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Froglord of DESTINY!!! wrote on 2013-03-31 18:39
I've never ever done anything wrong my entire life
I've never stolen anything, I've kept my nose clean, no drugs, no alchohol and I always kept to myself.
Yet he's always patroling outside my room, with this delusion that I'm smoking weed or something, and he has this weird psychological thing going on with him where he smells stuff burning all the time. When I was in my early teens, he'd accuse me of being a drug dealer, or a thief, or a liar just because. He doesn't seem to do it to my bro and sis, but he just randomly yells at me, and gives me extreme shit for nothing.
I'm really just itching to give him a rude awakening one of these days, it's pissing me off so much.
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Splatulated wrote on 2013-03-31 18:42
Quote from Froglord of DESTINY!!!;1059063:
I've never ever done anything wrong my entire life
I've never stolen anything, I've kept my nose clean, no drugs, no alchohol and I always kept to myself.
Yet he's always patroling outside my room, with this delusion that I'm smoking weed or something, and he has this weird psychological thing going on with him where he smells stuff burning all the time. When I was in my early teens, he'd accuse me of being a drug dealer, or a thief, or a liar just because. He doesn't seem to do it to my bro and sis, but he just randomly yells at me, and gives me extreme shit for nothing.
But really, I'm just itching to give him a rude awakening one of these days.
he saw your character and thinks your a prostitute
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Hanna wrote on 2013-03-31 18:59
I don't know what to say other than what a paranoid asshole, I hope he regrets this one day
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Milk wrote on 2013-03-31 19:01
I don't think he hates you per say but my dad does something similar. I think hes just trying to make sure that you never get into doing drugs and junk ever which is pretty much a parents job. I'd just let him talk and get it out of his system, as long as he doesn't touch you or takes things way to far. Then words are just words. You know that you aren't doing anything wrong or illegal so id just leave it at that. My dad picks on me from time to time because I choose to spend my free time on the computer rather than doing "normal guy stuff." It pisses me off as well but I just let him talk because I know he knows nothing about me. :3
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Kouki wrote on 2013-03-31 19:30
Yeah sounds like he is just mentally unstable. Have you tried therapy maybe? That could be a possible way to help him, and know if he really does have a mental problem, which could just get worse if it's left untreated...
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BizarreJuju wrote on 2013-03-31 19:55
Keep your room door open
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Cucurbita wrote on 2013-03-31 20:05
My mom wasn't much different.
I've never smoked, hung out with people who smoked, or even gone near smoke. Then when I get home she'd sniff me and ask if I've been smoking. Completely wild paranoid delusions.
It might be a wild mix of paranoia and natural parenthood. You should really have a talk with your dad about this. Ask questions like "Why can't you trust me, your son?" and "What can I do to prove to you that I wouldn't do those things?". Let him know that you're really suffering because of his accusations and it makes you feel hated.
If he has any speck of reasoning in his head, he should at least calm down for a few weeks. By his nature, he might return to doing it again soon, but at least it buys you some time to breath. If he straight up rejects your approach, oh well. Doesn't hurt to try though.
Quote from BizarreJuju;1059165:
Keep your room door open
This is helpful. Do this.
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Ninjam wrote on 2013-03-31 20:59
Quote from Cucurbita;1059173:
My mom wasn't much different.
I've never smoked, hung out with people who smoked, or even gone near smoke. Then when I get home she'd sniff me and ask if I've been smoking. Completely wild paranoid delusions.
It might be a wild mix of paranoia and natural parenthood. You should really have a talk with your dad about this. Ask questions like "Why can't you trust me, your son?" and "What can I do to prove to you that I wouldn't do those things?". Let him know that you're really suffering because of his accusations and it makes you feel hated.
If he has any speck of reasoning in his head, he should at least calm down for a few weeks. By his nature, he might return to doing it again soon, but at least it buys you some time to breath. If he straight up rejects your approach, oh well. Doesn't hurt to try though.
This is helpful. Do this.
My mom did something like this, except wild aqusations that I looked at porn. I talked to my dad about it, whos advice was, and I quote "Dont lie to your mother, and make sure to only leave out normal porn to show her your not a sexual devient."
He also got my mom to let me into the sex ed class, by threatening to buy me a playboy if she didnt sign the permission slips.
I miss him so much.
As everyone has said, talk to your father, tell him your not smoking or anything, and leave your door open will all help probably. If he doesn't stop, try asking another, more rational family member for help. My mother threw a fit a few months ago when I moved out because she is very overprotective, so I had an aunt talk to her about why its perfectly natural for a 19 year old to move out.
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Eirys wrote on 2013-03-31 21:29
Talk to your siblings/mother about it! See if they can give you some insight...
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Space Pirate Nithiel wrote on 2013-03-31 21:47
Quote from Froglord of DESTINY!!!;1059063:
I'm really just itching to give him a rude awakening one of these days, it's pissing me off so much.
My step-dad and I recently got in a huge fight and beat the shit out of each other.
Now we get along better.
Try that.
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mageisfun wrote on 2013-04-01 14:00
Quote from Froglord of DESTINY!!!;1059063:
I've never ever done anything wrong my entire life
I've never stolen anything, I've kept my nose clean, no drugs, no alchohol and I always kept to myself.
Yet he's always patroling outside my room, with this delusion that I'm smoking weed or something, and he has this weird psychological thing going on with him where he smells stuff burning all the time. When I was in my early teens, he'd accuse me of being a drug dealer, or a thief, or a liar just because. He doesn't seem to do it to my bro and sis, but he just randomly yells at me, and gives me extreme shit for nothing.
I'm really just itching to give him a rude awakening one of these days, it's pissing me off so much.
I definetly wouldn't say he hates you, he just sounds paranoid to the degree where there is something wrong with him. He sounds somewhat mentally unstable, I'd say talk to your family about it.
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Aubog007 wrote on 2013-04-03 10:21
Have you ever asked him why? Try counseling, I am sure he has his "reasons".
I always thought my mother hated me for a long time due to the actions and random ass shit she did, but she had her own "legitimate" reasons.
Took her death to see it from her eyes and not my own.
SLIGHTLY understood it better, still not the best, but i know she had a good heart.
I just wish she was alive so i could ask her directly "why".
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otto wrote on 2013-04-03 16:50
Quote from Cucurbita;1059173:
My mom wasn't much different.
I've never smoked, hung out with people who smoked, or even gone near smoke. Then when I get home she'd sniff me and ask if I've been smoking. Completely wild paranoid delusions.
Paranoia + Parents is never fun.
My mother assumes everything I do has some ulterior motive. I can go walk my dog for an hour and return to "Did you have fun hanging out with your friends instead of walking the dog?"
I cant leave my house without an interrogation, and she thinks im dating any friend i hang out with more than once a week lmao. She'll drop me off to class and then accuse me of skipping, etc etc. Ridiculous.
If you do ask him why he thinks you're smoking, avoid sounding defensive since that'll probably make the situation worse. Maybe you can go get a drug test done with him so he'll leave you alone?
... im half serious about that one.
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TLCBonaparte wrote on 2013-04-03 22:23
Quote from Froglord of DESTINY!!!;1059063:
I've never ever done anything wrong my entire life
I've never stolen anything, I've kept my nose clean, no drugs, no alchohol and I always kept to myself.
Yet he's always patroling outside my room, with this delusion that I'm smoking weed or something, and he has this weird psychological thing going on with him where he smells stuff burning all the time. When I was in my early teens, he'd accuse me of being a drug dealer, or a thief, or a liar just because. He doesn't seem to do it to my bro and sis, but he just randomly yells at me, and gives me extreme shit for nothing.
I'm really just itching to give him a rude awakening one of these days, it's pissing me off so much.
That remind me of some buddhist wisdom. To solve your problem, you must seek its origin. Why does he do what he does? Maybe it's something you said, maybe it's something he experienced. Sometime we need to look at something from all angles before we find its root.
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MareneCorp wrote on 2013-04-03 22:27
If all those nice things said above fails, just be blunt.
"Why the fuck are you picking on me? Do you WANT me to do drugs?"
... Which is probably not a good idea but I'm great for instigating fights.
Let him know you're serious though. You shouldn't have to be sugarcoating to your dad if he thinks there's something wrong with you.