Jamey Rodemeyer, bullied teen who made ‘It Gets Better’ video, commits suicide

• Chiyuri wrote on 2011-09-23 05:01
  I doubt his death will affect the people who bullied him much.. if you really want them to be affected, stab your heart right infront of them and cover their face with your blood to mark them for life as "you who caused my death".. that is much more likely to leave a very disgusted feeling deep down into these dumb people about themselves
• Kaeporo wrote on 2011-09-23 06:40

  Quote from Chiyuri;596255:

  I doubt his death will affect the people who bullied him much.. if you really want them to be affected, stab your heart right infront of them and cover their face with your blood to mark them for life as "you who caused my death".. that is much more likely to leave a very disgusted feeling deep down into these dumb people about themselves

  
  
  Jeez. You guys are crazy.
  
  What I don't understand is why this individual faced his bullying alone and then turned to an online community for support. His parents and teachers should have stopped this before it even became an issue. If a student is suffering from emotional stress resulting from social exposure, you first correct the persons causing that stress.
  
  Whatever. It's a sad story but so was The Lion King. This story will spread awareness but we all know that little is going to change.
• TA wrote on 2011-09-23 06:50
  Guess it didn't get better. :/
• Chockeh wrote on 2011-09-23 07:04
  I kind of agree with Chiyuri. The people who bullied the kid would be thinking: "It isn't my fault he suicide, other people probably did worst things to him."
• Cynic wrote on 2011-09-23 07:10

  Quote from Chockeh;596303:

  I kind of agree with Chiyuri. The people who bullied the kid would be thinking: "It isn't my fault he suicide, other people probably did worst things to him."

  
  
  The only way to show these people and help them change their ways are either strict, cruel punishment (which none of the School or their parents are gonna give; some parents are probably proud of their little wastes of space for causing a "fag" to commit suicide) OR showing them what it's like.
  
  I would round up all those kids, shove them into lockers, pull their hair, smack them around and trip them in the halls, call them names and tell them they're worthless and I hope they do use all a favor and die. Then we'll see how they feel.
  
  Really, it's what they deserve. They basically handed the kid the bullets to his own gun.
  They're no worse than murderers.
• Chockeh wrote on 2011-09-23 07:14
  As much as I hate violence and try not to encourage it... I kinda agree with you there.
• Zid wrote on 2011-09-23 07:24
  Why did he turn to the online community for support when his parents were already helping him make it through?
  
  I get the fact people will want to communicate with each other in the easiest way possible, but that also means making it easier for bullying to happen. Why did he not take comfort in his parents when he was being bullied online?
  
  It's one thing to blame the parents for not monitoring their child's online life. It's another for the child to not turn (or even notify) to his or her parents for comfort when being bullied online.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-09-23 07:39

  Quote from Zid;596326:

  Why did he turn to the online community for support when his parents were already helping him make it through?
  
  I get the fact people will want to communicate with each other in the easiest way possible, but that also means making it easier for bullying to happen. Why did he not take comfort in his parents when he was being bullied online?
  
  It's one thing to blame the parents for not monitoring their child's online life. It's another for the child to not turn (or even notify) to his or her parents for comfort when being bullied online.

  
  
  It's not easy to tell your parents when you're suffering. I myself would never, ever tell my Mom if I was being bullied. She doesn't need to worry about such things.
  
  It is however, VERY easy to go to an online community for support when everyone else in your local area hates you for being gay. I used to frequent an LGBT forum and you would be amazed by the number of kids who were forced to turn online for support, since they got it nowhere else.
  
  It's the bullies fault for being such creepers, not his. You can only do so much in certain situations, and he isn't to blame at all for any of it.
  
  The only way he could have prevented this was to stay in the closet, which he should NOT have to do.
• Zid wrote on 2011-09-23 08:45

  Quote from Cynic;596348:

  It's not easy to tell your parents when you're suffering. I myself would never, ever tell my Mom if I was being bullied. She doesn't need to worry about such things.
  
  It is however, VERY easy to go to an online community for support when everyone else in your local area hates you for being gay. I used to frequent an LGBT forum and you would be amazed by the number of kids who were forced to turn online for support, since they got it nowhere else.
  
  It's the bullies fault for being such creepers, not his. You can only do so much in certain situations, and he isn't to blame at all for any of it.
  
  The only way he could have prevented this was to stay in the closet, which he should NOT have to do.

  
  
  I'm wondering if that was the same in his case, since his parents do know he was bullied before and has given support to him.
  
  Thus, I'm curious as to why he didn't talk to his parents about it again. As far as it's been said, he did have support from this parents, which is hardly the case for other LGBT teenagers, as you have said.
• Kaeporo wrote on 2011-09-23 08:59

  Quote from Cynic;596348:

  It's not easy to tell your parents when you're suffering. I myself would never, ever tell my Mom if I was being bullied. She doesn't need to worry about such things.
  
  It is however, VERY easy to go to an online community for support when everyone else in your local area hates you for being gay. I used to frequent an LGBT forum and you would be amazed by the number of kids who were forced to turn online for support, since they got it nowhere else.
  
  It's the bullies fault for being such creepers, not his. You can only do so much in certain situations, and he isn't to blame at all for any of it.
  
  The only way he could have prevented this was to stay in the closet, which he should NOT have to do.

  
  
  You can do anything so long as you still breath. The only thing holding most people back is pride, the very reason why you wouldn't tell your own mother if you were being bullied.
  
  He is partially responsible for what happened because he not only took his own life, he allowed the bullying to continue. He could have completely overcome this situation; other people have overcome similar challenges. He chose not to.
  
  While he in no way deserved to be bullied, those kids didn't kill him. They don't deserve the sort of petty revenge acts you guys have been describing...though steps need to be taken in order to ensure that something like this won't happen again.
  
  ...and online communities? pfft. A bunch of data being pushed through an emotionless medium. They're useful for the transfer of information, not emotional support.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-09-23 09:08

  Quote from Kaeporo;596387:

  You can do anything so long as you still breath. The only thing holding most people back is pride, the very reason why you wouldn't tell your own mother if you were being bullied.
  
  He is partially responsible for what happened because he not only took his own life, he allowed the bullying to continue. He could have completely overcome this situation. He chose not to.
  
  Those kids didn't kill him. They don't deserve the sort of petty revenge acts you guys have been describing...though steps need to be taken in order to ensure that something like this won't happen again.
  
  ...and online communities? pfft. A bunch of data being pushed through an emotionless medium.

  
  
  Pride? Yes. Caring? Also yes. I don't need her to worry about me, she has more important things to worry about.
  
  He didn't allow the bulling to continue; do you really think a slap on the wrist was going to stop those kids? Yeah, no. Most Schools don't even care what happens to their students, let alone enforce laws to protect them from bullying. Even if he told one of the Teachers or his parents, the best that would happen is they would get detention or possibly a bit of suspension, then they're be back a week later, bullying him even harder for getting them in trouble.
  
  Have you ever been bullied for being LGBT? Have you ever been called worthless, a fag and told that you deserve to die by people that don't even know you? If not, then you have no idea what it's like.
  
  You can't just taddle tale and everything magically gets better. He probably wanted to protect his parents because he thought it was his own fault for being gay. His parents probably got a lot of sh*t for their son being gay, too. He did what he thought was best; ridding the world of himself to make it easier.
  It was stupid, yes, but you can't blame him for any of it.
  
  The kids deserve to be punished for what they did. If they didn't bully him in the first place, none of this would have even happened. You can live in la-la land and assume that the kid should have just dealt with the bullying, but sorry, that's not how life works.
• Kaeporo wrote on 2011-09-23 09:24

  Quote from Cynic;596391:

  Pride? Yes. Caring? Also yes. I don't need her to worry about me, she has more important things to worry about.
  
  He didn't allow the bulling to continue; do you really think a slap on the wrist was going to stop those kids? Yeah, no. Most Schools don't even care what happens to their students, let alone enforce laws to protect them from bullying. Even if he told one of the Teachers or his parents, the best that would happen is they would get detention or possibly a bit of suspension, then they're be back a week later, bullying him even harder for getting them in trouble.
  
  Have you ever been bullied for being LGBT? Have you ever been called worthless, a fag and told that you deserve to die by people that don't even know you? If not, then you have no idea what it's like.
  
  You can't just taddle tale and everything magically gets better. He probably wanted to protect his parents because he thought it was his own fault for being gay. His parents probably got a lot of sh*t for their son being gay, too. He did what he thought was best; ridding the world of himself to make it easier.
  It was stupid, yes, but you can't blame him for any of it.
  
  The kids deserve to be punished for what they did. If they didn't bully him in the first place, none of this would have even happened. You can live in la-la land and assume that the kid should have just dealt with the bullying, but sorry, that's not how life works.

  
  
  Suicide doesn't change anything. This young man obviously didn't value his own life, why should I value it?
  
  Why bother talking about it? We can make pointless discussion but nothing will come of it. Your hate won't change anything. It won't make the situation better. It'll only make you more hateful.
• Ithiliel wrote on 2011-09-23 09:27
  Sad situation, but honestly after how many times a situation like this has occurred, I hardly doubt anything is going to change in the internet age.
• Adelynn wrote on 2011-09-23 09:49
  It sickens me how cruel some people can be. I've heard of some really messed up things that children are capable of. It's so sad that someone was bullied to death because of something that can't be helped.
• Chiyuri wrote on 2011-09-23 11:15

  Quote from Kaeporo;596387:

  You can do anything so long as you still breath. The only thing holding most people back is pride, the very reason why you wouldn't tell your own mother if you were being bullied.
  
  He is partially responsible for what happened because he not only took his own life, he allowed the bullying to continue. He could have completely overcome this situation; other people have overcome similar challenges. He chose not to.
  
  While he in no way deserved to be bullied, those kids didn't kill him. They don't deserve the sort of petty revenge acts you guys have been describing...though steps need to be taken in order to ensure that something like this won't happen again.
  
  ...and online communities? pfft. A bunch of data being pushed through an emotionless medium. They're useful for the transfer of information, not emotional support.

  
  
  Those kids didn't kill him? I would like to disagree, whatever that they either cut his throat off directly, or manipulate his experience, knowledge and emotions to place him in a situation that death is the way out.. both are pretty much the same. The Cause(Their negative actions toward him) and the Result(His death) are the same in both case. Honestly, Suicide because of bullying is world known.. if you bully someone you should be fully aware of what it may result in. I am fully aware that if I stab your stomach with a knife, my action may lead to your death.
  
  Revenge? What is wrong about ending the life of individuals who don't have a right for life anymore? Their actions is more than enough for them to lose their right for life. Since such a right is now non-existent on them, ending their life is the fastess possible method to end the bullying cause by them.
  Of course I don't agree with torture methods since those cause uneeded pain into the world's flow but a clean quick death is accepteble