Life is one of the craziest roller coasters, man.
There's good, there's bad, there's ugly. I'm a huge advocate of "no matter what happens, don't give up," but most recently, this past year, I've been witness to another amazing life lesson.
Don't wait until you feel ready to do something. Chances are, you will never be 100%. And that's alright, because none of us are.
This applies to looking for new jobs, starting that gym routine you been wanting to do, ending your friendship with that person you know very well in your heart isn't good for you in the long-term, etc. This applies especially in love. SO much.
Feelings are some of the most fleeting things in life. One day, all is well and you're happy, then one day all is wrong and you're unhappy. One day, all is well, but you're unhappy, then one day all is going wrong, but you feel peaceful inside.
Don't depend on your feelings to ever accomplish something. Sure, it's good to feel good about applying to jobs, but trust me, it won't always last. Focus more on getting that job, instead of how you feel along the way.
More often than not, I see couples break up because they felt the love had gone away or they weren't into each other that much anymore. And sure, after trying to work things out, I'm sure these are acceptable excuses, but don't ever choose just a feeling to determine an outcome. Choose real actions.
I've learned that love is more action than anything else. Meeting my boyfriend, I can honestly tell you that I wasn't expecting too much from it. In my head, he wasn't my type of guy, but I took that risk. Man, my feelings in the beginning weren't too confident, but I kept going, overlooking what I felt, because I knew that if I kept seeing him and putting in work into dating him, I'd eventually develop something that mattered more than just a great first impression.
I love him to death today. He's so much cuter today than I originally thought he was when I met him. Haha, and that's because I learned to love him for him and to break out of that silly "type" thing.
Similarly, my last job, I HATED everyone there. But a funny thing about loving someone is that when you keep seeing someone, it could be a friend or someone romantically, you tend to grow fonder and fonder of them as you, even if you hate them. I hated those people man. I used to say such horrible things about who they were and how they acted, but today, I can honestly say that I miss them, haha. Being nice to them, even when I didn't want to, made me grow fonder of who they were, even if I didn't always like how they acted.
Imagine if I had waited to feel like I wanted to date my boyfriend or imagine if I had waited to feel like I truly wanted to like those old-coworkers of mine, I would have not made it to where I am now. I had to work on those relationships, even when I didn't want to, in order to build something out of them.
"But Joel, this doesn't make sense. What if I really don't want to go to the gym? What if I really don't want to appreciate my girlfriend because she cursed me out yesterday? What if I really don't feel like I'm going to get a good job?"
Who cares? Do it anyway. Go to the gym. Appreciate your girl, show her you're the bigger person. Send out those resumes anyway.
Don't wait until you feel you're ready, because you're gonna be waiting a really long time, if not forever.
Love you all!