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Crimmy wrote on 2010-06-14 21:15
Ever since I came back from my break this has been bothering me. Constantly.
I'd say I'm a pretty nice player in Mabi. Need some help with something? Yeah sure, I'll help ya if I can. Wanna friend me after we're done? Yeah sure and I'll help ya later if you need it and if I'm not busy. This is causing problems.
1. I have an Flist completely full, probably 20-some people over the limit, I can't even blacklist. When I try to make room by clearing out people I don't talk to in literal months, I delete them and they note me back the same day going "o I hope nothing happened I hop we can still be frands."
2. Constant demand for help. Can you do this, can you help me kill that? Sometime they don't even ask, they demand I "come to tail for defensive" when I'm in Rundal or "come play hammer game" when I think it's boring as heck. When I deny helping someone because I'm busy doing something else, they whine to me about how much trouble they're having even though I clearly said no and that I'm busy. Then I go invisible and then they NOTE me.
I don't want to be or seem mean but I can't keep dealing with this every single day. I don't accept random friend requests so they're people I got to know a little too. I wonder if I should just make my home on another (and much better) channel and go invisible for a while or stand my ground and tell 'em how it is. I'm leaning towards the latter but I wanted some opinions before I do.
So what would you do in this situation?
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Hiccup wrote on 2010-06-14 21:16
Set your status to offline.
Ignore em
Tell em to STFU and be nicer about it
Delete off your BL
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starpaw7 wrote on 2010-06-14 21:19
If they act like that they aren't your friends
Delete and never see them again :awesome:
If they note just ignore and delete those, eventually they will give up
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Arsik wrote on 2010-06-14 21:21
Delete the people that demand-that-you-help-and-*****-and-moan-until-you-do off your friend list. They're just using you for your skills, so you really can't call them friends if they beg for help all the time. That could clear up a lot of names. If they continue to note you after you defriend them, then troll them by purposely dieing in what ever they need help in, so that they think twice about begging you for help, even though you declined. Just make sure that you are about to rebirth, since you'll probably lose a good bit of experience.
If that's too mean for you, then just change your status when ever you do stuff. If you're too busy to help people, just change your nickname so that it says "Busy, can't help out", then that might stop a good bit of people from begging you to help them. If that don't work, then again, just delete them off your friend list.
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Skye wrote on 2010-06-14 21:24
Delete everybody then blacklist 'em all. :D
Honestly, I have never ever been in your situation. >.> What I would do though is just not accept too many adds (unless you're kinda close to the person), and just tell people that you're busy, you don't want to help, etc. And be assertive. A firm NO. Then, if they persist, ignore them. They'll eventually leave you alone.
But staying invisible for a while would also help, I would think.
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hengsheng120 wrote on 2010-06-14 21:44
use the block feature (so they can't add) and delete them after a month
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Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-14 21:58
I'd just tell them..
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EndlessDreams wrote on 2010-06-14 23:28
Pretend Afk often.
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-06-14 23:33
Delete and ignore.
Case solved.
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Shan wrote on 2010-06-15 01:55
Never ever been in a position where someone needed my help. But yeah don't be a doormat.
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Aubog007 wrote on 2010-06-15 02:14
If they need me for a quest or something i normally come.
if they want to give me something i say mail.
If they chat with me i'll just chat during my zombie mission spam.
Multi tasking ftw
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Kaldo wrote on 2010-06-15 03:48
Don't add them in the first place lol. Since played maple, I realised that more or less everyone that adds you after just doing a sm/dungeon etc. will never talk to you after a week of adding them. (there are SOME exceptions =P) Anyways, if I do add that kind of person, the next time I log on and I see them, I just delete them. In other words, don't make a 'bond' with someone you don't want to talk to. If you do, make sure they're the kind of person you want to continue to talk to. For me, guildies + rl friends are enough.
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Yogurticecream wrote on 2010-06-15 05:24
2. Constant demand for help. Can you do this, can you help me kill that? Sometime they don't even ask, they demand I "come to tail for defensive" when I'm in Rundal or "come play hammer game" when I think it's boring as heck. When I deny helping someone because I'm busy doing something else, they whine to me about how much trouble they're having even though I clearly said no and that I'm busy. Then I go invisible and then they NOTE me.
This is what I do. If someone asks for help with something like defensive battle and I'm in Rundal, I'll tell them that I cannot go until x minutes later. If it takes too long, I tell them to find someone else instead. Anyway if they are really having trouble finding for help, because I'm running Rundal. it's a problem for Defensive battle since you need to find at least 3 good players.
After defensive, I'll usually leave after that unless it's a guildmate/friend needing help for other missions. Defensive battle takes up too much time.
If it's hammer game and I'm not interested, I might tell the person that I will give him 10 minutes of my time. If I'm busy doing something else and have something else to do following that, I will decline with reasons given.
However, if they continue to be a prick then I will not entertain them further. It's instant deletion from buddy list. Why should you respect their wishes if they fail to respect you in the first place?
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Haydrian wrote on 2010-06-15 06:00
Quote from Yogurticecream;64825:
This is what I do. If someone asks for help with something like defensive battle and I'm in Rundal, I'll tell them that I cannot go until x minutes later. If it takes too long, I tell them to find someone else instead. Anyway if they are really having trouble finding for help, because I'm running Rundal. it's a problem for Defensive battle since you need to find at least 3 good players.
After defensive, I'll usually leave after that unless it's a guildmate/friend needing help for other missions. Defensive battle takes up too much time.
If it's hammer game and I'm not interested, I might tell the person that I will give him 10 minutes of my time. If I'm busy doing something else and have something else to do following that, I will decline with reasons given.
However, if they continue to be a prick then I will not entertain them further. It's instant deletion from buddy list. Why should you respect their wishes if they fail to respect you in the first place?
This.
I used to be somewhat of a dye guru a few months ago and i would get adds for dyes. At the time i wasn't making it a full on business and just a fast way to make money for desired equipment. It may be shunned upon by some but i did it with honorable intentions beside my obvious reasons. Anyway, every day i would be getting asked for dyes. I would say that i didn't have any at the time being. if they persisted too hard they just got deleted and any notes got deleted.
Flame mail is my most hated thing to deal with however. It's one thing to have someone talk to you and say "hey your this and this because this and this is priced too high for me or i need help with this come now x10". Sometimes i will humor them with responses in a very serious tone to grow up before deleteing further notes or i will just delete them.
Honestly people that want to coast through this game drive me insane. I did everything by myself for nearly a year and it was hard because I didn't actually finish G1 until i joined my first real guild. I had no idea what to do for skills so i was all over the place and my tactics were typical MMO tactics that don't work so well on mabi (lol). Eventually I got a bit of guidelines from running a few dungeons with people but i never pressured them to anything. The majority of what i know now i figured out myself and i expect that kind if drive from all players.
I'm all for helping players and I'm all for with teaching what i've learned but without a form of devotion to the game I'm more reluctant. Ask me in a mature manner and you'll gain my respect, act like an idiot and you get jack squat out of me. That's also basically my only requirement for joining my guild, just show devotion and a level of maturity. Really I think that's a given but theres always going to be those who will drive you nuts and be greedy.
Lol... I'm really bad for long posts, i'm sorry! Lol.
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Archibald wrote on 2010-06-15 06:16
I understand this completely. As our servers first and only for a LONG time r1 enchanter I got tons of adds. I recently deleted 1160 names of my list (yes i counted as I deleted). I feel liberated by clearing things up some. I still have 80 or so names. But I Chose those people, not the other way around.
As far as people begging for help this is a major issue. Its like every other person on server has no friends and sees me with a good title and dragon shield and there for I MUST help them. I try to be polite but inside I'm screaming that I never had that much help and struggled it out as a noob and learned that way.