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Chockeh wrote on 2010-07-25 00:06
What do you guys think about divorce?
Is it better to divorce then to fight all the time?
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Lan wrote on 2010-07-25 00:53
I have no prior experience so I really can't say :s
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Zid wrote on 2010-07-25 01:54
Non-religious wise (like legal binding), I think so.
That's only if those fights lead to nowhere good anyway. Like abuse. If it's over silly ends like baseball games, then it's stupid already.
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Cannibal wrote on 2010-07-25 02:51
It is SO much better to divorce, rather than stay together, unhappy and fighting.
The only reason I think I would stay married with someone I no longer had interest in is for kids. I know it sounds wrong, but when my stepdad (who has been there since I was 2) kicked us out a few years ago, I felt the ****tiest I ever have.
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Serathx wrote on 2010-07-25 02:58
Personally is somewhat caught up in this issue, since my parents don't really love each other
and my dad has told me that they're staying together only for me and my little sister.
They don't really fight and aren't that unhappy, they just don't love each other.
They're kind of like roommates in a sense.
It would definitely impact the family if they divorced so they're fine with staying together for now,
or at least until me and my sis go to college, move out of the house, so on and so forth.
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EndlessDreams wrote on 2010-07-25 04:24
Divorce should be a decision made among the family in question. It should not be controlled by outside forces like government/religion in terms of whether or not divorce is right/wrong or if it is prohibited or not.
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Hiccup wrote on 2010-07-25 04:52
Love is an eternal struggle.
Toughen it out and be a man.
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-25 10:58
Boyfriends and girlfriends, husbands and wives, no matter what age, people fall out of love all the time.
You always gotta reignite the passion in your relationship. Without that fire, there's nothing worth looking forward to. That's why married people "get bored" and cheat or fight.
Ever heard on TV, I'm not in love with you, I'm in love with that guy I met so and so many years ago. Cliche, I know, but it happens.
Always do little things for your SO. It's the little things that count the most. A kiss before going to work, a random call during the day just to say I love you, a friendly How was your day? when he or she comes home.
Everyone loves to be appreciated and loved. haha
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-07-27 19:22
My parents are probably going to divorce tomorrow.
My mom really does not want to, but my dad is convinced...
Don't know how to cope up with this.
/rant.
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-28 22:03
Sorry to hear. Did they already divorce?
:(
Remember that just 'cause a couple gets a divorce doesn't necessarily mean that they don't care about you or each other. Maybe they're just having a big fight though. If it really bothers you (and if it's not too late), try to talk to them. Ask your Mom or Dad to remember the good times they've shared together and how they fell in love.
Maybe they just need sometime away from each other. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe stress has caught up with them and it's just a measly, little fight that's being blown into proportions.
Anywho, do something if you can. Talk to them. Show them you care.
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Mentosftw wrote on 2010-07-28 22:08
My parents divorced and it took my mom several years to tell me because she thought I wouldn't accept it.
I didn't care. I hated my parents anyway.
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-07-28 22:10
I pretty much tried all of that.
My mom still loves my father, but my father is being an ass.
He's been saying they had problems for a long time (Remembers big almost divorce fight in 2003, 2008 and now, though I know they had more).
We tried begging him and everything, my mom even swallowed her pride.
Yeah, he already explained about that he would never leave us and stuff, but I just want then back together.
The day after the fight, which was last week, my dad disappear for 5 days, closing his phone. Now we are still trying to get him to stop, but he just says that this won't work out. I mean, the least he can do is effing go to marriage counseling. They were suppose to divorce today, but she refused. He will probably bring lawyers into this. And just to say, cops came to my house a few times for various reasons...
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-28 22:26
You are his son. Sit this man down and tell him to swallow his pride as well. Man-to-man talk, yeah?
Are you an only child?
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-07-28 22:31
I already did that, like 3 times.
He keeps saying, it's over and that he will not change his mind.
I got a brother and sister...
We tried almost everything to get him back...
And my dad is a very...prideful person.
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Phunkie wrote on 2010-07-28 22:33
Remind him that life is short! It's not worth holding your pride so high like that.
Gosh, even falling in love challenges you to be a little less prideful in life.
Ask him to get some time to think before acting so rashly. Anger never causes us to make the correct decisions.
Is your dad Hispanic btw?
Use the race card! Hispanic families are very tightly bonded. I think it's a cultural thing.
Use cliche quotes like, "United we stand, divided we fall." (It's true.)
Tell him not to divided your family for your sake and for your siblings' sake. Tell him it's what you most wish for right now. Tell him it's killing you to see your parents fight and that you don't know what to do.
Ask him nicely, but seriously as well.
Make him think it over first.