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Meiji wrote on 2011-06-11 04:20
You should really stop thinking too much.
That is, if you wanna go through life in this world.
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Moppy wrote on 2011-06-11 04:22
It seems like I'm the same as you.
I want to work hard, I really do but I just can't do it.
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Kueh wrote on 2011-06-11 04:53
I seriously read this and thought that I wrote it. Especially this part.
Quote from Cucurbita;474502:
I always say "today I'll do this" and then by the end of the day I haven't done any of it.
Sloth is definitely my sin, and I would really like it if it would just go away.
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chaolin wrote on 2011-06-11 06:23
Quote from Meiji;475660:
You should really stop thinking too much.
That is, if you wanna go through life in this world.
As weird as this sounds, it's true. Thinking usually gives rise to worrying... Just busy yourself while getting through it but DON'T get hung up on the negatives.
As much as people preach about "having goals" and "achieving them", many of them fail to recognize the notion that goals ARE DAUNTING; they force you to become something you normally aren't and probably will end up changing you on the way there. In your case, you're worried that you might be able to become that person (at least for a long period of time), am I right? If so, I'd say don't sweat it because if the pressure to do well is already there, you're well on your way. Be positive and keep on trucking.
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Phunkie wrote on 2011-06-11 08:03
Just get yourself doing something, Kitae!
When you're busy and things start working, you get more and more motivated and you continue because it makes ya happy.
Remember not to see how far you are from the finish line, but how far you are from the start line-- from where you've started, especially after all these struggles.
School is a fantastic start. Do that. Stick to it. Excel. Get money on the side. And just try your best at doing well and balancing out school and work.
You'll do great, watch.
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ShadowFox31 wrote on 2011-06-11 08:16
I would say just try to focus more. Reading and learning about how to motivate yourself is great and all, but Not doing it is your problem. Sometimes you just gotta suck it up and DOOOOO it. I know you can do it.
Also, tell someone close to you about the things you want to do. It's great that the forums can do the same, but I would say someone telling you in your face (LIKE A FRIEND, I know your parents are very anal) is alot more meaningfull then words on the computer.
One more thing, Enjoy life. I know it's hard for me to say since I hate myself every day I go into work because the managers should just die in a fire, but take what your given and make the most out of it. TRY not to be dismal. When your depressed, your already defeated, and when that happens, worse things come.
Maybe this might help. Although you aren't Buddhist, I'm sure you can appreciate the daily encouragement.
http://www.sgi-usa.org/encouragement/
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Burningsky wrote on 2011-06-11 09:58
Take out everything good in your life. No, seriously.
I had my internet shut down for a week, and the closest source of internet was Campus wifi about a mile down the street. I started getting my homework done on-campus, just because I had such a high internet dependence.
And I did my homework too, seeing as all I have to do without an internet connection is eat, sleep, and homework >.>
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Zelfa wrote on 2011-06-13 04:53
Quote from chaolin;475778:
As weird as this sounds, it's true. Thinking usually gives rise to worrying... Just busy yourself while getting through it but DON'T get hung up on the negatives.
As much as people preach about "having goals" and "achieving them", many of them fail to recognize the notion that goals ARE DAUNTING; they force you to become something you normally aren't and probably will end up changing you on the way there. In your case, you're worried that you might be able to become that person (at least for a long period of time), am I right? If so, I'd say don't sweat it because if the pressure to do well is already there, you're well on your way. Be positive and keep on trucking.
^This... I was getting ready to post something similar.
I now have an incredibly huge to-do list that formed over the years. I've used every strategy taught in learning and management classes to organize my goals and take them step by step, yet thats as far as I can get.
It clearly seems that goals or rewards don't work for you, I suggest burning that list. Worry about what you can do today, dont worry about next week next year or whatever. Today is all that matters, worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes. Do you really need a list to tell you to study? just pick up a book and read
You said you hate your job. why not use that as motivation to study harder so you can get a better one?
Sorry if some of this might come across as harsh, but I see people like you in life all the time. And I always want the shake them and scream it isnt all that serious.
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Adelynn wrote on 2011-06-13 16:40
Make the most detailed list of things to do, even if it's not in any sort of order. For some reason, me having something written down to look at to see what I haven't done will at least guilt me into doing some of it, and once I cross something out I start realizing that being productive feels pretty good. If what you need to do doesn't require the internet, turn it off. If it does but you can do some of it without the net, do that first. Turn what distracts you into a chore. Make it so that if you want to play, you'll have to take annoying steps to start playing, so that maybe it starts feeling like it's not worth it. I don't know. Just things I sometimes really want to try.
I'd shut off the computer right now if I had a working scanner, but since I don't, and cameras are terrible substitutes for something like this, I have to sketch on the computer. At least I don't have deadlines at the moment, but yeah...
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Roy Mustang wrote on 2011-06-13 17:00
Hmm...
I know I'm bad at procrastinating but in the end I always follow through with what I say I'm going to do. I don't know what I can really suggest as it seems you know what's wrong with you which is the most important factor.
But, change doesn't come easily. I guess what you need is someone there to constantly badger you to do something until you get fed up enough to actually do it to get that person off your back. That's all it takes for me although most of the time I do things myself these days.
How are you on performing chores. Let's say you have a big pile of dishes in the sink. Do you say to yourself, okay...I need to eat, time to wash these dishes up? Or do you just let them sit there day after day hoping it will take care of itself?
Anyways, that's all I got :/
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chaolin wrote on 2011-06-14 04:59
Quote from kingofrunes;477945:
Hmm...
I know I'm bad at procrastinating but in the end I always follow through with what I say I'm going to do. I don't know what I can really suggest as it seems you know what's wrong with you which is the most important factor.
But, change doesn't come easily. I guess what you need is someone there to constantly badger you to do something until you get fed up enough to actually do it to get that person off your back. That's all it takes for me although most of the time I do things myself these days.
How are you on performing chores. Let's say you have a big pile of dishes in the sink. Do you say to yourself, okay...I need to eat, time to wash these dishes up? Or do you just let them sit there day after day hoping it will take care of itself?
Anyways, that's all I got :/
I personally don't agree with your statement that change can't come easily, especially in regards to one's behavior/habits. I'd say that 90% of the time, lack of improvement stems from deficient willpower (the other 10% being the need to figure out a trick that works for you and the situation at hand, see example below). Also, while first step towards change may be knowing what the problem is, I definitely wouldn't call it a solution. Someone shouldn't have to badger or galvanize you to do things for yourself. Change comes from within; invoke change and it will become you. Really all boils down to determination.
Eg. person wants to quit smoking but doesn't want to get addicted to nicotine gum. Solution? Use cough drops. My friend quit cold turkey with those things.
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Mello wrote on 2011-06-14 05:22
Quote from Cucurbita;474502:
Guys, I've spent the last 3 years of my life being as unproductive as possible.I always have things I want to do, but I can never follow through on it. Of course, its a matter of being lazy, but that doesn't mean I can just say to myself "get a move on" and suddenly start going.
Some famous dude said somewhere "everyone has dreams, but not everyone takes the actions needed for the dream to become a reality". I seriously haven't done anything to improve myself or taken any steps to learn anything since I first went to college.
Here I keep saying I won't screw up the next time, but I'm afraid I will anyways. I've always been confident in my self before attempting something, but then turns out I never actually attempt it at all. I now have an incredibly huge to-do list that formed over the years. I've used every strategy taught in learning and management classes to organize my goals and take them step by step, yet thats as far as I can get.
I always say "today I'll do this" and then by the end of the day I haven't done any of it. I really don't know how I turned out like this... My parents blame the computer but I'll easily find something else to distract myself with. I can't stay fixed on the task at hand. It scares me. Even a simple task like "call someone" can end up being procrastinated day after day.
I really want to fix this part of me before I go back to college this fall. I want to clear some of my to do list before the summer ends. But I already know this is all talk. I'll end up telling myself every day "I really should... I really need to..." and next thing I know its september.
I already have inspirations. Motivations. But I always feel so heavy and chained up. I try to be optimistic but its only an act; I cant help but have millions of negative thoughts flow my head. To top it off, I now have a job I hate, and with the recent series of events all contributing to just bumming me out puts me in a state of mood that just makes me want to lay in bed for a few years and do nothing.
What am I to do really? I've read a dozen motivational books, listened to plenty of speeches, I've identified my own laziness, and I still cant find the energy and conviction to follow through with anything.
Well, it honestly depends on whats on your to-do list, for an example, I've never gotten around to drawing the Mona Lisa :gloom2:
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Hei wrote on 2011-06-14 06:45
Perfectionism has been linked to procrastination and very rightfully so. A typical guy who procrastinates in his most important tasks thinks very highly of his abilities. He thinks that he has genius abilities for the perfect outcome if he just tries. He lacks a sense of urgency because he believes that he has nothing to prove to himself. Aside from the reality that he is far from perfect, he also unrealistically disregards the fact that that there is luck involved in anything one tries to achieve. Even if one were perfection, his efforts could still be met with failure. Did he not try enough or was the circumstance unfavorable? It doesn't matter since he procrastinates. Unintentionally, he gave up before he began. He thinks that he could achieve any of the items on his big list full of sky-high ambition, but in reality he has not one second to waste. We are all faulty human beings who can only try our best and hope for the best outcome. Most of us young adults do not realize that we are nothing, and that anything significant we have achieved at this point has not been possible if not for the guidance of our parents or guardians. We think highly of ourselves for no reason, but we are no different from the most incapable or laziest person we know until we actually do something that distinguishes us from them. If we were to truly realize how worthless we really were perhaps we can gain the sense of urgency so desperately needed for a chronic procrastinator who thinks highly of himself (IMO the worst combination possible), and never procrastinate again.
PS: If I seem like it, I’m not judging anyone. Just talking about myself and people who I perceive similarities in.
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Jarvan IV wrote on 2011-06-18 23:50
Quote from BobYoMeowMeow;474545:
For some people, studying requires actual practice or repetition.
Master studies about 2 hours per subject, and divide among days.
For example
Monday
2 hours: 3 chapters of U.S. History, read + notes, review
2 hours: 3 chapters of Biology, read +notes, review
2 hours: 3 chapters of chemistry, read + notes, review
Tuesday
2 hours: 3 chapters of Physics, Read +notes, review
2 hours: 2 chapters of Calculus, read + practice
2 hours: Literature: read book or lookup themes of book, write essay on theme
Wednesday
2 hours: 2 chapters of psychology, read+ notes, review
2 hours: 2 chapters of Calculus, read + practice
2 hours: Any subject she feels like
repeat
-Anyways, try other methods for assigning yourself
Lets say you go to library to study
okay, but you can't just study
there should be a specific command
"I'm going to read 3 chapters, and then review"
much better
-Also, if a certain activity (like a research paper) take an excessive amount of time to do, drop it
do something else that you can do at a much more productive rate and return to it later.
-Deadlines? Unless if the duedate is tommorow, finish a day early if time permits. There, deadline fear gone.
dayum cat you scary when it comes to studying
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chaolin wrote on 2011-06-19 03:05
Quote from mastacheff;480924:
dayum cat you scary when it comes to studying
Huh? That's the MINIMUM amount of work you need for a B where I go T__T (studying 7 days a week too).