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Kurloz wrote on 2014-02-19 15:44
whenever im about to come out to my parents they always say they will be disappointed if im trans or gay or say something really transphobic/homophobic and i am literally so done :imdead:
i probably will end up not telling them at all
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Jedo wrote on 2014-02-19 15:53
Honestly, I don't tell people unless they ask. I don't want to cause unwanted drama and parents can be the worse. However, things could turn out really well and bring you all closer together.
I say only tell your parents if you really want them to know. But if you're worried they'll be disappointed you don't have to.
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Kurloz wrote on 2014-02-19 16:01
Quote from Jedo;1199764:
Honestly, I don't tell people unless they ask. I don't want to cause unwanted drama and parents can be the worse. However, things could turn out really well and bring you all closer together.
I say only tell your parents if you really want them to know. But if you're worried they'll be disappointed you don't have to.
i guess it isnt necessary right now anyway hahaha
its hard to get people to use your preferred pronouns when you dont look the part
but hey im leaving the house in like 4 years (p close to me) and then i can do whatever i want
but still, i guess ill tell them when they really wanna know
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Jedo wrote on 2014-02-19 16:09
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i guess it isnt necessary right now anyway hahaha
its hard to get people to use your preferred pronouns when you dont look the part
but hey im leaving the house in like 4 years (p close to me) and then i can do whatever i want
but still, i guess ill tell them when they really wanna know
If you'd like you could just ask people to use those pronouns. I get how you feel my parents are not supportive of my lifestyle and I sort of regret telling my mom. If and when you tell them, and if things don't end well, give it time. Often parents come around.
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Kurloz wrote on 2014-02-19 16:17
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If you'd like you could just ask people to use those pronouns. I get how you feel my parents are not supportive of my lifestyle and I sort of regret telling my mom. If and when you tell them, and if things don't end well, give it time. Often parents come around.
hopefully they wont mind if or when i come out
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mageisfun wrote on 2014-02-19 16:17
I don't tell anyone about my sexuality/am open about it unless they ask, or no for a fact that they won't care. You don't want to end up telling the wrong person, or doing something you'll regret.
And honestly, for someone who is strongly against that kind of lifestyle, it's probably just best to not tell them. I live in a rather 'Southern' town, where the majority are against lifestyles such as mine, and people can, and will, make a pretty big deal over sexual orientation. I also haven't told all of my family members, for good reason, as I'm not a fan of unnecessary conflict. I know it can feel like a bother to not tell them, but from the sound of it, might be best to leave it unsaid, or at least until you're financially stable.
Even if you don't come out to your parents, there are always others you can turn to. I'm an active member of the PFLAG group in my area, you should check to see if you have one.
But in the end it's your choice, and I hope with whatever you choose, it goes over well.
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Kurloz wrote on 2014-02-19 16:44
Quote from mageisfun;1199773:
I don't tell anyone about my sexuality/am open about it unless they ask, or no for a fact that they won't care. You don't want to end up telling the wrong person, or doing something you'll regret.
And honestly, for someone who is strongly against that kind of lifestyle, it's probably just best to not tell them. I live in a rather 'Southern' town, where the majority are against lifestyles such as mine, and people can, and will, make a pretty big deal over sexual orientation. I also haven't told all of my family members, for good reason, as I'm not a fan of unnecessary conflict. I know it can feel like a bother to not tell them, but from the sound of it, might be best to leave it unsaid, or at least until you're financially stable.
Even if you don't come out to your parents, there are always others you can turn to. I'm an active member of the PFLAG group in my area, you should check to see if you have one.
But in the end it's your choice, and I hope with whatever you choose, it goes over well.
it isnt much of an issue to come out over here because i live in england
one of my parents arent british so they dont have the same beliefs. the other one wouldnt mind as much its just that one that causes an issue. but like i said, eventually i can leave and do whatever.
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Kyishi wrote on 2014-02-19 16:54
not like it's their business, anyway
..never talked to my parents about my sex life, before.
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Kurloz wrote on 2014-02-19 16:57
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not like it's their business, anyway
..never talked to my parents about my sex life, before.
i need their permission to do anything regarding gender though
aaa pain
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mageisfun wrote on 2014-02-19 16:59
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i need their permission to do anything regarding gender though
aaa pain
Well, you won't have to be under your parent's thumb forever, so just know it'll get better.
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Kurloz wrote on 2014-02-19 17:05
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Well, you won't have to be under your parent's thumb forever, so just know it'll get better.
yep and i cant wait until i can do whatever :llama_excited:
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Kyishi wrote on 2014-02-19 17:09
...this is why i kept all of my boyfriends a secret, when I was a youngin'.
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GODZILLA wrote on 2014-02-19 18:29
Maybe it's because I'm old and hate/distance myself from my parents,[S]and also not human,[/S] but I don't understand why it matters that parents know what their children rub their genitals against.
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Space Pirate Nithiel wrote on 2014-02-19 18:40
You NEVER tell your parents you are gay until you have money, a car, and somewhere you can move to. Or better yet, wait until you've already moved out. It's a -really- dumb idea to tell people that control your life something that will make them hate you.
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Cynic wrote on 2014-02-19 23:40
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Maybe it's because I'm old and hate/distance myself from my parents,[S]and also not human,[/S] but I don't understand why it matters that parents know what their children rub their genitals against.
Depends, really. If your parents aren't assholes then I don't see any reason not to tell 'um. My Mom knows I'm trans, polysexual, monogamous, kinky, and all that jazz because we're close and I simply see no reason why I should have to keep it a secret.
If your parent(s) is a bigot, though, then it usually ends up being counterproductive.
But as the OP mentioned, it could really end up sucking if you need their permission for anything sex/sexuality/identity related. Which, to my knowledge, you always do.