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Adelynn wrote on 2010-12-24 02:11
Until I'm sure I'm ready, and there's a few factors that contribute into being ready. That all depends on the person so I can't say I have a set amount of time I think is right.
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Teaberry wrote on 2010-12-24 02:13
My average is about 1 week before we started dating, but I don't particularly recommend it. It differs from couple to couple and also depends on their ages. Older couples tend to jump into the sack faster, as sex slowly becomes less and less "sacred" and more "normal human function". Even saying that, my relationships were never specifically for the sex. There was just a knowledge that there was physical mutual attraction and we didn't feel like punishing ourselves just to appear more chaste.
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Intex wrote on 2010-12-24 02:29
I don't see why girls who are "easy" and girls who wait years before having sex are looked at so differently. Is it wrong to think that different women want and are affected differently by sex? I've heard the negative emotional effects that sex can have on women who are not ready but I feel like society is mostly at fault for this issue. You become impure and a slut over something that you've all described as "not that amazing" and "doesn't last that long." Women in some foreign countries are much less inhibited by such standards and have a lot more sex than women in America yet I don't read about any adverse effects from it.
As for marriage, I don't see how your relationship with your spouse will change enough for you to suddenly be able to have sex. If you're getting married shouldn't you love your spouse just as much before and after marriage (short span of time)? Is this just another purity thing?
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Skye wrote on 2010-12-24 02:49
Quote from Intex;260148:
As for marriage, I don't see how your relationship with your spouse will change enough for you to suddenly be able to have sex. If you're getting married shouldn't you love your spouse just as much before and after marriage (short span of time)? Is this just another purity thing?
Really just a religious/morals/purity/how-you-were-raised thing.
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Adelynn wrote on 2010-12-24 03:09
Since I'm not religious, I see marriage as a "tangible" way for the couple to say "we're committed to each-other at a level where we WANT to get married", and so along with that comes being ready to have sex. It's not that they love each other less before they were married, they just want to take that step because they know they love each other. I'm not saying you NEED to be married to reaffirm your love or anything, but if people want to get married, and they feel ready, why not?
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starpaw7 wrote on 2010-12-24 03:10
Quote from Phunkie;260035:
Cuddling + kissing > sex, IMO.
Right there :awesome:
Have love (with all 3 points) and married
Though marriage is just my want; if they have the 1st it's just as fine :what:
Just would want less chance of your partner to have an STD from past relationship before married
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Tedio wrote on 2010-12-24 03:23
I think people are mixing up having sex and making love, here.
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-12-24 03:29
Quote from Tedio;260266:
I think people are mixing up having sex and making love, here.
For some people, both are synonymous.
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gentrone wrote on 2010-12-24 03:32
Quote from Tedio;260266:
I think people are mixing up having sex and making love, here.
Agreed.