Trust Issues

• Retard wrote on 2012-02-28 10:06
  Ok so lets say you are part of a team and this team is very close. You have a private area to workout and one day you all schedule a special workout. A specific number of people show up and you who is who front and back. You know who went and who left. Now lets say at this workout something of yours is LOST. Fairly valuable but not enough that you you would think someone would steal it.
  
  Now: you trust these people ALOT. They are almost like a second family to you with exception to a few (still seemingly good-hearted) people. It's an item that is pretty big so its hard to lose and not see it. You've looked everywhere and the only possibilities left are
  1Someone stole it.
  2Someone took it by accident.
  
  This is the first time I've been put in this situation. I would like to think someone took it by accident, but no one has come out. I would say maybe they don't know who it belongs to but it had my phone in it, which they could have easily used to call "Home" or "Mom" to find out. (But my phone is turned off LOL so i can't call it to get the person's attention IF they had it.)
  
  I would like to trust all these people and still feel like i do, but my CRAZY ASIAN PARENTS, are so PARANOID, and want to go and call out a thief outright. I'd rather NOT go down that path but maybe I should interrogate some people. Maybe I should just let it slide, and next time it happens I'll really crack down on a real investigation? I honestly do not care about losing the item or phone since both were not that valuable (crap flip fone weeeeeee) to me. I just don't want my parents to make a big scene about it, and also, I don't want to have to feel so paranoid about the people I TRUST.
  
  
  What do you think I should do?!?!?
• UnicornElephant wrote on 2012-02-28 10:10
  Ask everyone if they seen it. No? Check in places you been too, tell them your situation, have them help you look for it. If you still can't find it, it's unlikely you lost it there.
• Episkey wrote on 2012-02-28 10:11
  Your phone was in it? If so, you should try calling it a bunch of times and see if anyone picks it up.
  
  If I misunderstood that, just wait it out. Most of the time whenever I lost something and I thought someone maliciously took it, it's either been:
  
  

  
  
  • I misplaced it somewhere and in my panic I couldn't find it.
    
  • Someone turned it into a Lost and Found (School setting) or the person who picked up whatever I lost contacted me somehow.
    

  
  
  In either case, just wait it out a bit. If nothing happens after an extended period of time, then you can try investigating it.