Sex. When?

• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-19 08:56
  A lot of people rush into sex these days, especially in America.
  
  For many reasons too:
  

  
  
  • peer pressure
    
  • TV, movies
    
  • alcohol
    
  • hormones, crazy sex drive
    
  • desperation, "to get it over with"
    
  • because it looks hot
    
  • etc., etc.
    

  
  
  You'd be surprised at how many kids (and adults) there are out there who don't fully understand what STDs are or their effects, or who don't even know how to put on a condom correctly.
  
  In my opinion, if you don't know how to practice safe sex, then maybe you shouldn't even be having it.
  
  
  I know that our bodies are physically capable of having sex at really young ages, but I'm talking mentally, maybe emotionally.
  
  According to you, when's the right age to have sex? For both girls and boys alike.
  
  Is it the same age? Different? Should it be different for girls than boys? Why?
  
  What are some important things a person should know when engaging in sexual relationships? Or basic things?
  
  
  This discussion is all a matter of opinion. No wrongs or rights here.
  
  [SIZE="1"]Okay, maybe. No 12-year-old should be having sex, period.[/SIZE]
  
  What do you say?
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-19 09:06

  Quote from Phunkie;97849:

  
  [SIZE="1"]Okay, maybe. No 12-year-old should be having sex, period.[/SIZE].
  

  
  
  I SAW THAT. Any age is an okay age for sex if it is fully consensual, this would obviously rule out the extreme younger age of the spectrum. However just because you're so willing you shouldn't give it away so easily, first and foremost you should actually have feelings for the person first. Personally I'm pro-choice as to when as long as both parties agree and have no regrets. Note: I do not approve of whoring yourself out alot, if you're gonna start having sex with someone, then you guys should be together for a good while(especially in a younger situation.)
  
  As for safe sex as a whole, I completely agree that recently people tend to be completely clueless. Make sure you know exactly it is you're doing before you do it, and that should apply to everything.
• emomutt wrote on 2010-07-19 09:06
  i lost my virginity when i was 12-13
  i think its all a matter of maturity and being emotionally strong
  so its always a different age for who ever
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-19 09:08

  Quote from emomutt;97855:

  i lost my virginity when i was 12-13
  i think its all a matter of maturity and being emotionally strong
  so its always a different age for who ever

  
  
  Yeah, it's more about what age you are mentally rather than physically. Obviously this can vary, for example, some of my students are 17; however they act like they're in 4th grade.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-19 09:08
  Okay, let's gear it this way.
  
  If your kid was having sex at 10, 11 or 12 years old?
  
  Would you freak out? Why or why not?
• emomutt wrote on 2010-07-19 09:16

  Quote from Phunkie;97857:

  Okay, let's gear it this way.
  
  If your kid was having sex at 10, 11 or 12 years old?
  
  Would you freak out? Why or why not?

  
  depends
  how old the partner is, is he/she hot, will offspring let me join :lol:
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-19 09:19

  Quote from Phunkie;97857:

  Okay, let's gear it this way.
  
  If your kid was having sex at 10, 11 or 12 years old?
  
  Would you freak out? Why or why not?

  
  
  Depends who it is, how far they've been in a relationship, and how long they've been in it. Plus age too, a little(I'm not her, so i don't know if she's getting something out of it ect ect.)
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-19 09:21

  Quote from emomutt;97860:

  depends
  how old the partner is, is he/she hot, will offspring let me join :lol:

  
  
  Okay, no.
  
  I would definitely not condone my son or daughter having sex at the age of 12. Not trying to criticize you or anything, Emo.
  
  I just honestly feel like (on average) kids aren't emotionally ready for it at that age. I definitely wasn't. I was into video games and the such. My sister was into... I dunno what she was doing, but it wasn't sex.
  
  I mean, for example, just because you're sleeping with someone doesn't mean that someone loves you. And adults sometimes have problems coping with that fact. Imagine a poor little girl who gives her heart and soul to this boy she thinks she "loves."
  
  It's too much to bear at the age. Sex at such young age can really hurt you emotionally.
  
  15, 16, 17. Call me old-fashioned, but I think people around that age are a little more "emotionally ready."
  
  I'm speaking on average, of course.
• Cannibal wrote on 2010-07-19 09:21
  I think it all depends on where the person is emotionally.
  Let's say a 16 year old girl could be having sex, because she thinks she's ready, since all her friends are doing it. She's physically ready for it, but it doesn't make her feel quite right.
  There could be another girl who's 13, ready physically and emotionally both, and doesn't get the same wrong feeling as the 15 year old.
  You can't really put an age on things, since it depends on where someone is in their life and doesn't rest only on age. A lot of people forget that sex comes with really, really strong emotions sometimes. No, it isn't the same for everyone, but I know from experience what feels right and what feels wrong sex wise, and they're two totally different feelings. Someone who isn't mentally ready for sex might get the latter feeling, which totally ruins something thats supposed to be beautiful.
  So, like I said before, I don't agree with really young people having sex, but if someone is emotionally and physically ready, I say go for it.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-19 09:27
  At what age do you think most people are emotionally ready for sex?
  
  Keyword.
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-19 09:28

  Quote from Phunkie;97866:

  Okay, no.
  
  I would definitely not condone my son or daughter having sex at the age of 12. Not trying to criticize you or anything, Emo.
  
  I just honestly feel like (on average) kids aren't emotionally ready for it at that age. I definitely wasn't. I was into video games and the such. My sister was into... I dunno what she was doing, but it wasn't sex.
  
  Haha, I mean, just because you're sleeping with someone doesn't mean that someone loves you. Adults have problems coping with that fact. Imagine a poor little girl who gives her heart and soul to this boy she thinks she "loves."
  
  It's too much to bear at the age. Sex at such young age can really hurt you emotionally.
  
  15, 16, 17. Call me old-fashioned, but I think people around that age are a little more "emotionally ready."
  
  I'm speaking on average, of course.

  
  
  Depends how well you know them to judge accurately, it's a much tougher situation looking in. Plus you always have that overprotective feeling of being a parent. As it pertains to my past you'd think I'd be an incredibly protective parent, however I'm going to set my fears aside and let her live her life. Ofcourse I will be there for her when she needs help, or something has gone wrong. However I'm a firm believer of the possibility of love at such a young age. Ofcourse it should never be "Oop, we've been dating for a month, soooo... LET'S SCREW!" it should progress over the years until they are ready. This year would depend on them ofcourse. Really put yourse'f in there shoes, then you can see the possibilities.
• Cannibal wrote on 2010-07-19 09:29
  It still depends. But if a number has to be put to it, I'd say 16+.
• Finnea wrote on 2010-07-19 09:29

  Quote from Phunkie;97871:

  At what age do you think most people are emotionally ready for sex?
  
  Keyword.

  
  
  Can't categorize it really, but with the quality of people nowadays far past their teen years.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-19 09:35

  Quote from Finnea;97876:

  Can't categorize it really, but with the quality of people nowadays far past their teen years.

  
  
  That's interesting how you put it. And to be fair, I agree. People these days...
  
  
  Another thing you mentioned. Your "Oop, we've been dating for a month, soooo... LET'S SCREW!" example; what's the "right" time to wait before opening a serious relationship to that next level?
  
  It obviously depends from couple to couple, of course. But it's always so frowned upon when you date someone and 2 weeks later you're sleeping with him or her.
  
  There are no definite answers.
  
  But what do you guys think about all that?
• Cannibal wrote on 2010-07-19 09:38
  My mom always says she won't sleep with a man until she's dated him exclusively for 6 months, and she's always lived up to it.
  Sure, it sounds like a long time, but it shows her that the guy really wants her, and not just her poonani.
  I think anything more than 2 months is the best. A wait shows that sex isn't the objective of the relationship.