If you ask me, marriage is more than what people think it is. If I ever get married, I'm looking at it as a way of developing your relationship and not as a fancy label you can put on you and your significant other. Marriage would be my way of expressing my desire to truly dedicate myself to my partner and really show them that I love them and I want to spend the rest of my life with them.
Sure, I can do that without getting married, but marriage is what says "It is done". It's the final and ultimate commitment.
To me, the reason the divorce rate is so high is because people rush into marriage sometimes without thinking it through and without truly asking themselves if that person is who they want to spend the rest of their life with. I mean, marriage is a touchy subject and it creates a lot of deep emotional ties too. If you wanna stay with someone in marriage for the rest of your life, you have to be able to commit yourself to such a strong bond.
Marriage is the start of a new life and unfortunately, many people throw it away over and over and pick up new spouses. When you get married, you are promising to not part till death and to stay together in both sickness and health. Many people divorce because of stupid issues like money or simple arguments (not that money isn't a key role or anything). But the fact of the matter is that when a couple argues, they grow stronger together. A relationship isn't a good one if you and someone else don't argue. When you truly dedicate yourself to your marriage, you are falling in love with your spouse in a much more sincere and meaningful way. You raise each other up and grow in one another.
This is the display of True Love. Another reason the divorce rate is so high is because people choose lust over love, materials over emotions and freedom over commitment. There is a lot of emotional support behind marriage that shows what true love can do. When you REALLY marry someone, you confide in one another and you talk to one another so that you can be there for one another and help each other through life.
Marriage IS WORTH IT. It IS something that we should still do, even with the divorce rate so high. All it takes is commitment and the ability to look past faults. Nobody's perfect and no relationship will run smooth without arguments. People will continue to argue and people will continue to lose interest in each other. What's important is that you realize that the only way to save your marriage is to fall in love again. Look back and ask yourself why you got married. Was it because of money and materialistic objects? Or was it because you truly loved your partner and you really wanted to live life together as one unit so that you can grow emotionally in one another?
Marriage has potential you know. If people can just stop for a moment and ask themselves what they really see in someone, they will be able to answer whether it is worth it or not. Just ask yourself what you see in your to-be wife/husband. If the first thing you say "because they're handsome/pretty and they have money", then chances are they're not for you.
Marriage requires effort from both persons. If one person is struggling, then the marriage will not be as strong as it can be. Both the husband and wife have to work together to keep the marriage alive and hot.
Finally to Milk, YES, MARRIAGE IS WELL WORTH IT.
Marriage has always been tied in with Romances and spiritual reasons.
Just look at fairy tales for example. The Knight rescues the princess & sweeps her off her feet then they get married & live together for the rest of their lives. People want that experience & marriage has always been viewed as the path towards happiness.
As you said, marriage is just putting a fancy label on your relationship.
You ask why, I ask why not? If it's just a 'label', then it's not that big of a deal, right? Some people would agree with you, some people don't, and I think that's the couple's business, not anyone else's.
Also, as mentioned, there are a LOT of legal rights married couples have that unmarried couples, partners, and same-sex couples in most states don't have.
I think it's for each couple to decide, and it's not really fair to say, "oh there's no point to marriage," because there's a point to it for a lot of people, and it's different for everyone.
Tradition, showing off how rich you are to family and friends by having a lavish ceremony, and legal and economic benefits.
Some people just want to reach the status quo.
You can then happily perish having done nothing unique with your life.
I finally got around to reading this in full today & realised that this post summed it all up.
In the back of my head I keep wondering how many couples went into marriage with my mental thought of what marriage ment & failed.
What makes me think that I'm any less human then them? Less prone to error, but I realised now that your right. No body is perfect people are always going to argue but it's your duty as a married couple to realise that no matter what bump comes your way you have to realise that, this is real, this is happening & and you need to finish. That no matter what happens, no matter how hard it gets I ow it to myself & my spouse to try my best & keep the relationship alive.
:3 I actually always thought this way but these constantly growing numbers kind of discouraged me.
Ty Kenny.
Personally I think that with the way marriage is being defined in today's day and age, that there is no real reason to get married.
I seriously want to hear your reasons for why you want to get married, I could see it as being a romantic thing where people finally decide to go out into the world and start there new lives together etc.. But if people can already be together with someone, already living under the same roof, already making sacrifices for each other, have sex, and raise children. Then I seriously don't see the point.
I agree with Milk on this one. With the way people aren't staying together it's not worth the money, the effort, and the disappointment that follows.
Honestly two of my older friends were just living together, had a kid and did things married couples did. Well eventually they got married. It was a nice ceremony and nothing was wrong with it but 1 year they divorced.
Anyway Marriage does give a ton of legal benefits that just 'living together' does not.
IMO: If you're living together don't get married. The stress it can bring will do more harm then good.
@Compass: Events for Graduation and your birthday are something everyone has. But events shouldn't have to define all your important moments. I believe that by saying "I want to be with you" should be enough.
/Adds something to the birthday part.If you're already living together there's no point in getting married at all. It really is just a fancy label. A Label that costs anywhere from hundreds to thousands of dollars to get e.e
Birthdays & Graduations are celebrations not ceremonies. While I still plan to eventually get married in the future(once im 100% sure that I seriously want to stay with the woman I fall for) I still think the importance of marriage is far greater than other things like birthdays & holidays.
Marriage is being defined as nothing more than a hit it & quit it type of relation ship by well over 50% of Americans. That's one of the many reasons why I feel like marriage to most people is nothing more than a fancy label.
If you're already living together there's no point in getting married at all. It really is just a fancy label. A Label that costs anywhere from hundreds to thousands of dollars to get e.e