Extremely urgent - Please read (Especially if you live in Eastern North Carolina)

• Huhu wrote on 2013-07-28 03:58
  I was not sure whether this belonged in Bean Rua or here. If it belongs somewhere else, feel free to move it to it's respective area.
  
  But, I have a huge and extremely important favor to ask of someone here. This may be against forum rules but for the sake of someone I really care about, I have to try.
  
  I have an extremely close person in my life who has been going through incredibly harsh times in her life, I can't give specifics to that since it's personal but all I can say is that over the last few months, her thoughts haven't exactly been "healthy" and her self-esteem and self-worth have really taken a plunge to the point where she rather have me forget about her and leave her because she isn't worth the help and just a burden. She is a great person; very caring and loving and always cares about the feelings of others before herself. She's been an inspiration and the biggest motivator in my life and I can't just sit here and do nothing.
  
  A month ago, I had promised her I'd try my best to go visit her and spend some time with her and just give her the best day she's ever had and really make her believe that, "You know, you can be happy and you have many many great things ahead of you in your future. Maybe not with me, maybe with someone else, maybe alone but you're deserving of so many great things in your life and you shouldn't give up because honestly, you're worth something to someone if they would do their best to travel a thousand miles just to make you happy."
  
  Needless to say, I finally had purchased the bus tickets for $298 over Greyhound non-refundable and have exactly enough money for two nights for a hotel + food expenses (maybe extra for a movie date?) but last minute, a friend told me that they could not help me drive up to pick her up.
  
  The plan was take a bus to my friend's house in New Bern, have him drive me up there and then back and then I'd get a hotel room for two nights for me and her to just spend time together. But he had just informed me that his mother is not able to do the two hour trip nor is he able to because he does not have a license. I do not have the money for a cab to take her back and forth, nor for a bus. It's $100+ for that while car would only total about $30 in gas money round trip.
  
  Here's where the favor comes in, I really need help from someone to help me make this happen. I don't want to think of what may happen to break this news to her after she's been so excited, happy and relieved to have finally someone care about her be there physically with her. Nor is wasting $300+ on nothing a great feeling either.
  
  If all of you, could help me out in finding someone, I'd really really appreciate it. I'd make it worth your while and I'll be forever in your debt for helping me make the person who means the most to me, just feel like their life is just that more special.
  
  
  Edit: The bus leaves Friday August 2nd, and I'd arrive in New Bern on Sunday August 4th.
• Yoorah wrote on 2013-07-28 04:21
  I like your story but I'm having a bit of trouble following your plan here. @_@
  
  You bought round trip bus ticket for yourself to New Bern... then you were planning to do a 1 (2?) hour drive to some other town where your friend lives, then drive her back to New Bern, chill there, drive her back home, drive back to New Bern and get on your return Greyhound home?
• Space Pirate Nithiel wrote on 2013-07-28 04:34
  Overly complicated plan is overly complicated. No help for you.
• Yoorah wrote on 2013-07-28 04:48
  Right... because that's a completely appropriate way of responding to someone asking for help.
• RebeccaBlack wrote on 2013-07-28 04:52
  Oh, Yoorah, as much as I like you it's not uncommon for you to post similarly harsh things to people unnecessarily.
  
  But as they said, it's hard to understand what you're asking for.
• Yoorah wrote on 2013-07-28 04:59
  There's a time and place for harsh things. I posted mainly for the purpose of differentiating my position on the matter. :)
• Huhu wrote on 2013-07-28 05:01

  Quote from Yoorah;1128695:

  I like your story but I'm having a bit of trouble following your plan here. @_@
  
  You bought round trip bus ticket for yourself to New Bern... then you were planning to do a 1 (2?) hour drive to some other town where your friend lives, then drive her back to New Bern, chill there, drive her back home, drive back to New Bern and get on your return Greyhound home?

  
  
  Yes, her dad is rather strict and not strict at the same time. He wouldn't approve of this "meet-up" but he also doesn't care who picks her up as long as he isn't the one to give the ride to so-so's house. Nor does he care or notice when she isn't home and just expects her to come home whenever sometime. He isn't even home half the time. He's either at work or "someplace else" doing stuff. Just that enough probably lets you know how things are there.
  
  She had planned on telling her dad she was going to her friend's house and she would be getting picked up at such and such time. Since I can't drive and I know no one else in her city, my friend in New Bern was the only one I could ask and it'd be in a different city where me and her could walk around town or at a park without worrying about her dad or someone she new seeing us.
  
  
  

  Quote from RebeccaBlack;1128707:

  Oh, Yoorah, as much as I like you it's not uncommon for you to post similarly harsh things to people unnecessarily.
  
  But as they said, it's hard to understand what you're asking for.

  
  
  I just need some kind of transportation help from someone to help me pick her up, drive us to a hotel and that's it.
  
  My last resort would be having to pay the overly expensive taxi/bus fee or bike halfway and pay just half the taxi drive.
• Yoorah wrote on 2013-07-28 05:38
  I'm just trying to figure out the specifics to get an idea for what your budget needs are. I was thinking of offering financial assistance, although even this is complicated as you'd need to have a Paypal account that's linked to a bank so that you could withdraw the sum as cash (can't use PP to pay for a taxi directly), and the transfer period takes 3-4 days. But as you can imagine this is hard to plan without cost estimates or knowing the deadline date for the transfer purposes. I also don't want to commit to something without knowing what it would cost (and now you're saying you can pay for it after all?) x(
• Chillax wrote on 2013-07-28 06:34
  Just to make this easier, here's some questions for you:
  
  1. Is the hotel in New Bern?
  2. How far is your friend's house from the hotel? How are you going to take her back?
  3. What bank do you use? Does it have a branch in New Bern? What are its rules on withdrawing money from different branches?
• Huhu wrote on 2013-07-28 08:25

  Quote from Yoorah;1128730:

  I'm just trying to figure out the specifics to get an idea for what your budget needs are. I was thinking of offering financial assistance, although even this is complicated as you'd need to have a Paypal account that's linked to a bank so that you could withdraw the sum as cash (can't use PP to pay for a taxi directly), and the transfer period takes 3-4 days. But as you can imagine this is hard to plan without cost estimates or knowing the deadline date for the transfer purposes. I also don't want to commit to something without knowing what it would cost (and now you're saying you can pay for it after all?) x(

  
  
  The trip isn't for another couple of days, 5 to be exact. I'll have to ask my father who has the paypal account linked to his card (not sure about bank account), since mine is completely separate from his.
  
  In terms of expenses, it depends whether or not my friend or someone else can help give me a ride there and back from New Bern to Elizabeth City.
  
  If my friend is not able to find me a ride there or if I cannot find a ride:
  
  My plan is to meet her in Edenton instead, which is ~40 miles from her house. So the expenses for that are about $80 for a taxi if the rate is $2 per mile. That's x2 for a trip back so that alone is $160 already. $200 to be safe. For the hotel, I just recently checked online and the cost is 64.95 USD per night. $264.95 for one night. $329.90 for two.
  
  I currently have $200 for expenses. So to be safe, for one night $300 would be what I'd aim for and for two nights, $400 would be for that.
  
  
  
  

  Quote from Chillax;1128743:

  Just to make this easier, here's some questions for you:
  
  1. Is the hotel in New Bern?
  2. How far is your friend's house from the hotel? How are you going to take her back?
  3. What bank do you use? Does it have a branch in New Bern? What are its rules on withdrawing money from different branches?

  
  
  1. Originally yes, but if I cannot get a ride. Edenton would be the place I'd get the hotel at.
  2. Originally, it was a 2 hour drive and we were just gonna drive her back up there after everything. However, again without a ride, Edenton would be the place and that's about 40 miles from her house.
  3. My father has the only bank account sadly.
• Campylobacter jejuni wrote on 2013-07-28 08:28
  What makes New Bern more attractive than Edenton? A 2 hour drive is a huge distance.
• Huhu wrote on 2013-07-28 08:31

  Quote from Campylobacter jejuni;1128778:

  What makes New Bern more attractive than Edenton? A 2 hour drive is a huge distance.

  
  New Bern was where my friend lived.
• Campylobacter jejuni wrote on 2013-07-28 09:31
  Oh I see. Well now that that is out of the question, I personally suggest going to Edenton anyway, even if it may be more costly.
  
  I wish you the very best of success in lighting her heart up again.
• Ashikoki wrote on 2013-07-28 17:43
  I suggest modern hitchhiking and ask around on craigslist.
  
  Cabs doing outside of city transportation is very expensive and very few do it. I don't believe you'll be lucky enough to find someone here who could give you a ride in that area either.
  
  But asking for a ride on craigslist could run you some money too. About a hundred dollars, at least.
• Chillax wrote on 2013-07-28 18:56

  Quote from Huhu;1128777:

  The trip isn't for another couple of days, 5 to be exact. I'll have to ask my father who has the paypal account linked to his card (not sure about bank account), since mine is completely separate from his.

  
  
  So which account is your Paypal account linked to? Your father's? If so, then you'd better make sure that he's ok with the whole thing and would be willing to let you withdraw the money. Otherwise, we probably won't be able to help you.