Should I break up with my girlfriend?

• Tokiko wrote on 2010-06-29 05:00
  Simple question.
  So I'll tell you what's been really getting on my nerves.
  
  
  Awhile back I created a topic where almost all my friends decided to tell people that my girlfriend and I had sex which is untrue and it was pissing my off because random people would come up to me and tease about and my friends didn't care if they hurt our feelings our not.
  
  Okay so I tell her to not be their friends again cause all their are, are such buch of assholes.
  The next week she starts talking to one of the girls and that pissed me off. Told her not to talk to her and said my reason why and stuff. Pretty sure they stopped talking.
  
  And now I learn that she's talking to another girl that was apart of that the whole time which really pissed me off.
  
  This girl insulted my girlfriend one day calling her abusive,mean and claim she didn't start the rumor but talks to the girls which she admitted but now denies.
  
  So I admit I have a temper when people piss my off in real life and this was a really depressing stage in my life losing my 3 close friends. So on Sunday I decided to insult her because she was claiming she was trying to talk to us and stuff. Here she said she was looking out for us and protecting us. Now she thinks she's the best person in the world doing these "nice and thought acts"..
  
  So on Monday(Yesterday) I was said to my girlfriend tell her to unblock me so I can argue with her some more.(I didn't even express my feelings because she blocked me in the mid-argument). She said no and I said "Well what do you care she's not your friend." and here when she said "She is my friend" and defended her and of course I got pissed off.
  
  And if I insulted her,spread a rumor about her and talk to people she didn't like she wouldn't be friends with me anymore. Her and I haven't talked since and I just can't take it. I'm not a controlling boyfriend. I just tell her not to be friends with those people cause I don't want her to get hurt.
  
  I do love her and I don't know what to do. =/ help please?
• Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-29 05:03
  Have you tried to talk to her without arguing and told her how you felt?
• emomutt wrote on 2010-06-29 05:04
  do it
• Anthony70 wrote on 2010-06-29 05:08

  Quote from Mozendo;78790:

  
  I do love her and I don't know what to do. =/ help please?

  
  
  If you love her then don't break up yet.
• Cucurbita wrote on 2010-06-29 05:11
  Brake, lol.
• Akemisumi wrote on 2010-06-29 05:12

  Quote from Margatroid;78798:

  Brake, lol.

  
  LOL. I knew someone would comment.
  
  But, on a serious note, I'd go with what Anthony said.
• BobYoMeowMeow wrote on 2010-06-29 05:13

  Quote from Margatroid;78798:

  Brake, lol.

  
  
  brake and break are both negative kitae owo
• Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-29 05:24

  Quote from Akemisumi;78799:

  LOL. I knew someone would comment.
  
  But, on a serious note, I'd go with what Anthony said.

  
  
  Sometimes, staying with someone even if you love them isn't the right thing for either party.
• Shirayuki wrote on 2010-06-29 05:26
  If you 'love' her, which you probably don't, then stick with her. Even if she pisses you off, your 'love' should keep you attracted to her.
• Tokiko wrote on 2010-06-29 05:29

  Quote from Kazuni;78791:

  Have you tried to talk to her without arguing and told her how you felt?

  
  Well yeah but she'll go on about her being forgiving and how that girl is a good friend which is complete bull****. It started out as "Oh she contacts me and it annoys me" then it went to "Well we talk but I don't tell her anything." and now it's "We're friend and we're going shopping" =/
  

  Quote from Anthony70;78796:

  If you love her then don't break up yet.

  
  It get's annoying when I tell her not do something and she does it. =/
  It's not abusive boyfriend stuff like "Don't go outside of your house or I'll hit you"
  As I said I don't want anything bad to happen to her she used to walk to her house which is close to one of those horrible project and I told her how horrible that neighborhood is cause she just moved here.
  

  Quote from emomutt;78792:

  do it

  
  Reason?
  If you want me to join your emo group I won't do it
  

  Quote from Margatroid;78798:

  Brake, lol.

  
  I was typing fast ._. Dx
• Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-29 05:34
  Again, I don't want to be a damp towel, but how old are you? High school, right? Even though it sounds cruel etc, there's fairly small chance you'll stay together through university/college.
  
  If she refuses to listen to you and your point of view, or just dismisses whatever you say because the other girl is a friend, maybe you should break up with her. Give talking a good try first, though, and really tell her how you feel without arguing against the things she says during that conversation.
• Skye wrote on 2010-06-29 05:43

  Okay so I tell her to not be their friends again cause all their are, are such buch of assholes.

  
  That’s being controlling, which you said you weren’t.
  
  

  Told her not to talk to her and said my reason why and stuff. Pretty sure they stopped talking.

  
  That’s how to handle it. Nice and not argumentative.
  
  

  And now I learn that she's talking to another girl that was apart of that the whole time which really pissed me off.

  
  Not a good reaction for a boyfriend to have.
  
  

  So I admit I have a temper when people piss my off in real life

  
  Again, bad.
  
  

  So on Sunday I decided to insult her because she was claiming she was trying to talk to us and stuff.

  
  Not the way to handle it.
  
  

  So on Monday(Yesterday) I was said to my girlfriend tell her to unblock me so I can argue with her some more.

  
  Bad, not a good way to handle it.
  
  

  She said no and I said "Well what do you care she's not your friend." and here when she said "She is my friend" and defended her and of course I got pissed off.

  
  Sounds controlling to me. And, honestly, if your girlfriend is talking to the girl again, she is obviously not hurt (which you said you were trying to prevent) by all of this.
  
  

  I'm not a controlling boyfriend. I just tell her not to be friends with those people cause I don't want her to get hurt.

  
  
  
  Here is my advice from what I took your post to mean:
  Just let everything smooth out. You should try to control your temper more (don’t argue with everyone :P), you should let your girlfriend do her own thing. You and she should try to confront or make up with your ex-friends and at least try to be friends again, since you were close to them.
  I don’t really know the entire situation, only what you’ve posted here. I’m sure the story is different from someone else’s point of view, and you could be in the wrong. I don't know. :/ But, from your side, I'd say that, if you can, just work this all out and everything will be okay. :)
  
  edit Reading your second post makes me think the girl could be more at fault than I thought. >_> Just try to keep a level head when she goes against what you want for her, and if she can't respect that (which doesn't necessarily mean follow it), then she must not love you like you love her. BUT! If you two really do love each other, everything should get better.
• Tokiko wrote on 2010-06-29 06:27

  Quote from Kazuni;78816:

  Again, I don't want to be a damp towel, but how old are you? High school, right? Even though it sounds cruel etc, there's fairly small chance you'll stay together through university/college.
  
  If she refuses to listen to you and your point of view, or just dismisses whatever you say because the other girl is a friend, maybe you should break up with her. Give talking a good try first, though, and really tell her how you feel without arguing against the things she says during that conversation.

  
  Yeah I'm in high school and I know it seems like puppy love.
  But there has been times where she could of dumped me but she hasn't.
  There are times we're she admitted that she was wrong to me like I told her that I was wrong
  It's not a wreck. She does want to make this relation last.
  and I know you might think that she only wants to make the relationship last like every couple. But looking at my friend's girlfriends she does want to make it last and comparing her to my friend's girlfriend she at least knows when she does something wrong....most of the time
  
  
  

  Quote from Skye;78822:

  
  Here is my advice from what I took your post to mean:
  Just let everything smooth out. You should try to control your temper more (don’t argue with everyone :P), you should let your girlfriend do her own thing. You and she should try to confront or make up with your ex-friends and at least try to be friends again, since you were close to them.
  I don’t really know the entire situation, only what you’ve posted here. I’m sure the story is different from someone else’s point of view, and you could be in the wrong. I don't know. :/ But, from your side, I'd say that, if you can, just work this all out and everything will be okay. :)
  
  edit Reading your second post makes me think the girl could be more at fault than I thought. >_> Just try to keep a level head when she goes against what you want for her, and if she can't respect that (which doesn't necessarily mean follow it), then she must not love you like you love her. BUT! If you two really do love each other, everything should get better.

  
  Well the way you put it I do seem sort of controlling even with the edit.
  I'll just accept it and just tell her I'll try to get out my head.
  And I think it would be best if I didn't see my girlfriend for a few days =/
  I'm not really violent that I yell at everyone I just think if people talk behind my back they should say it to my face that's all. I don't get into fights or anything and I doubt my attitude will.
  
  
  Well I did talk to everyone and here's how it went. Well I'm using names cause it'd be difficult using "Person A,B ,ect"
  
  This guy named herbert thought it would be cool telling his friend sergey that I had sex with my girlfriend. -(That I got from everyone)
  
  But this girl Natalia overheard - (Herbert said she overheard but Natalia said he told her but either way he shouldn't be talking about this even to sergey cause he can't keep secrets so either way people would of known)
  
  Then Bianca heard the rumor and decided to tell everyone everyone in school and the boys and girls club and I worked at because she felt "betrayed" cause she was friends with my girlfriend. - (She said that Herbert told her but Herbert doesn't like her and Natalia and her are best and I never seen Herbert talk to Bianca so it's a no brainer)
• Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-29 06:30
  So much drama. If people aren't talking about it much anymore, it's time to move on and make up.. only if you want, though. If you're still mad about it, you should talk to that girl in question and not your girlfriend about this whole thing. I might be wrong, but what if she's sorry?
• Lan wrote on 2010-06-29 06:31
  This is a personally decision :< Why are you seeking guidance from the internet of all places?