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Cucurbita wrote on 2011-01-15 20:28
For the record, you can join the American military without being a citizen. As long as you're a legal resident.
In fact, its almost impossible to get a citizenship anymore unless you join the American military, American government work, or be affiliated family-wise with someone who has joined the American military.
And sorry Arsik, but I embody "take it easy" too much for that kind of life. I would never make it past training.
I'm very sheltered.
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Cucurbita wrote on 2011-01-15 22:19
So here is the update on the situation.
I call my mom and tell her "So uhh, I'm not enrolled for spring. I'm going to the U on fall semester"
She rages, slams the phone. Though it didn't sound like she was gonna beat me or anything.
2 minutes later I get a call from my dad who says "Turn your car around, get your ass into the U, and demand that you get enrolled full time or the door will be locked with the garage code changed when you come home".
And my dad is someone who would follow through on that.
So basically I've been kicked out. There is no way I can apply right now, and get accepted for a semester that starts next week.
I would love to actually be disowned, I don't really have a solid place to go, and they owe me money which they probably wont pay if I leave.
I'm sitting on 500 dollars. **** looks bad.
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Zid wrote on 2011-01-15 22:58
Quote from Cucurbita;291742:
So here is the update on the situation.
I call my mom and tell her "So uhh, I'm not enrolled for spring. I'm going to the U on fall semester"
She rages, slams the phone. Though it didn't sound like she was gonna beat me or anything.
2 minutes later I get a call from my dad who says "Turn your car around, get your ass into the U, and demand that you get enrolled full time or the door will be locked with the garage code changed when you come home".
And my dad is someone who would follow through on that.
So basically I've been kicked out. There is no way I can apply right now, and get accepted for a semester that starts next week.
I would love to actually be disowned, I don't really have a solid place to go, and they owe me money which they probably wont pay if I leave.
I'm sitting on 500 dollars. **** looks bad.
Hmm...
I'm telling you right now. I'm getting scared by actually reading this.
Unless you can play "the waiting game for them to realize they love me for me over any expectations of what they want me to do", **** does look bad.
First things first, get yourself in a stable position (like a job, any right now) so that you won't get screwed over if the worst-case scenario happens. Compromise for places to stay and be fed in exchange for money based on what you can make.
The last thing you'd want your parents and people to know is that you can't support yourself, only if you plan on not coming back.
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Kueh wrote on 2011-01-15 23:25
If worse comes to worst, you could always sell your body.
I'd buy some.
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-01-16 00:31
Asian parents scare me. I hate Duy's parents just from hearing about them. x.e
I'm sorry about your parents' reaction to your news. The thing to do now is to take a job, and work. Find a place to live, even if it's not really dignified, while trying to find a decent place to live either by yourself or with someone else.
I'm pretty sheltered too. I'd probably freak out for a bit before my brain realized what needed to be done. But you have job offers. Take what you can.
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BobYoMeowMeow wrote on 2011-01-16 00:46
eh, the cat has no idea if Kitae has been taking classes at a JC
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Taycat wrote on 2011-01-16 00:51
There are so many things wrong with not wanting a diploma.
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Tatsu wrote on 2011-01-16 00:51
Kit's parents are Asian. They don't care about love, they care about having a nice retirement because their son is giving them $500 a month for life .
Get your own cell phone plan, change numbers, bunk with a friend until you get an apartment while splitting the rent with a roommate that you find via a flyer. And you need that job.
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Taycat wrote on 2011-01-16 00:55
Actually, just cut all ties and move out.
I don't care if you have no money, you really need to get your own place.
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Cynic wrote on 2011-01-16 00:59
Also, check and see if there or any shelters around where you live. Try and find a job so you can get your own little place and not have to worry about your parents.
Trust me when I say that your parents will never change, and you're better off without them.
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Yogurticecream wrote on 2011-01-16 04:58
Thing is, why didn't you apply for university when you could? Was something holding you back?
You can't keep just running away from things. Yes, you can run away from one, but you will still need to face the other issues that accompanies running away from one. Asian parents, even though as some of us make them out to be evil, are actually smart, no nonsense and very concerned. Whether these are desirable values or not, up to you decide. (I personally think they are ok unless they are absolutely obssesive.) You can't lie to them. You just have to face it (i.e. Snap out of the psychological fear and face it, since there are many things out there that are worst than evil parents to face.) or find your way out of it and face the other issues.
What do you actually want to do with your life? How do you see yourself doing 10 years down the road?
(I think it's probably too late for you to read these anyway but whatever goes...)
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Athde wrote on 2011-01-16 05:35
Apply for a job. One that has a chance for major promotions.
2. Rent a small apartment and/or bunk with a friend temporarily.
3. Either pursue your career(4.) or go to college(5.)
4. If you make it through but am barely making it by, refinance, get a student loan, and proceed to step 5.
5. Truck through it. get a 2 year degree and then either go on and work or and split college time with a job.
6. If all goes well you can patch things up in a few years.
If not, then you can always grovel. But from the sound of things you might be better off performing Seppuku.
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Taycat wrote on 2011-01-16 14:01
Quote from Athde;292170:
Apply for a job. One that has a chance for major promotions.
2. Rent a small apartment and/or bunk with a friend temporarily.
3. Either pursue your career(4.) or go to college(5.)
4. If you make it through but am barely making it by, refinance, get a student loan, and proceed to step 5.
5. Truck through it. get a 2 year degree and then either go on and work or and split college time with a job.
6. If all goes well you can patch things up in a few years.
If not, then you can always grovel. But from the sound of things you might be better off performing Seppuku.
But he's not Japanese.