Parents these days...

• Hiccup wrote on 2011-07-14 08:21
  So according to my parents....
  
  Assumption l [SPOILER="Spoiler"]Explanation in spoiler[/SPOILER]
  
  I smoke pot all the time.[SPOILER="Spoiler"] l went out on a date and I came home around 12:30-ish. and I was super hungs so I put poptarts in to toaster and went and watched some tv. Now I was exhausted so I didn't bother getting up to eat em. So I just went upstairs to bed. Mom asks me in the morning if I was smoking pot last night. Obvious reaction is =____=[/SPOILER]
  
  I'm on steroids. [SPOILER="Spoiler"]So because I started working out I'm now on steroids. Yes, I have gained some muscle, thats perfectly normal considering I AM WORKING OUT. 1) I'm skinny as ****. So obviously not on steroids. When my mom asked me if I was I told her not that it would matter anyway my balls are so huge. She cringed. [/SPOILER]
  
  I'm working out to beat my dad up. [SPOILER="Spoiler"]My dad went psycho crazy nuts and ended up punching me in the back of the head, after kicking a hole in my door. (Loooong story will post in another thread) And not too soon after I started working out. Reasonable, but I have like 200 lbs. of muscle to gain before I can take my dad. Besides I don't want to. I told em if he hits me again I'm calling the cops, and my mom's gonna back me up on it. So bye-bye dad. [/SPOILER]
  
  I smoke to be cool. [SPOILER="Spoiler"]No I smoke because it started out as a fo ****z thing, then it was to calm my nerves/ stop me from doing something even stupider (Another looooong story). Now I'm just addicted soooooo that.[/SPOILER]
  
  I got a tattoo/got my ears pierced cause my best friend has em. [SPOILER="Spoiler"]I have wanted a tattoo and my ears pierced 2 years ago. After going to warped tour, and seeing some awesome tats. That was 1 year and 6 months before I met my friend.[/SPOILER]
  
  My parents are also constantly judging my friends, which is why I never bring em around. So apparently their all bad influences on me. Like their super ridiculous about it, and they wonder why I never bring em to my house when their around. My older sis told em that if they judged her friends the way they judge mine she wouldn't say names or bring em around either. [SPOILER="Spoiler"]Went to shady maple [http://shady-maple.com/smorgasbord] with a lady friend, and she ate 3 plates then desert and we went home and my mom asked me if she has an eating disorder, because apparently she was just picking at all her plates. I was sitting right next to her! And she did eat 2 full plates/half of her 3rd. + desert. Also above one. And "I'm trying to be just like my best friend".... which is just a retarded assumption. [/SPOILER]
  
  They are constantly checking my bank account to see how much money I'm using.
  [SPOILER="Spoiler"]When I got my tattoo I took out $100 before we went down to Jersey, then another $120 to pay for the tat, and I left my phone in the car cause it fell outta my pocket. We came back to the car at the end of the day and I had 15 missed calls from my mom and 8 txts from her as well. They said (in nicer wording) "Call me now, why did you spend $200 in one day, ima take your car keys and debit card if you dont call me". And since I'm never home now they wonder why I spend so much money. Gas, food, entertainment, clothes for work. That's pretty much where my money goes. Yet it's "too much".[/SPOILER]
  
  I was failing in high school cause I was "finding myself"
  [SPOILER="Spoiler"]I was failing high school because my parents moved us into some ****ty ass neighborhood, with a freaking terrorist that lived on main street. And because I couldn't talk to/see my close friends all the time, cause they took my phone for 6 months, lectured me every night after dinner, and threatened to kick me out at least 70 times and actually kicked me out (until my mom convinced my dad to let me back in) at least 20 times. And everyone up here is/was completely ****ing ridiculous. Ugh.... still hate it up here.[/SPOILER]
  
  And whenever I sleep over someone's house I'm automatically drinking.
  [SPOILER="Spoiler"]I told my mom that when I do drink enough I just sleep over instead of having to drive home wasted. Well that turned into ANY sleepover at my friends house means I'm drinking.[/SPOILER]
  
  I also have to be compared to someone else. Nothing I do is for me, because I want to do it. Has to be influenced or pushed onto me by a friend.
  [SPOILER="Spoiler"]ie: tattoo, ears piercing, smoking[/SPOILER]
  
  And they wonder why I'm never home. When my mom pissed me off the other night, I tried explaining the situation. Thats the mature way to handle it, right? Well me being mature turned out to be a huuuuuuge mistake on my part. It made the assumptions a whoooole loooooooooot worse.
  
  Finally got fed up and stormed out of my parents friends house (over there for dinner, lives 2 mins by car from us). Had to smoke 8 cigs to calm down, or I woulda done something I would've regretted. Reached out to my dad and he said that I need to deal with the situation and get over it because I'm under their rules. He also said that he wants my mom to push me away that way I come back more independent. I told em to ****ing watch me come back, if you push me away I'm gone and that's what your doing. He admitted that he doesn't always do whats best for me though. Think I impressed em throughout our texting (he was on a trip) so he called my mum.
  
  Nothings changed though. Mom's just as immature and ridiculous as ever. :l
  
  
  /end rant
• Phunkie wrote on 2011-07-14 08:29
  You could save so much more money if you didn't smoke so much; money you could use towards finally moving out.
• Hiccup wrote on 2011-07-14 08:33
  Only 2k a year. lol :x
  
  
  I'M IN NO POSITION TO STOP AT THIS TIME! But I can when I want to. It's still early on....say 11~12 months since I started seriously
• Phunkie wrote on 2011-07-14 08:35

  Quote from Hiccup;511969:

  Only 2k a year. lol :x
  
  
  I'M IN NO POSITION TO STOP AT THIS TIME! But I can when I want to. It's still early on....say 11~12 months since I started seriously

  
  
  But you're at the point where you need cigarettes to calm down when you're really stressed. It doesn't go uphill from there.
• Hiccup wrote on 2011-07-14 08:36
  If I can't immediately work out, yes. Rarity of me getting stressed enough to smoke alot not too high. Recently though....... >_>
  
  I'm not quitting anytime soon so shhhh. I'm well aware of the damages and costs and blah that it does. Only got lectured about it twice.
  
  
  [SIZE="1"]Mandatory 3-4 cigs a bottle, when I'm drinking though.[/SIZE]
• Phunkie wrote on 2011-07-14 08:42

  Quote from Hiccup;511972:

  If I can't immediately work out, yes. Rarity of me getting stressed enough to smoke alot not too high. Recently though....... >_>
  
  
  Mandatory 3-4 cigs a bottle, when I'm drinking though.

  
  
  It's not good for you. Not only are your parents harming you, but you're harming yourself.
  
  And you've been going through this family drama for months now. It's not gonna end soon if you don't take an initiative. It's gonna keep going on, you're gonna keep inhaling poison and things are not gonna change for you; unless you change it.
  
  Something that works for me when my parents are really pissy is that I try not to antagonize them at all. I don't talk back to them, I cut the sarcasm and I avoid them until things are a little bit better.
  
  I don't know the situation in your home, but if you know your parents are always like this, try not to antagonize them all the time.
  
  Your Mom says you smoke pot? Just say, "Nah, Mom. I really didn't smoke anything tonight," with a calm voice. If you respond with an attitude, things get worse for ya.
  
  It'll make your life easier.
  
  
  And you really should quit. You're young and you still have time.
  
  Doesn't get better from here on. And people care about you. Your friends, etc.
• Hiccup wrote on 2011-07-14 08:45
  I don't. I never ask for it. I never even start it. My mom's a 16 year old gossipy high schooler in her head. My dad's getting her.... well lets not talk about that.... so he obviously is choosing her side. Anytime it comes up I ignore it. Nothing changes. I walk away, continues when I least expect it.
• Phunkie wrote on 2011-07-14 08:50

  Quote from Hiccup;511980:

  I don't. I never ask for it. I never even start it. My mom's a 16 year old gossipy high schooler in her head. My dad's getting her.... well lets not talk about that.... so he obviously is choosing her side. Anytime it comes up I ignore it. Nothing changes. I walk away, continues when I least expect it.

  
  
  Then you gotta get out asap.
  
  That's what people said to you in the last family drama thread you posted a few months ago. Start saving money.
• Loopster wrote on 2011-07-14 08:51

  Quote from Hiccup;511969:

  Only 2k a year. lol :x
  
  
  I'M IN NO POSITION TO STOP AT THIS TIME! But I can when I want to. It's still early on....say 11~12 months since I started seriously

  
  
  So? It'll get worse. Then the next thing is you will have to get your chest ripped open! Maybe even take out a lung, or cut off your tongue. Fun, right? Now imagine all the people you smoke around, what if they smoked? What if they smoked twice as much as you? Yeah, you're killing others around you. It's an extremely selfish habit. I often hold my breath around smokers because I don't want me chest cut open and have my lung remove.d Nor do I want yellow, deformed teeth and wrinkles around my mouth and eyes, how unpleasant and ugly. This is even worse than cutting yourself, those cuts heal up, the gunk on your lungs, eyes, teeth and such don't. You're basically killing yourself slowly.
• Phunkie wrote on 2011-07-14 09:32
  Blah, I'm sorry if I seemed like I was lecturing you on things you may already know. It doesn't make your life any easier.
  
  Honestly though, some people just care about your well-being, that's why they get so riled up when they read things like...
  
  

  No I smoke because it started out as a fo ****z thing, then it was to calm my nerves/ stop me from doing something even stupider (Another looooong story). Now I'm just addicted soooooo that.

  
  
  I just fear for you. If you think your life is already bad, imagine if your health formed part of the equation as well; it wouldn't be pretty. Living for yourself and what makes you happy is one thing, but doing so without concern for yourself is another. It's selfish. Again, people care about you. I can't stress that enough.
  
  You deserve to live a peaceful life away from your folks, so focus on that now.
  
  And then after all has settled in your life, focus on wanting to quit smoking for yourself. People yelling at you doesn't make it better. But don't forget, they yell because they truly care.
  
  You can do it!
• Sleeperdial wrote on 2011-07-14 09:46
  I'm gonna have to join in with Phunk for this one. You need to quit the cigs. I probably can't say anything that he hasn't already said but you say you haven't been smoking long? Good, stop now. You've already done irreversible damage, its just a question of damage control. You claim you can stop anytime (like every smoker out there) look ahead a couple weeks into the future where you never even need to think about buying cigarettes again. You go through a little irritability, a little shakiness for about a week and its over, forever, as long as you just never pick up a smoke again. You could easily buy your way out of your house if you saved all that money on cigarettes.
• Sumpfkraut wrote on 2011-07-14 10:51
  "These days"? :lol:
• ♪★ Scandalous ☆ ♫ wrote on 2011-07-14 12:58
  Sounds like your parents aren't used to the notion that... kids do grow up, sooner or later.
  Some sooner than later.
• Jarvan IV wrote on 2011-07-14 13:20
  winners don't smoke they eat pizza, ask dante
• Joker wrote on 2011-07-14 13:34

  Quote from Hiccup;511969:

  Only 2k a year. lol :x
  
  
  I'M IN NO POSITION TO STOP AT THIS TIME! But I can when I want to. It's still early on....say 11~12 months since I started seriously

  
  
  your a cool guy and I feel bad for your situation but THIS statement...
  I heard it more then a million times from friends that smoke...
  It wont happen...