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Elena wrote on 2012-02-09 22:13
Alright, so there's this couple that lives in the apartment buildings to the right of our house. I really don't mean to undermine whatever problem/s they have, but I'm sick and tired of them keeping me up at night. They argue constantly, anywhere between 11 p.m. and like 4 a.m., at least 4 times a week. They're so loud I feel like they're right outside of my window.
Now, what I think is happening is the arguments are becoming progressively more violent. I can't tell if the guy's hit the girl yet but I know he's at least toppled things over or thrown things across rooms. There are times when they're just yelling at each-other, and times when the woman's trying to calm down and hope that he'll listen (which he doesn't really).
I'm not really sure what eventually gets them to stop, either.
Last night was particularly unnerving. It sounded like one of the more violent ones (him throwing things around and all), and I thought I may have heard him hit her a few times throughout the night (not beating, but more like a slap sound?).
I've never been so tempted to call the cops before, but last night was just so unsettling. I don't even know what their apartment number is, or exactly which room it's coming from, because of the way things eco a bit in the area between the house and the apartments. And I wonder about the other people who actually live right next to them. Does anyone? Do they not care? Do they sleep through it? I don't know. Maybe they have the same mentality as me where they really don't want to get into someone's business like that.
I can't stand listening to it. Though part of it IS because I really want to go to sleep, it's also just gut-wrenching to listen to. When I finally managed to fall asleep, it was kind of broken and I ended up waking up kind of tense.
I mean, what does someone do when the neighbors are constantly having shouting matches? Is it something to call the cops for? Tempted as I am to yell back at them sometimes, I seriously doubt that it would help anything, especially considering the antagonizing state they're already in.
Ugh.
I'm tired.
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Knightmehre wrote on 2012-02-09 22:15
Quote from Elena;769217:
Alright, so there's this couple that lives in the apartment buildings to the right of our house. I really don't mean to undermine whatever problem/s they have, but I'm sick and tired of them keeping me up at night. They argue constantly, anywhere between 11 p.m. and like 4 a.m., at least 4 times a week. They're so loud I feel like they're right outside of my window.
Now, what I think is happening is the arguments are becoming progressively more violent. I can't tell if the guy's hit the girl yet but I know he's at least toppled things over or thrown things across rooms. There are times when they're just yelling at each-other, and times when the woman's trying to calm down and hope that he'll listen (which he doesn't really).
I'm not really sure what eventually gets them to stop, either.
Last night was particularly unnerving. It sounded like one of the more violent ones (him throwing things around and all), and I thought I may have heard him hit her a few times throughout the night (not beating, but more like a slap sound?).
I've never been so tempted to call the cops before, but last night was just so unsettling. I don't even know what their apartment number is, or exactly which room it's coming from, because of the way things eco a bit in the area between the house and the apartments. And I wonder about the other people who actually live right next to them. Does anyone? Do they not care? Do they sleep through it? I don't know. Maybe they have the same mentality as me where they really don't want to get into someone's business like that.
I can't stand listening to it. Though part of it IS because I really want to go to sleep, it's also just gut-wrenching to listen to. When I finally managed to fall asleep, it was kind of broken and I ended up waking up kind of tense.
I mean, what does someone do when the neighbors are constantly having shouting matches? Is it something to call the cops for? Tempted as I am to yell back at them sometimes, I seriously doubt that it would help anything, especially considering the antagonizing state they're already in.
Ugh.
I'm tired.
Maybe you need to let them know kindly that they are bothering the people around them.
if that doesn't work and they don't resolve it, complain to the leasing office.
if not, bring in the popo
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Skye wrote on 2012-02-09 22:16
I'd say it'd be alright to call the police. Even if he isn't hitting her (which I'm sure he has, or will at least), they're still being disruptive to the people around them, so that'd at least warrant some kind of police involvement. People call cops for obnoxious parties, so there really isn't a difference in my opinion.
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Bride wrote on 2012-02-09 22:17
I think you should most definitely call the cops
And I wonder about the other people who actually live right next to them. Does anyone? Do they not care? Do they sleep through it? I don't know. Maybe they have the same mentality as me where they really don't want to get into someone's business like that.
I'm sure that's the case, a lot of people don't wanna step into things like that
If it's that unnerving and it disturbs you and other people, really, call the cops. Domestic violence/abuse is a no-no :(
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Cynic wrote on 2012-02-09 22:18
When it comes to potentially violent situations, it is better to leave it to the cops. Arguments happen with every couple (some are more loud/passionate than others, naturally), but trust me, if he's gotten even somewhat violent, it will only get worse.
If the neighbors around them can offer you no help, the best you can do is try and find out which apartment building it is or just direct the cops to wherever it seems the sound is coming from. If they arrive in time, though, it probably won't be hard to find which apartment it's coming from.
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Elena wrote on 2012-02-09 22:24
I came so close last night then realized my phone was dead and charging.
I'll try finding out if I can get help from the leasing office first to figure out where they actually live in that building, and wait for it to happen again, as creepy as that sounds in my head.
The paranoid side of me is worried that he'll immediately blame her when the cops arrive. x.e
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EndlessDreams wrote on 2012-02-09 22:26
Buy some earplugs or something in the meantime.
They not going to stop the next day just because some cops came over one day.
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Kueh wrote on 2012-02-09 22:38
You should call the police. There are four possible combinations of outcomes.
You didn't call the police, and there was no need to call the police; Great.
You didn't call the police, and calling the police would have helped; Can you really be okay with this?
You call the police, and there was no need to call the police; You aren't going to be punished, calling the police for a domestic disturbance when there isn't one isn't a crime unless you do it repeatably.
You call the police, and calling the police would have helped; Now you've done a good deed, and you get a good karma point or whatever you believe happens. In the least case, you'll be able to rest comfortably on your conscience.
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EndlessDreams wrote on 2012-02-09 22:45
Quote from Kueh;769235:
You should call the police. There are four possible combinations of outcomes.
You didn't call the police, and there was no need to call the police; Great.
You didn't call the police, and calling the police would have helped; Can you really be okay with this?
You call the police, and there was no need to call the police; You aren't going to be punished, calling the police for a domestic disturbance when there isn't one isn't a crime unless you do it repeatably.
You call the police, and calling the police would have helped; Now you've done a good deed, and you get a good karma point or whatever you believe happens. In the least case, you'll be able to rest comfortably on your conscience.
There is one more though...
You call the police, they just give them a warning. Later on, the neighbor becomes violent with you until you have to call the police for that as well.
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Cynic wrote on 2012-02-09 22:49
Quote from EndlessDreams;769245:
There is one more though...
You call the police, they just give them a warning. Later on, the neighbor becomes violent with you until you have to call the police for that as well.
Except they have no way of knowing she called the cops on them.
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paladin wrote on 2012-02-10 02:08
Get leasing on it
If its getting to the point where violence is adiuble
call the cops
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Milk wrote on 2012-02-10 05:56
If the fights really last that long just call the police, if they sound more violent everyday I wouldn't wait around till one of them gets hurt before calling the police around.
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Elena wrote on 2012-02-10 07:36
Quote from paladin;769509:
Get leasing on it
If its getting to the point where violence is adiuble
call the cops
They most certainly are audible. It was usually shouting matches but yesterday the sound of things getting thrown/knocked around was pretty distinct. Unfortunately, I'd have to wait for this to happen again before I can call the cops on them.
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Jana wrote on 2012-02-10 12:30
If it's loud and disturbing, but not 100% sure if someone is being hurt, you could try calling your landlord instead.
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Rin wrote on 2012-02-11 01:30
Dear, I remember somebody posted a video about this. Where a group of people did an experiment, generating loud party music in a neighborhood at day time. So many complaints from the surrounding people.
Then they conducted the second part of the experiment at night time, where they simulated the violent and loud outburst (Same level of noise as the day time music) of a couple, including property destruction and physical abuse. Nobody in the neighborhood did anything (even went outside to check) while the simulated "violence" went on.
Anyway, I trust your judgment.