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Kazuni wrote on 2010-06-29 06:32
Quote from Lan;78885:
This is a personally decision :< Why are you seeking guidance from the internet of all places?
There's a variety of people here who could've been through similar things. Opinions help.
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Lan wrote on 2010-06-29 06:36
Quote from Kazuni;78888:
There's a variety of people here who could've been through similar things. Opinions help.
Yes, but...brain dead can't argue >_> was going to say something but I'm drawing a blank...
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Moppy wrote on 2010-06-29 06:41
I don't know if it has been said yet as I have not read all of the comments...
Why don't you try separating from each other for a bit. Y'know, see how life is without your partner and decide afterwards.
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Lan wrote on 2010-06-29 06:42
Quote from Moppy;78895:
I don't know if it has been said yet as I have not read all the comments...
Why don't you try separating from each other for a bit. Y'know, see how life is without your partner and decide afterwards.
I like what Mop says.
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Tokiko wrote on 2010-06-29 07:02
Quote from Lan;78885:
This is a personally decision :< Why are you seeking guidance from the internet of all places?
Quote from Kazuni;78888:
There's a variety of people here who could've been through similar things. Opinions help.
As Kazuni said opinions do help and my other friends don't like drama and I don't want to put this on them and bring people that has nothing to do with this drama into it.
Natalia tried to do that to my friend but she failed since he's not the drama type.
Quote from Moppy;78895:
I don't know if it has been said yet as I have not read all of the comments...
Why don't you try separating from each other for a bit. Y'know, see how life is without your partner and decide afterwards.
Yeah I wrote her a letter saying that we shouldn't see each other for a few days and how I felt. So I guess the problem has been solved but I would still like to views people's view on this.
Also you people help me cleared my mind.
I usually don't need to think by myself but I feel if I did on this problem it would of gotten worse.
So thanks. [:
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-06-29 07:05
Don't dump just because she has stupid ass friends.
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Osayidan wrote on 2010-06-29 10:18
Telling her how you feel about the people she talks to or hangs out with is one thing, but trying to control that aspect of her life is just wrong.
You need to work on that before going any further.
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Virtue wrote on 2010-06-29 11:26
You've been a controlling asshole. Face it. You're just being in denial. Don't do it next time. If she has bad friends in your opinion, whatever, she's old enough to decide who to hang out with. SHE CAN MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS.
Break up with her. You don't love her.
Even if you don't break up with her because you don't have the spine to do it, I can tell you it will end soon. Lol... arguing with your girlfriend about who she's friends with plus all the ridiculous drama over nothing.
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Creampuff wrote on 2010-06-29 16:53
Step 1) Forgive yourself.
Step 2) Forgive your girlfriend and her friends.
Step 3) Take a deep breath.
Step 4) Rethink the whole situation. Are you angry because you feel that your girlfriend will be hurt? Because she doesn't agree with what you think is right for her? Because you feel that she spends more time with her friends instead of with you? (These are just some common concerns, without knowing more I can't really elaborate).
I think there needs to be a realization here that a relationships is composed of two individual, independent and unique people. By high school age I would hope that both people are ready to make (and take responsibility for!) their own decisions, good or bad. If your girlfriend chooses to remain close with her old buddies, then that is her decision to make, and her consequences to deal with. I understand that you want to be supportive and protect her, but bubble wrapping people usually backfires, and in extreme cases may lead to accusations that someone is too controlling.
I would suggest taking some time off, get some exercise, maybe call up some of your friends and go for a guys night or something? High school halls are full or half-truths and white lies, but I hope that you will stand against all that drama.
Good luck!
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Byte wrote on 2010-06-29 17:05
Quote from Osayidan;79015:
Telling her how you feel about the people she talks to or hangs out with is one thing, but trying to control that aspect of her life is just wrong.
You need to work on that before going any further.
Quote from Sin;79022:
You've been a controlling asshole. Face it. You're just being in denial. Don't do it next time. If she has bad friends in your opinion, whatever, she's old enough to decide who to hang out with. SHE CAN MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS.
Break up with her. You don't love her.
Even if you don't break up with her because you don't have the spine to do it, I can tell you it will end soon. Lol... arguing with your girlfriend about who she's friends with plus all the ridiculous drama over nothing.
These two have what you need.
To add my two cents...
You're an idiot for thinking it's her fault, honestly, you should walk up to her and tell her that you're bad for her and she needs to find someone else.
Then after you do that, work on your anger issues, learn what friendship is, then attempt to date someone else.
Sorry for being blunt.
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Tokiko wrote on 2010-06-29 17:27
Quote from Sin;79022:
You've been a controlling asshole..
Quote from Byte;79076:
You're an idiot
Nice to know when I just get home from the hospital and hearing that my aunt is dying from cancer these two things catch my attention since June 4th but I didn't know since my parents are separated and my mom and dad don't talk to each other.
Gee thanks guys.
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Byte wrote on 2010-06-29 17:34
Quote from Mozendo;79082:
Nice to know when I just get home from the hospital and hearing that my aunt is dying from cancer these two things catch my attention since June 4th but I didn't know since my parents are separated and my mom and dad don't talk to each other.
Gee thanks guys.
Since you like to take real-life problems and throw them into conversations not related to the topic just to make people feel bad and feel for you, Locked.
Don't solve one problem by using another.