Am I gay? T-T

• Retard wrote on 2011-08-10 10:28
  Ever since this year, i've been having fantasies aboutother guys in my grade... I really dont want to be gay, but I can' t help it and it feels horrible. I've heard that people going through puberty might have these troubles but I don't know if that's my case. It got really intense this summer. One of my good team mates... I am extremely attracted to him. We got really close this summer because of training for nationals ( yay for any competitors out there who went to 2011 Junior Olympics in SanJose ^^), we worked out alot together. Then it wasnt really bad, but he invited me to go house sit with him and we ended up sleeping together half naked(other than that nothing sketchy happened). Sometimes we change together in the same room after a workout, and I get sorta turned on... But the thing is i naturally hate this type of person ( hes pretty fake... And tells buttsmelly jokes no one laughs at..) yet I think about him 24/7. I thinkmaybe he might be gay too because he rubs up against me and cuddles(?) me all the time jokingly. The thing is, hes also strictly catholic, ( and u know the problem here...). What should I do QQ i dun wanna be gai. Is this just puberty?
• Xemnas wrote on 2011-08-10 10:32
  You're normal, unless you start masturbating thinking about him/start changing your lifestyle to be more...... effeminate?
• Meiji wrote on 2011-08-10 10:37
  It just takes the first sentence to realize that you are, lol.
  
  Oh well, GG.
  
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• Skye wrote on 2011-08-10 10:40

  Quote from Meiji;546777:

  It just takes the first sentence to realize that you are, lol.
  
  Oh well, GG.

  
  
  Yeah...
  
  I would think that if you can imagine yourself having sex with the same sex and find it pleasurable, but having it with the opposite sex is just unnatural/gross/etc., then you're gay.
  
  But I'm straight, so that's just what I've gathered.
• Mimsi wrote on 2011-08-10 10:40
  I didnt want to be gai either .
• Micho wrote on 2011-08-10 10:42
  Uhhh, this should be in Rua's House due to the nature of this subject, I dunno, but I'm guessing you don't have access to that sub-forum, maybe?
  
  Anyways, it's perfectly natural to experiment with ones sexuality when you reach puberty. It could be just a phase, and this doesn't necessarily mean you're gay, you could be bisexual, or as I said, just a phase since you just entered puberty. Don't be afraid to be gay, there's absolutely nothing wrong about being gay. Just don't worry too much about it. As for your friend he's around your age too? So he's entering puberty too, probably, so he might be exploring his sexuality too with friendly gestures?
  
  [S]The way you type makes me wonder if you're trolling or not.[/S]
• Mimsi wrote on 2011-08-10 10:42
  But no in all honesty . The only thing you should have to be worried about if you are gay is getting bullied. I honestly dont even know what to say about this.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-08-10 10:46
  First: Being gay isn't a 2nd option compared to being Straight. You can be attracted to males and females at the same time, you can also be attracted to certain traits (i.e. masculinity; you might like masculine guys and girls, but only those with masculine traits.), or you can just be attracted to whatever without really defining people by their sex.
  Second: There is nothing wrong with being Gay. Just because a bunch of religious assholes feel that people should suffer for being different doesn't mean you should be at all ashamed about it.
  
  Now, moving on; do you have a strictly sexual attraction toward men, or could you see yourself dating a guy? Have you ever looked at another guy for more than just sex? Do you like the idea of say.. going on dates, cuddling, hold hands or just spending time with another guy in a romantic fashion?
  And ofc; have you ever been attracted to girls, sexually or romantically?
• Wasbewwi wrote on 2011-08-10 11:01
  There's nothing wrong with being gay.
• TA wrote on 2011-08-10 11:09
  You may be gay or bi. It's perfectly fine to be gay. Don't be afraid of yourself.
• Hiccup wrote on 2011-08-10 11:17
  Just get comfortable and follow your heart. There's nothing wrong in this situation at all...
  
  
  Such simple minded folks ~sigh
• ShadowFox31 wrote on 2011-08-10 11:25
  Personally, I would think before acting.
  
  Know your surroundings. There are times to say and not to say whatever needs to be said. If you find the timing to be best, then say so... but don't just come out of the closet all at once. Know if saying this would effect not only the person driving these feelings, but the people around him, the people around you, and everyone else. Is it worth the hassle to come out or not? will the affection that you are feeling for this person blossom into something beautiful? will this destroy my life or make my parents dis-own me and leave me with a bleak future?
  
  I'm not saying that following your heart is a bad thing, but do know this isn't a disney movie. Magic won't happen, and please be careful of your actions. Make sure you feel not just with your mind, but with your heart what you truly feel.
  
  As for weather it's gay or not, should that matter? Being male or female shouldn't change your feelings on how you feel about the person. It's their personality. It's they way they think. it's the way they act that should judge your love and affection, but also know that's just your side and you will never know how he feels unless you ask him.
• Conor wrote on 2011-08-10 13:27
  You may be going through phase since it does happen. Just remember that your sexuality doesn't define you, even if others think it may. Besides, you're the only one that can decide what your sexuality is.
  Having fantasies/dreams about your male classmates doesn't classify it for you, and neither does experimenting (at any degree) with male friends.
  Even with this in your (what will be) past, you can still identify as straight.
  
  However, let's just say that you are bisexual, or even gay. The only advice that can really be given here is to not let others bring you down for it. Be proud of who you are. Not because you may be a minority that will have to overcome unnamed and unknown trials in the future, but for your accomplishments today and in the future. It sounds like you're an athlete and whether you may be good at the sports you play or not, that's still a feat. I know I would have liked to play sports in my middle and high school experiences but didn't. It takes guts to try out, and perseverance to carry out and train.
  Just don't stress yourself out over it too much. Only time will tell the outcome, and only you can decipher that outcome.
• Sleeperdial wrote on 2011-08-10 13:38

  Quote from Purrz24;546771:

  Ever since this year, i've been having fantasies aboutother guys in my grade... I really dont want to be gay, but I can' t help it and it feels horrible. I've heard that people going through puberty might have these troubles but I don't know if that's my case. It got really intense this summer. One of my good team mates... I am extremely attracted to him. We got really close this summer because of training for nationals ( yay for any competitors out there who went to 2011 Junior Olympics in SanJose ^^), we worked out alot together. Then it wasnt really bad, but he invited me to go house sit with him and we ended up sleeping together half naked(other than that nothing sketchy happened). Sometimes we change together in the same room after a workout, and I get sorta turned on... But the thing is i naturally hate this type of person ( hes pretty fake... And tells buttsmelly jokes no one laughs at..) yet I think about him 24/7. I thinkmaybe he might be gay too because he rubs up against me and cuddles(?) me all the time jokingly. The thing is, hes also strictly catholic, ( and u know the problem here...). What should I do QQ i dun wanna be gai. Is this just puberty?

  
  
  In my opinion I think its puberty. I went through the same thing when I hit puberty, the interest to explore other guys, I'm actually still a bit curious. However I never had any love or attraction toward them. I just wanted to try a couple things, never wanted to be in a relationship with them. I can't see myself dating a guy, its a perfectly normal thing. If you do get in bed with this guy, well first of all good for you because thats closer than I ever got. :thumb: But most importantly just go with it, do what it is you want to do, and don't hold back.
• Shizuo wrote on 2011-08-10 15:04
  I agree with what everyone else has been saying. You're still at an age where you're finding out who you are and things like this are completely natural. I'm sure that pretty much everyone has gone through this. Heck, when I was in middle school, there was a time when I thought I was a lesbian lol xD; but it turns out that I'm not. You'll find out sooner or later. And hey, if it turns out that you are gay or bi, don't be ashamed of it! It's part of who you are, and you should never be ashamed of that :D Also know that you're not alone here.
  And yes, don't let people bring you down for it.