Old "best friend" no longer wants be friends ... thinking of deleting this one pet

• Aubog007 wrote on 2014-07-19 00:29
  Frankly. If you call someone a best friend, that should be something important.
  My best friends are people who even if i don't talk to them for a year or so, will always have my back.
  
  Since we got all philosophical in this thread, most best friends are just friends, and most friends are just acquaintances.
• Kaeporo wrote on 2014-07-19 01:10

  Quote from Lunamaniac;1233065:

  Descartes' cogito makes more sense than this. Please forgive me, but you'll have to word that in a way that other people can understand.

  
  
  I will attempt to clarify by rewording and explaining the statement. I understand that I am clarifying this statement for you. To that end, I also understand that I am rationalizing the fact that I am choosing to understand that I am clarifying this statement for you.
  
  Should the imposed psychological and rational limitations obtained from what we perceive of humanity hinder our creativity, our ability to feel and rationalize those feelings? To understand that we feel a certain way and analyze something from a broader perspective than our own psyche allows us to more strongly define and then justify our emotions. It's no more mechanical a process than the gears of flesh and bone.
  
  If you are raised a certain way you will likely believe certain things. Rape is good. Does this statement offend you? It should probably offend you because you were likely taught to be offended by this statement. Instead of being offended you should instead first be excited about having been granted the opportunity to learn more about yourself and humanity entire. After taking a step back and viewing the subject matter from multiple difference perspectives, you are then (in my opinion) able to justify your emotional reaction.
  
  Perhaps something terrible has happened to you in the past and as a result your ability to comprehend such matters is beyond you. I would not blame you for such incidents but in my opinion you have been broken. There may exist no cures for your injuries but seeking mental or perhaps spiritual help may help you. I have been led to believe that they have helped many others.
  
  Imagine a world were rape was seen as good. Where it was required as a means of survival, as it is for many species. Instead imagine a world where everyone was a pirate—by no means illogical concerning our newborn digital age. Is stealing still wrong? Can you then justify it? Does it even matter? Perhaps not but the fact that you asked these questions instead of lamely believing authority figures (be they media or parental figures) insinuates a creative mind that's able to tackle real world issues and possibly get us off this rock before the sun devours us.
  
  Emotions are not bad. Bad, a relative term and a lazy way of describing things of which understanding them might hurt you. Raw, illogical emotions, might be harmful. It's good to express things like joy and sorrow but you should understand why you feel a certain way; understand that you are Human and to not use your emotions as an excuse for you to abandon your ability to reason.
• Prague wrote on 2014-07-19 06:41
  I still have pets named after ex-boyfriends who did unspeakable things from like 2 to 4 years ago.
  
  Then again i'm also really poor and cheap and frugal as heck so I can't delete them because of wasting the $$$$$$$$$$.
  
  And most of them are clouds. ):
• Cho wrote on 2014-07-19 07:21
  I seldom name pets after friends, but in the case that I do and my friendship or whatever ends up going downhill, I would never delete the pet at all. I just use the symbolism I gave to the pet as a subtle reminder of the perhaps silly memories me and them had, whether good or bad. Sometimes, it's not all bad to remember, I suppose.
  
  It's not always bothersome to have a little reminder at times, as some memories of what were my previous friends still do make me kind of happy.
• Fracture wrote on 2014-07-19 21:50

  Quote from Cho;1233146:

  I seldom name pets after friends, but in the case that I do and my friendship or whatever ends up going downhill, I would never delete the pet at all. I just use the symbolism I gave to the pet as a subtle reminder of the perhaps silly memories me and them had, whether good or bad. Sometimes, it's not all bad to remember, I suppose.
  
  It's not always bothersome to have a little reminder at times, as some memories of what were my previous friends still do make me kind of happy.

  
  
  Exactly this. Just because things have changed doesn't mean the good times never happened. Cherish the memories you have of when things between you were happy, because in the end, memories are really all you have.
• Aubog007 wrote on 2014-07-20 05:03
  More philosophical ramblings from me. Since we are talking about "remember the good times". I remember both good and bad, because those things affected who you are and what you have become, you never should regret anything unless it was a 100% loss.
• Kyishi wrote on 2014-07-21 05:47
  wtf
  this is why i don't get emotional over friends.
• Clarey wrote on 2014-07-23 18:59
  In my opinion, don't name crap after anyone, best friends, friends or relationships, it is stupid because sad truth there are very few people who have a friend who they've been friends with their whole life. I'm constantly told that by people at least, because my RL best friend and I have known each other since we were four years old and we are now turning 21. Anyways if it was meaningless to them, then don't waste the time being saddened by the trash that this person is. By deleting and getting rid of them you are just showing that you are hurt by them. Its okay to be hurt and sad, but take any pain and become stronger.