Ok, I need to ask everyone a serious question....

• Mama wrote on 2011-02-18 17:32

  Quote from Drawinq;340308:

  if I fought back with my grandma I'd probably get my ass kicked out but it ain't even her house. @_@

  
  
  thats the thing with seniles, logic doesn't work.
  
  they just want to see you doing what they say, and it's often obnoxious.
  
  not that i've experienced it anyways. my not-immediate family is across the ocean and mostly dead.
• Yanm wrote on 2011-02-18 18:20
  I see. Thanks for the advice guys. For those that asked about my mom, she's 50 right now (Half way to 100 :D) and she is the EXACT opposite of my grandma. In fact, when I went to visit my mom in 6th grade, I had so much fun and it was such a change from......well, getting yelled at along with the complaining that I moved in with her. However, some unforseen circumstances caused us to have to move back with my grandma. My take on this is, when I came back and remembered how my grandmother was, I was a bit irritated that she couldn't be more like my mom, who has YARDS of patience. Anyway, she somewhat sides with me, as my grandmother can actually rid her of her patience, yet she doesn't curse....period. She does tell me to respect my grandmother though, and I honestly TRY to do it, but I'm probably lingering more on the past more than anything else =/. My grandmother is.....well, she'll be 84 years old this year, and she's pretty technology challenged, not understanding anything that we do today. She barely understands the computer at all really.
  
  @Chillax Thanks....no really, thank you for saying that. Normally, I'd take something like that as offensive, or if it was to someone else, I'd say that's harsh, but true. It IS hard to suck it up, I'll admit but....I only have a couple more months to deal with all of this and I DO want to leave on good terms. Now then....
  
  

  Quote from kNocturn;340228:

  You are being a douchebag.
  
  Who walks out of the room laughing at something like THAT?
  
  Seriously, what's wrong with you?
  
  I don't even do that to my mom.

  
  
  As far as this goes, I think I have an idea why I did that. That was the very first time I ever.....well, didn't walk away crying or anything from our arguements and I somewhat....won, if you may? Most of our arguements leave me feeling frustrated and crying over anger, or just feeling bad. I actually made her give up talking to me though, and it was.....a very shocking feeling as I'm used to her having the last word. What's wrong with me? I'm not sure if this is significant but....like I said with the crybaby thing, people teased me about it all the time, and of course whenever someone else tried to snap on me, they'd defend me. I know they were being nice and all, but it made me feel VERY powerless. I felt I'd never be able to fend for myself EVER! Then, I can never hold my own in an arguement as I'd just cry and nerd rage so easily. Everyone is different though, and my sensitivityness (did I spell that right?) has been a pet peeve of mine forever. I'd love to part with it, just so I could stop crying so easily, but if I discard it completely, I'll lose what I feel identifies myself as a human being. I'm thinking the bolded part won't make you see things my way, but.....well, that's all I can say. I'll try talking to her today and let you guys know the result. Right now, I should get back to this college application essay.
• whocares8128 wrote on 2011-02-18 20:09
  [SIZE="1"]"Sensitivity" is all you need for a noun.
  [/SIZE]
  I'm not sure that your grandmother understands the difference between real-time games (with no pause feature) and the kinds of games she plays (namely, solitaire). On top of what others have said, it might be beneficial for her to understand the nature of the game you're playing. Since it is a multi-player game (and not turn-based), you cannot simply put it on hold without creating a hardship for yourself or others in your group. Though she'll surely value your time spent playing less than that spent helping her, it may still help. I won't stop to answer the phone if I'm in the middle of a battle (and cannot pause the game), not even when I'm in the middle of playing a song on the piano.
  
  tl;dr Everyone has times when they can be interrupted, and others where they "must" first finish the task at hand.
• Wing wrote on 2011-02-18 20:11

  Quote from Mama;340312:

  thats the thing with seniles, logic doesn't work.
  
  they just want to see you doing what they say, and it's often obnoxious.
  
  not that i've experienced it anyways. my not-immediate family is across the ocean and mostly dead.

  
  
  Yea i get annoyed and when i talk back I get yelled at.. @_@ life sucks.
• paladin wrote on 2011-02-18 20:47

  Quote from kNocturn;340306:

  My dad is pretty hard on me, but he's never around except for certain weekends and certains nights until he goes to sleep.
  
  So I guess I'm lucky?
  
  Regardless, he should treat his parents and grandparents with respect.

  
  
  Buddy untill 2 parents who will murder you for a d or c who stay with you at all times please dont talk
  But yes try to respect your elders
  Id say man either ingore it and keep neutral with grandma till you move out
  Or be a suck up and make grandma love you till she dont care
  Unless shes one of those stubborn old hats who refuses to listen
  If thats the case just cool off and try to manage till you move out
• Cynic wrote on 2011-02-18 20:53

  Quote from kNocturn;340306:

  My dad is pretty hard on me, but he's never around except for certain weekends and certains nights until he goes to sleep.
  
  So I guess I'm lucky?
  
  Regardless, he should treat his parents and grandparents with respect.

  
  
  Then you're not really fit for this kind of subject, lol.
  Don't discuss it when you can't even relate to it.
• Adelynn wrote on 2011-02-19 15:55
  Personally, I think that adults need to realize that when people grow up, they realize that their parents aren't "god". They make mistakes, and we start to wonder why. My parents can actually be kind of hypocritical, and that's one of the things I can't stand in a person (myself included). They set up rules, then break it themselves, and when I ask them why, well, here are some possible answers:
  "Shut up. We're your parents."
  "We do what we want."
  ""We're older than you."
  
  To which I respond: "You realize you didn't actually answer the question but handed me excuses because you don't have an answer, right?"
  If they said "I was feeling lazy" I would have respected that answer more. An excuse isn't an answer to me, and it angers me that they treat me like a 5-year-old just because I still live with them. I still live with them because I'm doing what they want me to, too. Going to school.
  
  I also get that "do you love the computer more than us? you do don't you? Is the computer the reason you don't believe in god? blah blah!? It is! Everything is the computer's fault blah!"
  They don't listen to my actual reasons, and even when they do, they conveniently forget about them so they can use it against me again. I have gotten to points where I scream at them "when are you going to shut up and listen to me like you SAY you are doing instead of talking over me like you ALWAYS do?"
  
  I started losing faith before I even had an internet connection.
  I'm on the computer a lot because of the family, I'm the oddball. I don't think there's anyone that's into the stuff I am. I don't like dressing the way they do. I don't like parties much. Everyone always talks about things I don't care about. Online, I can go out and look for forums where people talk about what I like. I can relate to them more.
  
  Conversations with my parents are short and dull, or arguments, because we have hardly anything in common. I do respect them for everything they do for me, but I don't respect them when they do things I just can't wrap my brain around.
• otto wrote on 2011-02-19 20:21

  Quote from Adelynn:

  Personally, I think that adults need to realize that when people grow up, they realize that their parents aren't "god". They make mistakes, and we start to wonder why. My parents can actually be kind of hypocritical, and that's one of the things I can't stand in a person (myself included). They set up rules, then break it themselves

  
  
  That's one of my biggest things. I never tell anyone to do (or not do) anything i wouldn't do myself. And it seems to be the one thing my mom is good at doing Dx
• Mama wrote on 2011-02-19 21:22
  im just glad my parents recognize the fact that we have brains and we can think for ourselves; ironically the person I trust the most to make significant decisions is my older brother. Age does not bring wisdom in any sense of the word..
• Adelynn wrote on 2011-02-19 21:23
  I'm just hoping I don't end up being like my parents or I'll hate myself for it.