Need Help With Life/Girl

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Taycat wrote on 2010-06-07 22:03

If you go out with her, your best friend may not be a best any more.
Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 22:08

Quote from Xiyamae;56696:
If you go out with her, your best friend may not be a best any more.

Yeah well hes been kinda a big baby about it. Really wouldnt matter to me.
Shes kinda like my whole life right now.
Taycat wrote on 2010-06-07 22:09

Watch him go out with some random girl he only knew since last year, and only in passing too.
Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 22:20

Quote from Bankai231;56702:
Yeah well hes been kinda a big baby about it. Really wouldnt matter to me.
Shes kinda like my whole life right now.

Be careful. If he's a good friend, he might not be there for you if things don't work out with the girl.

Just keep it in mind.
Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 22:23

Quote from Phunkie;56725:
Be careful. If he's a good friend, he might not be there for you if things don't work out with the girl.

Just keep it in mind.

Well if we do go out. First thing im doing is making her promise that not matter what happens with us we wont EVER spread apart.
Hiccup wrote on 2010-06-07 22:25

Thats a big promise. Especially cause you never know what might happen
Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 22:26

Quote from Bankai231;56730:
Well if we do go out. First thing im doing is making her promise that not matter what happens with us we wont EVER spread apart.

Those are good wishes. :)

But sometimes crap happens, you know? But I'm optimistic, so I'm hoping for the best.

I hope both of you do work out.
Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-07 22:30

Ya know, it's not being a crap friend if he goes out with her. I mean, his friend jumped right in after they broke up.

And I wouldn't recommend making "forever promises", those don't usually work out too well unless you're like, 20 or something.
Cucurbita wrote on 2010-06-07 22:33

Quote from Bankai231;56730:
Well if we do go out. First thing im doing is making her promise that not matter what happens with us we wont EVER spread apart.

Such promises usually bust when the two of you end up going to different colleges.
It tends to only work out in mangas. Besides, every divorced couple start off assuming they'll be bound together, and see our divorce rates are at 50%. Everyone always thinks their relationship will last, but its more of a flip of the coin. Try your best, stay optimistic, but don't be blind by your positivity to the point where you start digging your own holes. Overconfidence can sometimes prevent you from resolving an issue that you could've seen coming weeks or even months away in a relationship.

Anyways, I'd take it slow imo, even if they are no longer going out. Of course, since she is available, you want to let her know that you are interested in her, but try not to go out until this friend of yours cools down a little from this break up.

He wasn't going out with her because he didn't like her, and since he just got dumped, you going out with her would be incredibly insensitive. If the girl's accusations of him being a cheater is not true, then this guy is probably taking a lot of stress and heat right now.
Hiccup wrote on 2010-06-07 22:34

Like he wasn't being incredibly insensitive when he went out with her after they broke up?
Byte wrote on 2010-06-07 22:35

Idk why these people did not factor age into the equation.

HOW OLD ARE YOU?
Cucurbita wrote on 2010-06-07 22:37

Quote from bradstrt;56754:
Like he wasn't being incredibly insensitive when he went out with her after they broke up?

>We went out once when I didnt realize how much I liked her.

It wasn't a big deal for him at the time.

And just because one guy is a douche doesn't mean you should be a douche. That sort of thing turns everyone into douches and the world falls apart.
Hiccup wrote on 2010-06-07 22:38

It's already falling apart. Even if bankai isn't "a douche" no matter how long you wait his friend may never accept the fact he is going out with her, or will go out with her cause at this point we know they gonna go out.
Cucurbita wrote on 2010-06-07 22:41

Quote from bradstrt;56764:
It's already falling apart. Even if bankai isn't "a douche" no matter how long you wait his friend may never accept the fact he is going out with her, or will go out with her cause at this point we know they gonna go out.

Which is why I said he should make a sort of reservation type of thing with her.
Let her know he's interested, and then also let her know that he wants to wait until his friend simmers down a bit, give it maybe 2 weeks.

Sure, he might never be over it. But he won't take it like a stake to the heart if it happens a few weeks later as opposed to a few days.
Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 22:41

You can get the girl and not seem like a douche though. It's just the way you take control of the situation.

Communication helps. A lot.

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