Sexuality, Y U SO FLUID?

• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-26 03:43
  We've had quite a few topics regarding sexuality before, but this one is kind of different. I've been struggling with my sexuality for the longest time, which isn't really an uncommon thing. But my issue is not coming to terms with it, but rather trying to figure out what the hell it even is.
  
  spoiler'd for length
  
  [SPOILER="Spoiler"]A kinda basic summery: I've liked girls since I was a tyke, but never guys. Yes, there were a few attractive guys and for the sake of appearing "normal", I dated guys. But there was never any attraction, romantic or physical. Around my pre-teen years, I was a tad asexual. No interest in either sex in any regard. Yada yada. Ended up falling for a guy who later turned out to be a girl, forcing me to come out about liking girls. (though at the time, I just said "Oh I like both", when at the time, it was a lie)
  
  Starting maybe.. 1 1/2? 2? years back, I began having an attraction to guys. Mostly sexual, but also somewhat romantic toward more feminine guys. However, slowly, an attraction toward masculine (albeit not TOO masculine) started to form. Which has never happened before.
  
  So as I currently stand, I apparently like guys and girls. But.. it's not that simple.
  
  To make matters worse, I'm not bisexual, but I'm not totally pansexual either. it's kind of like this;
  
  Feminine girls: Romantic and sexual attraction.
  Masculine girls: No romantic or sexual attraction.
  Androgynous girls: Mostly romantic, but still some sexual attraction.
  
  Feminine guys: Romantic and sexual attraction.
  Masculine guys: Sexual attraction.
  Androgynous guys: Mostly sexual, but still some romantic attraction.[/SPOILER]
  
  
  And I'm pretty sure there is no a label for that. Not one that describes it well enough, anyways.
  Pansexual is the only thing that fits the bill, although vaguely. And I hate having to explain all of this when people ask.
  
  And what's even more hilarious, is that I have such a hard time connecting with people, let alone romantically, that I may as-well be asexual in terms of "not at all interested and it's never gonna happen anyways".
  
  

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  Am I alone in this, or is anyone's sexuality as screwed up as mine?
• animeshadows wrote on 2011-12-26 05:17
  You aren't alone..
  
  

  Feminine girls: Romantic and sexual attraction.
  Masculine girls: No romantic or sexual attraction.
  Androgynous girls: Mostly romantic, but still some sexual attraction.
  
  Feminine guys: Romantic and sexual attraction.
  Masculine guys: Sexual attraction.
  Androgynous guys: Mostly sexual, but still some romantic attraction.

  
  
  ... is an accurate description of myself.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-26 05:28

  Quote from animeshadows;706626:

  You aren't alone..
  
  
  
  ... is an accurate description of myself.

  
  
  Lol, really? I imagined there were some people like that, but to be that accurate is funny.
• Sumpfkraut wrote on 2011-12-26 14:26
  Seems pretty normal to me, nothing to get worked up about.
  
  
  
  Actually, that sounds pretty good to me. Care to date? :chin:
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-26 14:46

  Quote from Sumpfkraut;706927:

  Seems pretty normal to me, nothing to get worked up about.
  
  
  
  Actually, that sounds pretty good to me. Care to date? :chin:

  
  
  I've never really met anyone with such.. distinct preferences. There was the occasional "likes feminine chicks and some androgynous dudes", but not really a whole broad spectrum. lol.
• Sumpfkraut wrote on 2011-12-26 15:29
  No I mean like that it's kind of wishy-washy. That's pretty normal.
• Akemii wrote on 2011-12-26 15:34
  I only like girly girls and manly men!
• Fynl wrote on 2011-12-26 16:30
  Wouldn't that still be bisexual though?
  You don't have to like every type of girl to know you like girls. I know I'm straight but I'm not sexually attracted to masculine girls either :|
• Cucurbita wrote on 2011-12-26 17:20

  Quote from Akemii;706966:

  I only like girly girls and manly men!

  
  
  People tend to tell me I'm really feminine in behavior though ;(
• Cannibal wrote on 2011-12-26 17:24

  Quote from Fynl;706993:

  Wouldn't that still be bisexual though?
  You don't have to like every type of girl to know you like girls. I know I'm straight but I'm not sexually attracted to masculine girls either :|

  
  Yeah, it sounds pretty bisexual to me. Just because you're attracted to men and women doesn't mean you're attracted to every man and woman, both romantically and sexually. Everyone has preferences.
• Cucurbita wrote on 2011-12-26 17:25
  Back to the thread's main point for me;
  
  You're making too big of a deal out of this. What you listed seems quite normal. Even I follow that structure quite similarly.
• animeshadows wrote on 2011-12-26 17:49

  Quote from Cynic;706638:

  Lol, really? I imagined there were some people like that, but to be that accurate is funny.

  
  Sexuality is fluid during puberty and development, which lasts through 25? I wouldn't be shocked if my own or yours changed in the next few years, either. The point being, though, is that everybody has their own preferences.
• Micho wrote on 2011-12-26 17:53
  Isn't sexuality supposed to be not just white and black? So when I read this:
  
  

  Quote from Cynic;706450:

  Feminine girls: Romantic and sexual attraction.
  Masculine girls: No romantic or sexual attraction.
  Androgynous girls: Mostly romantic, but still some sexual attraction.
  
  Feminine guys: Romantic and sexual attraction.
  Masculine guys: Sexual attraction.
  Androgynous guys: Mostly sexual, but still some romantic attraction.

  
  
  It seems pretty normal to me. Everyone's sexuality should be different and no one's sexuality should be exactly the same as the next person, sure you can have similarities, but in the end the spectrum for sexuality so vast that you can never really just say "Oh I'm gay", there's so much more to it.
• Skye wrote on 2011-12-27 01:02
  Isn't this just what people call "having types"? That's what it seems like to me.
  /shrug
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-27 04:06

  Quote from Skye;707592:

  Isn't this just what people call "having types"? That's what it seems like to me.
  /shrug

  
  
  I suppose so, though it's quite a few types, lmao.
  
  I don't really consider it bisexual since bisexual doesn't include genders, only sexes. (i.e. guys and girls) Whereas pansexual usually ignores sex and includes gender (feminine, masculine, androgynous). And while it may seem bisexual due to the current distinction between sexes (me liking girls before, but suddenly having an attraction toward masculine guys as-well), I highly doubt it's that.
  
  It's.. pansexual with a sh*t-ton of sub-categories, I guess?