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Taycat wrote on 2012-06-07 02:42
I put some hot pockets in the freezer a little while ago. The freezer door, mind you. As I was doing so, my mom saw me do it and told me that they would fall out. I told her they wouldn't and she left calling me a "stupid whore". Well, mad of course, I called her a bitch. I get kicked in the ass, literally, by my dad and he tells me to watch my mouth...
Excuse me, but why am I getting told to watch my mouth when I only called her a bitch?
I see no reason to be called a whore. I don't even go around and sell my body for money...yet she acts unpleasant all the time and, well, that's the definition of a bitch right there.
I am very confused.
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Time wrote on 2012-06-07 02:46
Maybe the freezer was the stupid whore for letting you put the hotpockets in it. I mean...Freezers just will take anything you put in them.
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Elena wrote on 2012-06-07 02:48
The fact that someone did something to you doesn't grant you the right to do something on par to what they did. If she's not the type to even listen if you want to talk about this name-calling issue, then it's not even worth risking getting yourself into trouble for her. Save yourself the time and the trouble.
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Taycat wrote on 2012-06-07 02:48
Quote from Time;881698:
Maybe the freezer was the stupid whore for letting you put the hotpockets in it. I mean...Freezers just will take anything you put in them.
Serious thread.
You.
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Episkey wrote on 2012-06-07 02:50
Quote from Elena;881703:
The fact that someone did something to you doesn't grant you the right to do something on par to what they did. If she's not the type to even listen if you want to talk about this name-calling issue, then it's not even worth risking getting yourself into trouble for her. Save yourself the time and the trouble.
Basically this.
Two wrongs don't make a right. As frustrating as I could imagine the situation was - she still is your Mother.
[S]Although being called a whore isn't really motherly, by any stretch of the imagination.[/S]
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Taycat wrote on 2012-06-07 02:51
Quote from Episkey;881712:
Basically this.
Two wrongs don't make a right. As frustrating as I could imagine the situation was - she still is your Mother.
[S]Although being called a whore isn't really motherly, by any stretch of the imagination.[/S]
If anything, she's far from being the perfect mother. I could waste hours upon hours typing up many things that don't seem too motherly here but I'd rather not waste time.
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Episkey wrote on 2012-06-07 02:59
Quote from Mythical Detective Loki;881715:
If anything, she's far from being the perfect mother. I could waste hours upon hours typing up many things that don't seem too motherly here but I'd rather not waste time.
I'm sure you don't have to go on either ... it might make you depressed.
But, no mother is perfect - I can attest to that. Sometimes it's best to remain quiet and ignore statements such as your mother made.
You know them not to be true - why give them any validity by acknowledging them?
Just my two cents.~
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Taycat wrote on 2012-06-07 03:11
It doesn't help if she repeats them every day. To be honest, I have no idea why it even troubles me as much as it does. I should be used to this by now.
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Meiji wrote on 2012-06-07 05:54
I would totally have done the same (or worse) and argued the shit about it, lol. Honestly the whole "just because someone did something to you doesn't mean you must get even" for me is legal bullshit, if someone does something that offends me or that I find disrespectful I will surely call them out on that.
I'm not necessarily saying in all situations it is required to do the same, sure there are times I understand its better to just leave the situation alone, but hell if I'd live with people calling me out on a daily basis without any conflict.
But oh well, I tend to get pretty sarcastic at those times and most I do is try to show the other person why they're wrong, its not like I'd curse people for no reason.
[spoiler]
Also fuck the whole "parents" thing, they're just people like you, you owe them as much respect as they should show you.
I'd advise you to talk clear to them if you haven't already, they may not be perfect but they can't be that retarded not to realize what they're doing is blatantly offensive, there's no need for this.[/spoiler]
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Cynic wrote on 2012-06-07 06:10
If someone doesn't treat you with respect then you have no reason to treat them with respect either. Family ties, social position.. it doesn't make a difference.
Stooping to their level is pretty redundant, but there's nothing wrong with returning an insult. Though from what I can tell.. you calling her a bitch was just pointing out a fact. You can't insult someone by stating something that's true.
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Darkist wrote on 2012-06-07 15:02
A lot of times, people are miserable and they want attention - even if it's negative attention. There is NO reason for your mother to be calling you names - but I suspect she has an underlying unhappiness that is causing her to irrationally lash out.
I've found the absolute best thing you can do when encountering these kinds of people is to completely ignore.
It's actually more cruel to them than to actually fight back.
IMO, they are LOOKING for a fight - and when you give in and verbalize your anger, you are fueling the fire.
It's NOT right - and it would make me mad as hell too, and I would WANT to lash out and retaliate - but for a few times, at least... TRY to just ignore and see what results you get.
In the end, you are going to become the person you WISH to become - and if you are treated this way much longer, you may cut her out of your life altogether and she is going to be the one who is sorry.
Wow.. ok that was way too deep.
ORRRRRRR you coulda taken the hot pocket and winged at her head :P
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Meiji wrote on 2012-06-07 15:45
Quote from Darkist;882057:
A lot of times, people are miserable and they want attention - even if it's negative attention. There is NO reason for your mother to be calling you names - but I suspect she has an underlying unhappiness that is causing her to irrationally lash out.
I've found the absolute best thing you can do when encountering these kinds of people is to completely ignore.
It's actually more cruel to them than to actually fight back.
IMO, they are LOOKING for a fight - and when you give in and verbalize your anger, you are fueling the fire.
It's NOT right - and it would make me mad as hell too, and I would WANT to lash out and retaliate - but for a few times, at least... TRY to just ignore and see what results you get.
In the end, you are going to become the person you WISH to become - and if you are treated this way much longer, you may cut her out of your life altogether and she is going to be the one who is sorry.
Wow.. ok that was way too deep.
ORRRRRRR you coulda taken the hot pocket and winged at her head :P
Its not about being cruel, though. Its about solving the problem... if she wants to simply be cruel then she's just as bad as her parents.
This applies to any other situation if all you're wishing to do is show how "superior" you are, when in fact you're just as childish and unable to approach the problem in an decent/adult manner, derp.
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Darkist wrote on 2012-06-07 15:51
Quote from Meiji;882078:
Its not about being cruel, though. Its about solving the problem... if she wants to simply be cruel then she's just as bad as her parents.
This applies to any other situation if all you're wishing to do is show how "superior" you are, when in fact you're just as childish and unable to approach the problem in an decent/adult manner, derp.
Then you took what I said wrong - or maybe I didn't convey it properly.
I MEANT it is going to AFFECT them more if they are ignored, than if they are yelled at. How it affects them, I don't know. Perhaps they will actually stop and think about what they said or did and feel remorse.
But one thing is for sure ~ name calling in retaliation is NOT going to solve any problems.
And I tend to think a mother who is calling her daughter a whore, is not really going to approach ANY problem in a decent/adult manner.
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Akemii wrote on 2012-06-07 17:36
Never answer back to your parents that way
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Inikaske wrote on 2012-06-07 22:18
I honestly don't think you did anything wrong, although retaliation is frowned upon, especially towards your mother. It's still a form of self defense, the fact that your mom made you defend yourself by telling you something no mother should ever say to their child left you no choice but to say something back. I mean yea you prolly shoulda kept ya mouth shut, but hell even I woulda said somethin. I guess your dad just didnt want you making a habit out of disrespecting your mother, but keep in mind, your mother shouldnt disrespect you either.