Finally was able to come out

• Hexed wrote on 2013-04-16 18:41
  Well I had been in a really low place all day because of some things my parents had said last night not knowing that I'm gay. I felt like I couldn't just keep on without being able to talk to someone about this, so I came out to one of my best friends. Everything went well and now I just feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
  
  Just sharing because it was something that made me incredibly happy. :whistle:
  
  I thought I was going to be sick from the nerves before hand though.
• Hanna wrote on 2013-04-16 18:43
  [video=youtube;2YUcMJFKZEM]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2YUcMJFKZEM[/video]
  Congratulations
• Kingofrunes wrote on 2013-04-16 18:47
  Well it's a step I'll say. You won't ever be fully free until you are able to come out to everyone about it. But baby steps at a time is always good.
  
  It shouldn't really have to be this way if people weren't so bloody ignorant and prejudice about it.
• Hexed wrote on 2013-04-16 18:52
  Yeah, im going to probably talk to some more of my friends I can trust soon, but it will take a while for my parents, especially considering some of the things that they said yesterday that got me in that low place. Once I can come out to them, I'm hoping it will be a lot easier to just be completely open.
• Cynic wrote on 2013-04-16 19:06
  Just don't feel like you need to rush it. As long as you accept yourself and are happy with yourself, then that's already a huge step. Coming out isn't always easy, many times because it can actually cause more harm than good for some people, so take it one step at a time.
  
  But congratulations for coming this far.~
• Phunkie wrote on 2013-04-16 20:19
  You're so brave!! I'm so proud of you. :)
• Taycat wrote on 2013-04-16 21:54
  I'm a little curious, but is it alright if you repeated a few snippets of what they said? I understand if they hurt you too much.
  
  Congratulations! Baby steps are the best way to go about it. The next thing is to have huge hints that you're gay to your parents and eventually they'll catch on.
• Hexed wrote on 2013-04-16 22:10
  Thanks for all the kind words c:
  
  

  Quote from Mythical Detective Loki X;1069169:

  I'm a little curious, but is it alright if you repeated a few snippets of what they said? I understand if they hurt you too much.

  
  
  Well we were sitting at the table eating, and my dad started telling us about something that happened earlier in the day. In horror he told us about how he saw a boy wearing tight shorts and a pink tank top "prancing" around the parking lot with a purse in his hands. He then went on to make multiple comments about how he hates those goddamn faggots and how if you shave your legs and wear "girly" clothes, you arent a real man (Jokes on him, I'm thinking about shaving my legs once i'm fully out and don't have to worry about raising suspicion. And I couldn't leave the table when he was going on about this, because my family is one of those that doesn't let you leave the table until everyone is done and all that.). And it was actually mostly my father saying all this crap, but my mother listened to the story equally as horrified. I always pretty much figured they weren't very accepting, but this is the first time I heard either of them being this homophobic and insulting, and it didn't leave me in a very good mood afterwards.
• Taycat wrote on 2013-04-16 22:15
  How could he be so sure that was a guy prancing around anyway? It could have been a female and he would have said something equally as offensive, I"m sure. Your parents must be stuck in the old ways or whatever they call it, in thinking.
• Hexed wrote on 2013-04-16 22:44

  Quote from Mythical Detective Loki X;1069184:

  How could he be so sure that was a guy prancing around anyway? It could have been a female and he would have said something equally as offensive, I"m sure. Your parents must be stuck in the old ways or whatever they call it, in thinking.

  
  
  Yeah, idk either, but he saw them as a guy and apparently it was terrifying. And yeah they are.
• Friggerton wrote on 2013-04-16 22:52
  Some words I'd like to offer as a Christian Libertarian:
  
  I'm not totally sure if homosexuality is a sin or not, as I've seen scriptural references and analysis for both sides.
  
  IF it should be considered a sin by Christian standards:
  

  
  
  • You would be completely loved by Jesus, who spent the majority of his ministry among sinners.
    
  • I would be called to love a homosexual person as I would anyone else.
    
  • I would oppose government restrictions on gay marriage. It's my religion, not yours, so I won't impose values taken directly from my religion on you. Political pressure would be the last motivator a Christian ought to use, I think, to minister.
    

  
  
  ^ Things you can point out to anyone who harasses you based on Christian standards.
• Fabian wrote on 2013-04-16 23:09

  Quote from Hexed;1069176:

  Thanks for all the kind words c:
  
  
  
  Well we were sitting at the table eating, and my dad started telling us about something that happened earlier in the day. In horror he told us about how he saw a boy wearing tight shorts and a pink tank top "prancing" around the parking lot with a purse in his hands. He then went on to make multiple comments about how he hates those goddamn faggots and how if you shave your legs and wear "girly" clothes, you arent a real man (Jokes on him, I'm thinking about shaving my legs once i'm fully out and don't have to worry about raising suspicion. And I couldn't leave the table when he was going on about this, because my family is one of those that doesn't let you leave the table until everyone is done and all that.). And it was actually mostly my father saying all this crap, but my mother listened to the story equally as horrified. I always pretty much figured they weren't very accepting, but this is the first time I heard either of them being this homophobic and insulting, and it didn't leave me in a very good mood afterwards.

  
  
  Wait, you didn't object to such comments? I've corrected my mother several times when she starts to use racial stereotypes. So far she's been pretty understanding about it. I could understand if you are scared though, since fathers tend to be a lot more aggressive than mothers (I only have my mom).
• Hexed wrote on 2013-04-17 01:17

  Quote from Friggerton;1069207:

  Some words I'd like to offer as a Christian Libertarian:
  
  I'm not totally sure if homosexuality is a sin or not, as I've seen scriptural references and analysis for both sides.
  
  IF it should be considered a sin by Christian standards:
  

  
  
  • You would be completely loved by Jesus, who spent the majority of his ministry among sinners.
    
  • I would be called to love a homosexual person as I would anyone else.
    
  • I would oppose government restrictions on gay marriage. It's my religion, not yours, so I won't impose values taken directly from my religion on you. Political pressure would be the last motivator a Christian ought to use, I think, to minister.
    

  
  
  ^ Things you can point out to anyone who harasses you based on Christian standards.

  
  
  Thank you so much, the world needs more people like you.
  
  
  And I didn't really say anything because just in general im not the person who really stands up to people. If I see like my friends are being hurt by someone else's words, I probably will, but I generally just dont want to start anything with people. And most likely if I said anything they would have drawn out the conversation even longer, and then I would have been forced to participate, not just try to block it out until they were done.
• Friggerton wrote on 2013-04-17 05:37

  Quote from Hexed;1069299:

  Thank you so much, the world needs more people like you.
  
  
  And I didn't really say anything because just in general im not the person who really stands up to people. If I see like my friends are being hurt by someone else's words, I probably will, but I generally just dont want to start anything with people. And most likely if I said anything they would have drawn out the conversation even longer, and then I would have been forced to participate, not just try to block it out until they were done.

  
  
  Thank you for your appreciation and kind words - and reading past the part where I said I was Christian. It's pretty plain from our own "textbook" that we're not supposed to be bigots.
  
  One benefit it being difficult to stir up passionate emotions in me is I can reason and argue more objectively.
• Aubog007 wrote on 2013-04-17 06:45
  I find this absolutely hilarious, not your struggle i mean, the fact that people are so close minded.
  
  I've had people come up to me and ask me if i am gay because of all the odd jokes i have said, and they were like "we won't judge you or anything"
  I go wow. Really you think i am gay? Least they wouldn't treat me any differently, the people where i live act like this. "Whatever happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom"
  
  Even my dad would give no fucks if i was gay or not.
  I know for a fact i am completely straight though.
  
  
  It's just stupid that people are not as accepting, like... Why?
  
  People are trashy it seems