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Andy-Buddy wrote on 2010-09-13 06:18
So lately I've been thinking about sex.
Namely, what it is, why, and why not?
I've already decided on no sex now.
But, it hasn't exactly been cemented in my head until today.
I saw something today that helped me make a decision on abstinence.
[video=youtube;FdtnnLI1di0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FdtnnLI1di0[/video]
I just want to know, what are your views on abstinence?
And if you've already lost it, do you regret it/wished you waited longer?
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Shirayuki wrote on 2010-09-13 06:24
I'm holding onto my innocence until marriage, mostly because I think sex is overrated :D I just stick to the Tier 2 relationship stuff :3
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Andy-Buddy wrote on 2010-09-13 06:29
Oh, and just so people know why I'm wondering, I'm 15, and the farthest I've gone is a single kiss on the lips.
No, not making out.
So... Halfway to First Base?
& @ Shira, Good for you. I've been thinking the same, but I'm just so curious about what it's like...
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Chillax wrote on 2010-09-13 06:29
If you're ready for it, it'll happen naturally, with consent from both parties. Before having sex, you need to make sure you're prepared for what consequences come after it.
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-09-13 08:47
I love the video, especially how "sex ceases to be special and becomes a daily routine act," when you have too much of it.
I don't disagree with abstinence when it's a personal decision. When it's a religious decision, it tends to bother me more. But that's because I don't agree with religion. (That's a whole other topic though.)
And yes, I wish I would've waited longer. But people shouldn't worry so much about their "first time," IMO. Yes, it is special, but I don't like how people look down on others because their first time wasn't with their "first love." As long as it's not with a stranger, it's alright, even if it's not your "first love."
Just make sure you do it when you feel ready and that the other person is special, even if it's just a friend.
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Iyasenu wrote on 2010-09-13 09:07
I'm staying abstinent until marriage, for me.
I want to be like my parents and grandparents were before me.
And I don't want to be "not ready" for things that could happen.
And, I want to wait until I'm older and would be able to deal with the responsibilities that can arise from that, especially if you don't use measures to prevent pregnancy.
But of course, it's easy to avoid having sex when you don't have someone you care for in that way! :lol:
just finished the video and i gotta say, I would like my first time to be extra-special and with someone I deeply care for.
So it really did cement my decision to be abstinent until I'm ready.
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Zid wrote on 2010-09-13 17:06
Regretted losing "it"? Yeah. Wished I waited longer? Yeah. It's all in the past, so I can't change it, so I don't want to brood over it.
Abstinence is... ironic to me if you were in my shoes. I'm Catholic, so... "No, no, no. No sex until marriage. No divorces either." But, here I am, I broke that. I already said how I felt about that,
especially in an earlier thread. What's important that I want to point out is, it's entirely your decision to be abstinence or not.
I have deep respect for those who abstain until marriage. Because to me it means they see sex as a special thing of their life and that they only want to experience it with that special someone they want to be with the rest of their life.
Don't take it the wrong way though; it doesn't have to be their first time. If you had sex before,
in no way does it invalidate the special value you place on any specific future sex, especially with a special someone, like your spouse.
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Zid wrote on 2010-09-13 17:06
Regretted losing "it"? Yeah. Wished I waited longer? Yeah. It's all in the past, so I can't change it, so I don't want to brood over it.
Abstinence is... ironic to me if you were in my shoes. I'm Catholic, so... "No, no, no. No sex until marriage. No divorces either." But, here I am, I broke that. I already said how I felt about that,
especially in an earlier thread. What's important that I want to point out is, it's entirely your decision to be abstinence or not.
I have deep respect for those who abstain until marriage. Because to me it means they see sex as a special thing of their life and that they only want to experience it with that special someone they want to be with the rest of their life.
Don't take it the wrong way though; it doesn't have to be their first time. If you had sex before,
in no way does it invalidate the special value you place on any specific future sex, especially with a special someone, like your spouse.
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Tatsu wrote on 2010-09-13 17:24
Eh... I want a girlfriend/boyfriend simply because they'd be my girlfriend/boyfriend. Unlike at my school, where having a girlfriend or a boyfriend means you have someone to smoke weed with and have sex with.
So, not exactly abstinence until marriage, but more like abstinence until I find someone that I really like (at that point in time). Such a pure, innocent and virgin-like response from a corrupted soul!
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Berry0 wrote on 2010-09-14 01:55
Well, to be honest, I haven't really dwelled on this subject. I'm still young, so I don't think about it very much. I'm planning on having my first time with someone I truly love and trust, but.. I would like to at least be 18 before having my first time. Having sex at a ridiculously young age, like 13 or 14, is just.. a little messed up. I don't mean any offense to anyone who might have already "gotten some" or didn't want it.
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mewball wrote on 2010-09-14 02:02
Like it would happen to me LOL.
Not but srsly IDC owo; I wouldn't do it right now o: if i really liked the person theres other stuff i can do with them then >.>;
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Adelynn wrote on 2010-09-14 02:27
I can't watch the video because I'm in a classroom.
I'm saving "it" for someone special, and when we know we're really going to be together. It's for someone that I'd want to have sex with because I love them, not someone I'd love because I want to have sex with them.
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ShadowFox31 wrote on 2010-09-14 07:28
Ironically... I might be the only one here that sorta regrets NOT having sex... or more importantly, not having a relationship with someone.
The more and more I think about it, It makes me a little... isolated... from everyone else. I've never had a DEFENITE girlfriend. I had a lot of friends, I took a nice girl to prom, hell, there are people today that still go "HAY! IT'S SHAWN!!!" when I'm just like " Hay! you! how you doing?" ... but I've never been close with anyone. Nobody was around me that did like the same things, and the ones that did, I just feel like they are acting out their life way too much. There are many people that I tend to talk to about their high school days and girl/boyfriends, then when they ask me about it, I can only respond I never had one. I still haven't been kissed on the lips too. It makes me feel more NEETish everyday. Sometimes, I wish I could find someone that does like the same things as me, but I also don't want to look out there in every corner just to sound very desperate.
but yea, I suggest trying to get a relationship in high school. At the very least. > >;;
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-09-14 07:42
Quote from ShadowFox31;154734:
Ironically... I might be the only one here that sorta regrets NOT having sex... or more importantly, not having a relationship with someone.
The more and more I think about it, It makes me a little... isolated... from everyone else. I've never had a DEFENITE girlfriend. I had a lot of friends, I took a nice girl to prom, hell, there are people today that still go "HAY! IT'S SHAWN!!!" when I'm just like " Hay! you! how you doing?" ... but I've never been close with anyone. Nobody was around me that did like the same things, and the ones that did, I just feel like they are acting out their life way too much. There are many people that I tend to talk to about their high school days and girl/boyfriends, then when they ask me about it, I can only respond I never had one. I still haven't been kissed on the lips too. It makes me feel more NEETish everyday. Sometimes, I wish I could find someone that does like the same things as me, but I also don't want to look out there in every corner just to sound very desperate.
but yea, I suggest trying to get a relationship in high school. At the very least. > >;;
Your time will come! When it's least expected too!
Life works in funny ways like that. Worry not. :)
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Andy-Buddy wrote on 2010-09-14 07:43
Quote from ShadowFox31;154734:
Ironically... I might be the only one here that sorta regrets NOT having sex... or more importantly, not having a relationship with someone.
The more and more I think about it, It makes me a little... isolated... from everyone else. I've never had a DEFENITE girlfriend. I had a lot of friends, I took a nice girl to prom, hell, there are people today that still go "HAY! IT'S SHAWN!!!" when I'm just like " Hay! you! how you doing?" ... but I've never been close with anyone. Nobody was around me that did like the same things, and the ones that did, I just feel like they are acting out their life way too much. There are many people that I tend to talk to about their high school days and girl/boyfriends, then when they ask me about it, I can only respond I never had one. I still haven't been kissed on the lips too. It makes me feel more NEETish everyday. Sometimes, I wish I could find someone that does like the same things as me, but I also don't want to look out there in every corner just to sound very desperate.
but yea, I suggest trying to get a relationship in high school. At the very least. > >;;
About time we had something from the other view.
It's like a balance, right? You can have a relationship without having sex, and waiting is a good thing?