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Mama wrote on 2011-01-06 23:43
you know you're in love when you start idolizing one another.
emphasizing good points, downplaying the bad.. could be a great thing, but often blows up in your face.
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Raj wrote on 2011-01-07 00:04
Quote from Phunkie;278995:
Love is infinite. It's incredible.
When you're truly in love, you feel like you could jump off a building or a bridge and survive the fall. Pain or suffering of any kind seems impossible when you're in love. You feel a limitless happiness and you can't always attribute a reason for it.
Why do I love her so much? Why does he make me feel so good?
You can't always explain it. It just is.
When you're in love, sex is rarely on your mind. It's not about sex. Most of the time, you're thinking about cuddling with the other person and perhaps holding hands or even kissing him or her and whispering soft things in his or her ear. Being with that person completes you more than anything in the world; even something as watching that person sleep becomes entertaining, fulfilling.
Being in love means trusting someone and going out of your way for someone. Money doesn't matter; you'd spend it all on that someone if you had no other option. You'd probably even risk your life for him or her. Because you don't want to lose him or her.
Though love isn't a one-way street, it's two-lane highway. It's an equal give-and-take. If someone doesn't put in the effort you do into the relationship, maybe it's not mutual love. And one has to be careful not to be used by another, because there's a lot bad people in the world these days.
But love is quite beautiful and I wish everyone had a chance to experience it, even if just once.
BUT PHUNK! YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE WITHOUT HAVING DESIRES!
GRR!
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Phunkie wrote on 2011-01-07 00:10
Wait, huh?
What do you mean? I totally agree with you.
Did I make a typo or something?
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Mama wrote on 2011-01-07 00:16
i agree with teh phunks too, very insightful. but he didn't mention about 'desires' being a must, if you mean what i think you do o.o
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-01-07 01:55
Quote from Mama;279560:
you know you're in love when you start idolizing one another.
emphasizing good points, downplaying the bad.. could be a great thing, but often blows up in your face.
Unfortunately, that would imply that I don't love my partner. lol.
We both know when we're being irrational and know when the other one knows it too.
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Zid wrote on 2011-01-07 04:27
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Unfortunately, that would imply that I don't love my partner. lol.
We both know when we're being irrational and know when the other one knows it too.
Hence the quote "I love you so much because you make me a better person."
Commitment = compromising, understanding, tolerating (to reasonable lengths)... overall, to better each other. Sure, that's usually not the goal of love, but it's a result of a successful love relationship.
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-01-07 04:37
I feel like hiding and it's your fault. >//////>;;
(and yet I'd hit "Post Quick Reply" for you anyway. x///X..)
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Zid wrote on 2011-01-07 04:46
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I feel like hiding and it's your fault. >//////>;;
(and yet I'd hit "Post Quick Reply" for you anyway. x///X..)
Gotta keep that passion running~
Like... screaming "I love you, Adelynn" during my band's concert. 8D
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Lan wrote on 2011-01-07 04:57
Love is a force that can make you stupid, nice feeling though.
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gentrone wrote on 2011-01-07 05:04
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Hence the quote "I love you so much because you make me a better person."
Commitment = compromising, understanding, tolerating (to reasonable lengths)... overall, to better each other. Sure, that's usually not the goal of love, but it's a result of a successful love relationship.
Well, that's really hard to find because most people I've been with are driven by emotions and can't control their desires effectively. If something annoys you about your partner, starting a fight is stupid. I find most people have this tendency to become irrational mostly because of fear, frustration, resentment, jealousy, etc. The main reason is the lack of communication. I'm a very assertive person and I can understand my emotions and feelings, and let others know about it. I try to understand how others feel as well, and it hurts a little bit when people I consider really close to me say stupid things just because they are upset.
Starting an argument is stupid because a rational conversation about an issue is much more satisfactory than exploding and hurt each other's feelings. Therefore I think compromising, understanding and tolerating are key factors in ANY relationship. Then again, as I said before, a lot of people can't manage to
understand (being empathic).
Well I just had to say that.
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Mama wrote on 2011-01-07 05:39
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Unfortunately, that would imply that I don't love my partner. lol.
We both know when we're being irrational and know when the other one knows it too.
XD
i'm sure you do love each other. knowing when ones irrational is very important. even arguing once in a while is healthy.
idolizing doesn't have to be extreme though, it just means you find them more beautiful in many ways more than another friend would judge as in comparison. (not just looks) similar to putting someone in higher esteem, i think. I read the studies so long ago.
they say partners do this naturally to make commitment easier. people who are less in love will be found to do this less, and often means they will have a higher chance of breaking up.
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-01-07 16:18
But he IS cute! D<
Arguing doesn't really feel healthy but as long as it means we're not blindly ignoring important things about the other person I guess I can live with it.
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The Chinese character for love “Ai†(愛) is the picture of two hands holding a heart out to someone else.
Wut.
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Devoth wrote on 2011-01-07 16:19
By nature, I am a cynical person, and I happen to see the flaws in everyone. I am terrible at keeping friends because I am highly critical of myself and everyone around me, and I'm a very unforgiving person in just about every area, hence the reason I generally just prefer to stay nonchalant about everything.
Love is a twisted, yet interesting concept when it pops into my mind. Like most, I have love for family and love for friends, for I see these as defaults that you simply understand in the process of growing up. Despite the fact that I don't have much to do with my family after having moved out, I still do love them. I was 'raised' by them, and I share the same blood with them. Should there ever come a point where I resent them, the bond between blood that we share will still hold on, and I will still love them. As for a love for friends, it spawns more from loyalty when it comes from me. As mentioned, I have a bit of trouble when it comes to friends, because of my overall perspective of the world and people as a whole. Those who make it through the filter are generally rewarded with loyalty, and that, in a sense, is the love I have to offer to friends.
When it comes to being 'in love'.. I'm very, very dominant, and I happen to know myself very well. I know all of my emotions, I know what I want, and I rarely falter. In my eyes, far too many people waver and allow their emotions to guide them through far too much, and that's just not something that is compatible with someone who's very logic-based like myself. I also find that compromise seems to be one of the things people have the most trouble with. Apparently, trying to meet halfway when the situation calls for it is exceedingly difficult, which is one of the main problems I've had in relationships. I am always willing to meet halfway, and I'm often the one willing to make the first sacrifice, and then when the time comes around for the other person to make a sacrifice, it all blows out of control. Which, of course, is only more fodder for my cynical nature. Though, one of my biggest problems is the fact that I have a very sadistic nature as well, and I've yet to meet an individual who can rival that.
I was once in love, but it was before I had the mindset and personality that I do now. You could almost say that I was in love when I was a different person, and I haven't been in love since I've changed.
With the way I am now, judging by how I work and the way I see things, I assume it would do a number of things to me. For one, I assume that I would be far more accepting of the person's flaws, and I would not be nearly so critical or unforgiving. I believe that, around them, I would be far more willing to drop my cynicism and be more interested in simply spending time with them and being more open to the feeling of intimacy. One thing that wouldn't change is the fact that I prefer cuddling up and spending time by watching a movie or doing something such as a crossword puzzle together. I've spent plenty of time being physically intimate, and despite all experimentation, I have never found anything that has made sex that interesting. Lastly, I highly believe that I'd be blind enough to fight for my partner no matter what, due to an intense loyalty that would have been established in the entire process. Aside from all of that, insert the general happy-go-lucky feelings and that sort of thing.
(Forgive typos. I didn't feel like re-reading my own fluff.)
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-01-07 16:30
If there were typos, I didn't notice them. I tend to read rather fast and even if there's a typo I end up getting the right word.
Anyway, if there's a pushy person in the relationship it's definitely me. I just get that sort of feeling about me when there are things I just won't drop. I'll just put it this way: There are things worth talking about, and then there are things that are small enough that there's no reason to really fight over them. Maybe you'll meet the person that's exactly how you want them to be, but the fact is that it's not very likely, but that doesn't mean that the small "flaws" (largely a matter of opinion in some cases) overshadow the wonderful person that they are. As long as you know you're overlooking small things and not things that are super important to you, I think it could work.
Here's something interesting for all of you: Zid's Catholic, and I'm an Atheist, and we still manage to make it work because we're not shoving it down the other's throat. We talk about it once in a while but it's not for bad reasons. He's one of the very few Catholics I've met that doesn't make me feel bad about it, actually, so I appreciate that even more.
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Mama wrote on 2011-01-07 19:20
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But he IS cute! D<
Arguing doesn't really feel healthy but as long as it means we're not blindly ignoring important things about the other person I guess I can live with it.
Wut.
hehe. although many people would agree on if someone was beautiful or not, it is of course in the eye of the beholder :D
culture for example. where there is less food, chubbier women are considered more beautiful.
and devoth's thoughts of love reminds me of how papa is :tea: we ended up on a compromise.
never give up, and you'll end up finding the 'one'.