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Justin1221 wrote on 2011-07-23 00:19
Don't get me wrong. I don't have anything against people who like to be in them or even get married. Heck, I even plan to get a girlfriend some day soon...or later.
It's just, in a day and age in which divorce rates are at an all-time high, the behaviors at least some people tend to have a lot (I guess like clubbing, hooking up, I guess talking about it, something?), when you got condoms, the pill and vaccines, you have people cheating and doing other bad things as far as love and sex goes, promiscuous and sexually outrageous behaviors and is being more and more accepted and even encouraged and people talking about how "love is dead in the world", it makes me wonder:
What causes at least some people, good, bad or in between to have such a strong desire to find one ideal person for them and keep them to themselves and have this special level of relations that only those two people have?
In short: Why do people still prefer to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in a time in the world in which whoring about is popular and non-too-risky?
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BobYoMeowMeow wrote on 2011-07-23 00:24
The reasons vary
Some people want a relationship because they feel lonely
and by lonely, the cat means the lack of a best friend
In Cucurbita's case, ronery
doesnt matter how much friends (speaking in general here)
best friend is better
Alphas want more bragging rights.
the cat's being vague because the cat doesn't really know the answer.
The cat has a best friend :3
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TA wrote on 2011-07-23 00:24
It makes people feel not alone in the world. It's also our instinctual drive to find a mate and procreate.
That, and well... it's nice to have someone to have sex with.
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Time wrote on 2011-07-23 00:38
Quote from Justin1221;523112:
Don't get me wrong. I don't have anything against people who like to be in them or even get married. Heck, I even plan to get a girlfriend some day soon...or later.
What causes at least some people, good, bad or in between to have such a strong desire to find one ideal person for them and keep them to themselves and have this special level of relations that only those two people have?
In short: Why do people still prefer to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in a time in the world in which whoring about is popular and non-too-risky?
This is my opinion on the matter, the idea that there is one person well, just someone special, someone who likes you for you, and you like them for them...its just amazing..someone who, you believe you can trust with your life, someone you would do anything for, its so wonderful, nothing else matters, in my mind at least, its enough to get me through any hardship, any day, knowing that I love someone and that they love me, the fact that I never get bored when im with her, also, I feel so safe...I mean, yeah she could just be a friend, but I dont think of her as just a friend, I love her, and I want to be with her, I want to tell her that I love her, pretty much I can care for her, and show her how much I care better if shes my girlfriend, so shes my girlfriend.
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Justin1221 wrote on 2011-07-23 01:31
Ah, ok. Sometimes I forget. It kinda makes me think of this song.
'Cause even when your hustling days are gone,
She'll be by your side, still holding on
Even when those twenties stop spinning
And all those gold-diggin' women disappear, she'll still be here
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Nintega wrote on 2011-07-23 01:38
Quote from Time;523131:
This is my opinion on the matter, the idea that there is one person well, just someone special, someone who likes you for you, and you like them for them...its just amazing..someone who, you believe you can trust with your life, someone you would do anything for, its so wonderful, nothing else matters, in my mind at least, its enough to get me through any hardship, any day, knowing that I love someone and that they love me, the fact that I never get bored when im with her...I mean, yeah she could just be a friend, but I dont think of her as just a friend, I love her, and I want to be with her, I want to tell her that I love her, pretty much I can care for her, and show her how much I care better if shes my girlfriend, so shes my girlfriend.
Jeez, way to make me feel depressed.
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Saffielia wrote on 2011-07-23 02:00
The Loli agrees with Time's point of view. Another factor on this is Religion. If one is a very strong Christian, then "Whoring Around" is not really an option, as they are to only have sex after marriage.
Being in a Relationship is wonderful. You have somebody who you can tell anything to and do many fun and exciting things with. And personally, The Loli despises "Whoring Around" because she finds it that all they care about is Self-Pleasure without any real care.
To tell if you should be in a relationship, these are a few simple things:
Liking the person is a good start.
Having many things in common is a good thing, too.
You could imagine yourself in a relationship with them.
Of course there are more, but those are just a few <3
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Akemii wrote on 2011-07-23 02:13
Me personally, I want to have someone who I care for. Someone I can spoil, and take care of.
As some of you know, I'm a very giving guy. I try to avoid relationships, but if it happens it happens. Now that I have a job though, I'd be spending a lot of money on my girlfriend/boyfriend. Which I don't mind, since I like doing that... Bad habit.
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♪★ Scandalous ☆ ♫ wrote on 2011-07-23 02:37
For the holiday season.
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Claudia wrote on 2011-07-23 02:47
Quote from ♪★ Scandalous ☆ ♫;523318:
For the holiday season.
oh u.
Now, I don't know nothin' about romantic relationships, but for relationships in general it's nice to know that you always have somebody who's there for you. And it's nice knowing you have something in common with somebody who won't judge you as harshly [because we always judge people; it's human nature] as any stranger would.
TL;DR: mushy gushy
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Ryoko wrote on 2011-07-23 02:58
It's good to have someone else there to look out for you, I guess. Knowing that someone's there to accept who you are, knowing that there's someone who cares about you regardless of what you are, or who you are.
And I suppose it's more comforting to have someone by your side that you can trust a lot, knowing they won't betray you or anything.
Having someone there and knowing that they won't run away no matter what you do is reassuring, and having someone there for you like that can also cheer you up at the times that you're down the most and feel like running away from your problems.
Knowing someone is there to bring you back no matter wherever you go.
People do get lonely at times, so that's probably another reason why they seek out people.
We were meant to mate anyways, so I don't see anything wrong with people wanting to find other people to, unless they were doing it for self-pleasure, or money reasons. Those kind of people imo, are way to greedy about what they have access to.
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Phunkie wrote on 2011-07-23 03:02
It's nice to know that you have someone you can count on when things get tough.
Friends and family are one type of relationship, and yes, they can too become close and personal, but romantic relationships provide a sense of closeness that no other type of connection with another person can provide.
Boyfriends and girlfriends can become soul mates (if you believe in those). If you really see yourself together with someone for a long time, you eventually move in with them. You can even begin a family with them (adopted or not). It's a life companion; someone who understands you and tries to always be there for you.
Love is a cool thing. It makes ya feel invincible, powerful. And being able to share those feeling with someone else, that's just amazing.
I hope you fall in love one day, OP. But always think logically. There are some pretty nasty people out there who will hurt ya.
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Cynic wrote on 2011-07-23 04:53
A lot of people still live by the ideal "Oh, i'ma get married one day, have 2 kids, a white picket fence, a dog named alexander.." or simply need the company of another person to make them feel whole.
Personally, I think brief, casual flings and endless flirting are far more enjoyable. But it really depends on the person. If you find the right person-- why not get into a relationship? It's just as if because everyone else is cheating that you or your partner are magically going to. If you or they do; it's because they choose to, not because statistics magically forced you to.
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Hiccup wrote on 2011-07-23 04:55
We all have biological clocks. Some tick faster then others. The whole point of a relationship is having another certain someone caring about you nobody else really does. Some people enjoy that. I don't blame em
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Akemii wrote on 2011-07-23 06:19
Quote from Cynic;523487:
A lot of people still live by the ideal "Oh, i'ma get married one day, have 2 kids, a white picket fence, a dog named alexander.." or simply need the company of another person to make them feel whole.
Personally, I think brief, casual flings and endless flirting are far more enjoyable. But it really depends on the person. If you find the right person-- why not get into a relationship? It's just as if because everyone else is cheating that you or your partner are magically going to. If you or they do; it's because they choose to, not because statistics magically forced you to.
I'm liek this too, but recently, I've been wanting someone.