote on 2011-02-17 23:17
i don't think you can make yourself fall in love with someone, but i think you can increase your chances, so to speak.
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Leopher wrote on 2011-02-17 23:22
Quote from Time;339334:
Okay, today my friend and I wound up on the topic of Emma Watson, then some other topics, then the argument of if you can choose to love someone.
He said that you choose who and when you love someone.
I said you dont really choose to love someone, you dont just decide, Im going to love this person, you fall in love, maybe you choose in your subconscious, but you dont actively choose to be in true love.
What do you think?
And this isnt a homosexuality thing either, this is EVERYONE, just one person loving another person.
I think a distinction needs needs to be made between love and affection. The two are closely related and because of this: they are often taken to be the same thing. I think you (and the majority of the people posting on this thread) are partially right about affection. We do not really choose who we feel affection towards, but we can suppress feelings of affection. I see actual love as a choice. Love involves giving of yourself and putting another's best interests before your own.
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Crimmy wrote on 2011-02-17 23:36
You can't choose your natural attraction.
You can choose what to do with it though.
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pinkkea wrote on 2011-02-17 23:43
Quote from Crimmy;339441:
You can't choose your natural attraction.
You can choose what to do with it though.
-raepface-
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Mama wrote on 2011-02-18 00:00
Quote from Joker;339350:
This may be dumbed down and sad... but In cases that I've gone over love in a good chance that its more like an addiction to the other persons actions or movements and when you lose out on those for a time (depends on the person) you so call.. Fall out of love.. it was described like this by a quantum physics movie known as "What the bleep do we know"
they way I talk about it is simple... but its allot more complicated than that...
it has allot to do with our err forgot the gland that produces the hormones/Peptides of emotions
anyways the brain links neural pathways with addiction and stuff like that hence.. smoking drinking sex addictions etc..
anyways they form over time and when they do their hard to break... when they do... they can sometimes change and hence a loss of a addiction etc.. thats another way its described I sugguest watching the movie its an interesting topic and many more things in it that the most average person couldn't understand (hard for me to understand it so i had to watch it a few times).
that's dopamine, sugar
it's the hormone that's responsible for making you addicted to another person, think of them all the time et cetera..
oxytocin the 'love' hormone.. keeps people bonded and affectionate
serotonin the feel good hormone. So many things in the brain that keep you 'in love' and dedicated to a person..
brains are fickle things. a lot of it is unconscious, perhaps 80%. there's only so much you're in control of.