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Yogurticecream wrote on 2013-11-12 14:51
Remember the times when something (or many things) about you was being brought up by your parents, who then compared it (or them) to someone else's and said that you were worst/better than them?
What would that something (or many things) be for you?
For me, one of those were grades when I was much younger. My parents don't really do it much nowadays but they still do when comparing achievements and so on.
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Elleanior wrote on 2013-11-12 15:49
I always got compared to my older siblings, because everybody thought that among children of mental problems, I didn't have any, and so I could do much better at school than they could.
Turns out that they were oh, so wrong, and I've got the same problems as everybody else. And did they believe me when I was explaining that I had those problems? Not until they got out of hand and I had to be held back a year. After I'd been trying to tell them for years.
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frncsjhnhawaii wrote on 2013-11-12 16:51
An only child here but I have really intelligent younger cousins in the Philippines, college degree at age 18 type of intelligent. My parents used to tell me that if I was still in the homeland, I'd be doomed to a life of hard labor or a subordinate of my younger cousins. At least here in America, even average students who weren't from a rich family can still make a decent living.
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Chockeh wrote on 2013-11-12 17:14
My teachers compared me to a junkie that wouldn't achieve much. Bitch, I'm graduating in college for Computerized Systems and entering university for Engineering.
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SlurpTASTY wrote on 2013-11-12 18:07
I think it's fucked up when parents compare their kids to strangers. My parents would always say why don't you go to church as much as the other kids which I thought was a dumb comparison but still pissed me right off.
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Kingofrunes wrote on 2013-11-12 18:31
I don't really think my parents compared me much with others growing up but I have heard them compare my other siblings to me grade wise. (Mostly an issue when someone was failing one or more classes. If you were passing everything, they were generally happy.) and even then they kept that to a minimum.
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800mans wrote on 2013-11-12 19:45
I've always been compared to general society. My parents have always said that I'm weird in my opinions, approach to life, thought process, etc. since its largely different from an average person in society. I guess I tend to overdo things as in, I always follow a logical,rational, unbiased approach as much as possible. I care about practicality too much, I can't accept things without understanding them or if the particular *thing* didn't have valid scientific/mathematical/logical proof behind it. I also tend to think philosophically about random things all the time and seem to be able to only talk about philosophy or *deep* discussions rather than small talk. I guess i'm relatively introverted. My parents have always said that I'd fail in the real world due to these particular traits. I've always been compared to other kids in ways like: Why can't you think more like them, go socialize more like them, etc. It's weird cause they can't accept introverts/these particular traits as a real personality. They think introverts are just extroverts who have mental problems which is disappointing.
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TLCBonaparte wrote on 2013-11-12 20:51
My parents use to do this a lot until I told them it's having an effect on my self esteem, and now they stop mentioning it.