Sex. When?

• Kazuni wrote on 2010-07-20 01:48
  Whenever you can sit down with the other party and have a sober serious conversation about it.
  
  Which is awkward sounding as it is :>
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-20 06:04

  Quote from Kazuni;98518:

  Whenever you can sit down with the other party and have a sober serious conversation about it.
  
  Which is awkward sounding as it is :>

  
  
  You know what surprises me about some couples?
  
  Some of them actually get awkward with each other...
  
  My idea of a real, solid relationship is being able to take a crap in the bathroom and not getting embarrassed if my significant other walks in to wash his hands. You know?
  
  People think relationships are darn simple. Well, it's not if you're not comfortable with each other.
  
  Like, some people would die if they accidentally farted in front of their SO because it's so "embarrasing."
  
  lmao
• dasu wrote on 2010-07-21 04:18
  I don't think you can put a physical age on the "right time" for sex. Even a minimum is too imposing; barring physical impossibility. However, the important deciding factor should be responsibility. I don't really care to bring up the relationship status side of this. That's something for individuals to worry about. But if you boil this problem down to its core, it's only a problem because some people get hurt. So, if people have some show of responsibility for their actions, I see no reason to disallow sexual activity. Think of it like playing contact sports; if you don't wear protective gear or play in unsafe conditions, and you get hurt, you should be responsible. Except that when it comes to sex, your injuries are probably going to be pathological or emotional. And to help people be responsible, I think sexual education should start at a much younger age, so that regardless of how someone develops mentally or physically, they're aware of the goods and the bads of having sex. It could go a long way.
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-21 04:23

  Quote from dasu;99476:

  I don't think you can put a physical age on the "right time" for sex. Even a minimum is too imposing; barring physical impossibility. However, the important deciding factor should be responsibility. I don't really care to bring up the relationship status side of this. That's something for individuals to worry about. But if you boil this problem down to its core, it's only a problem because some people get hurt. So, if people have some show of responsibility for their actions, I see no reason to disallow sexual activity. Think of it like playing contact sports; if you don't wear protective gear or play in unsafe conditions, and you get hurt, you should be responsible. Except that when it comes to sex, your injuries are probably going to be pathological or emotional. And to help people be responsible, I think sexual education should start at a much younger age, so that regardless of how someone develops mentally or physically, they're aware of the goods and the bads of having sex. It could go a long way.

  
  
  That is such a nice metaphor. Love it.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-21 04:41

  Quote from dasu;99476:

  I don't think you can put a physical age on the "right time" for sex. Even a minimum is too imposing; barring physical impossibility. However, the important deciding factor should be responsibility. I don't really care to bring up the relationship status side of this. That's something for individuals to worry about. But if you boil this problem down to its core, it's only a problem because some people get hurt. So, if people have some show of responsibility for their actions, I see no reason to disallow sexual activity. Think of it like playing contact sports; if you don't wear protective gear or play in unsafe conditions, and you get hurt, you should be responsible. Except that when it comes to sex, your injuries are probably going to be pathological or emotional. And to help people be responsible, I think sexual education should start at a much younger age, so that regardless of how someone develops mentally or physically, they're aware of the goods and the bads of having sex. It could go a long way.

  
  
  I definitely agree. The "right time" depends on the individual(s).
  
  I guess I just wanted to read all of your responses, as I myself don't believe that many kids bear that knowledge and responsibility for sex at such young ages. As I mentioned already, I wouldn't want a kid of mine doing it at age 12 or 13.
  
  I don't think most kids at that age would show responsibility for their actions. If they did, I wouldn't have a problem with it. There's always exceptions though and I'm aware of that.
  
  Last, I do agree with giving sexual education to children at young ages so they can be better prepared for what's out there.
  
  Nonetheless, the only way you learn in life is through experience. It's just up to us to make sure that our kids and younger brothers and sisters (and whoever) have a safe and smart experience.
• Hiccup wrote on 2010-07-21 04:44
  I think you should only have sex when you are truly in love with someone. It has to feel right for both of you or it is a bad idea. I learned about the love making parts in 5th grade. It was part of the curriculum for health and is taught every year.
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-21 05:08

  Quote from bradstrt;99489:

  I think you should only have sex when you are truly in love with someone. It has to feel right for both of you or it is a bad idea. I learned about the love making parts in 5th grade. It was part of the curriculum for health and is taught every year.

  
  
  Slightly offtopic question, did the school try to make it seem like it was an "inappropriate" urge?
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-21 05:24

  Quote from bradstrt;99489:

  I think you should only have sex when you are truly in love with someone. It has to feel right for both of you or it is a bad idea. I learned about the love making parts in 5th grade. It was part of the curriculum for health and is taught every year.

  
  
  I never was taught sex-ed. @_@
  
  Everything I know has been through the internet and friends.
  
  It's quite sad actually.
  
  Every kid should be taught sex-ed.
• Daccat wrote on 2010-07-21 07:30
  We gots taught about it in biology classes quite a bit. :3
• Hiccup wrote on 2010-07-21 16:09

  Quote from Finnea;99526:

  Slightly offtopic question, did the school try to make it seem like it was an "inappropriate" urge?

  
  We didn't learn what they did together. That was learned elsewhere, just what the parts did. Names, where they were on the body. They didn't tell us that the one was put in the other to make babies.
  

  Quote from Phunkie;99537:

  I never was taught sex-ed. @_@
  
  Everything I know has been through the internet and friends.
  
  It's quite sad actually.
  
  Every kid should be taught sex-ed.

  
  Mandatory in health :x
• Okami wrote on 2010-07-21 16:18
  I had a sex-ed in Jr. High.
  
  It was more of a Beware of the consequences and use protection.
• Rose wrote on 2010-07-21 22:02
  This is my opinion, and my opinion alone.
  
  Whenever, the hell you want to.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-21 22:35

  Quote from CableCrook;100161:

  This is my opinion, and my opinion alone.
  
  Whenever, the hell you want to.

  
  
  Age 7 sound good?
• Hiccup wrote on 2010-07-21 22:47

  Quote from CableCrook;100161:

  This is my opinion, and my opinion alone.
  
  Whenever, the hell you want to.

  
  Birth!?
• Tedio wrote on 2010-07-21 22:53
  haha, reminds me of this one time when some people found out that a kid at my school had condoms.
  They overreacted but I just laughed and said "what, you expect him not to use them?"