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SlurpTASTY wrote on 2014-07-19 20:42
*a sudden influx of neckbeard virgins come cheering space pirate on as they chant "WHY WONT WOMEN DATE THE GOOD GUYS" as they profess their hate for the evil females on internet boards*
Just kidding, inversely you can just be someone who's fun to be around, its worked for me, most "nice" guys have the problem of being too nice to the point of being pushovers, learn where that line is or you'll be friend zoned.
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Campylobacter jejuni wrote on 2014-07-19 23:11
I dunno about him but mine was ironic.
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TLCBonaparte wrote on 2014-07-19 23:21
[video=youtube;ShTm8MnUAjo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShTm8MnUAjo[/video]
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Kyishi wrote on 2014-07-20 00:43
if she doesn't like you, she doesn't like you
you can blame it on her and say girls only like people who are "rich, hot, have big dix and treat them like shit"
but in the end, there is something about you that she doesn't want in a potential mate, and trust me, it's most likely NOT because of the above factors.
anyway, my words of advice to get a woman...don't try? letting it come naturally is the best way to go, guys who try hard to get with me make me gag. or at the least, don't make your intentions obvious. my past serious relationships started because we were already friends and grew to like each other by spending time together, etc
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TLCBonaparte wrote on 2014-07-20 01:29
Quote from Kyishi;1233269:
if she doesn't like you, she doesn't like you
you can blame it on her and say girls only like people who are "rich, hot, have big dix and treat them like shit"
but in the end, there is something about you that she doesn't want in a potential mate, and trust me, it's most likely NOT because of the above factors.
anyway, my words of advice to get a woman...don't try? letting it come naturally is the best way to go, guys who try hard to get with me make me gag. or at the least, don't make your intentions obvious. my past serious relationships started because we were already friends and grew to like each other by spending time together, etc
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Iljimae wrote on 2014-07-20 09:11
I'd like to offer just a bit of different perspective here. Although, I'm in no way saying not being in relationships is a bad thing or that you should rush into them just for the sake of experience. I'd just like to put a good word in for dating around a bit.
I've found a lot of my experiences through dating to be invaluable in the sense that they helped me learn and mature. Every relationship, no matter how awful it ended up working out, I wound up being able to draw upon the experience in my next relationship and build upon that. I was able to recognize my own short-comings and mature so that I could be a better partner for the one I cared about. There are some situations that are learned through experience and hindsight, especially when dealing in emotional matters, no matter how rational a person may be in other aspects of their life.
Lately, I've seen a trend of friends starting their first committed relationship in their late twenties and not having the experience or emotional maturity necessary to communicate and make it work with a significant other. Does this apply to everyone? Of course not. Different situations for every person, I just personally feel the possible experience shouldn't be undermined when seeking to be in a long-term committed relationship in the future. Sometimes getting out there and dating casually can bring unexpected benefits as well.
Loving people can be easy. Commitment and a partnership is work. It's dedication. Simply loving someone will not maintain a relationship, it takes a lot more on each persons part than that to function as a unit of two individuals. It's also not something everyone desires, it's a choice of lifestyle and nothing more. There are merits in each different choice, as well as drawbacks.
When you begin to take steps outside of your comfort zone, you begin to grow as a person and you will also be preparing yourself for when something important to you might come along. Maybe you don't want a relationship now, but in the future you might meet someone who opens new possibilities. By growing as a person and challenging yourself, you'll mature, you'll learn, you'll experience different situations, and no matter what sort of adventure presents itself, relationship or another opportunity, you'll be better prepared to embrace it. There have been many times in my life where I sacrificed individual progression for instant self-gratification and later when important opportunities arose I wasn't prepared and I lost both people and things that had become important to myself.
Perhaps the greatest first step when cultivating a future relationship or working towards a goal is your own individual progression. Not only is it great preparation for interacting with those you care about, but it's also expanding your own perspectives to form a greater understanding of the world around you.
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ranie wrote on 2014-07-20 09:22
just do u! don't let anybody be your only chance of happiness that's just creepy
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Froglord of DESTINY!!! wrote on 2014-07-20 10:41
I come back to this thread after a million years, and everyone is depressed...
What have I done? :llama_hamburger:
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Aubog007 wrote on 2014-07-20 10:48
Just remember. There is truth to those words.
That you marry your best friend.
Always try to know them, be their friend, sooner or later they will realize it as much as you do.
Heck there's a certain someone whom i spend the great majority of my time with daily. And i am pretty happy. And i would be pissed it it went south.
Never feel pressured, never have serious fights, constantly bicker like normal best friends would, completely trusting and accepting of each other's faults.
That's what you gotta look for, if you seek someone for the sake of love and companionship, it's going to feel empty and shallow.
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SlurpTASTY wrote on 2014-07-20 14:48
Quote from Aubog007;1233432:
Never feel pressured, never have serious fights, constantly bicker like normal best friends would, completely trusting and accepting of each other's faults.
Without serious fights no problems in a relationship will ever get fixed and the couple will break up, fighting is still communication. Every time I've had a fight with my current gf it's always worth it because coming out of it we both understand each other more and come to some sort of agreement that we're both cool with instead of just letting it be water under the bridge (which never works because the same problem will arise again unless the couple does something about it).
I think that is another problem "nice guys" have when they actually do get in a relationship, they think they should let their gf get away with everything even if they're doing something wrong. It shows when you're being a pussy, don't be a pussy. DON'T DO THAT!!!! ALWAYS SOULJA BOY TELLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Iljimae wrote on 2014-07-20 15:35
Fighting in itself will not resolve issues in a relationship. There are many people in long-term relationships that rarely fight, if ever, by employing a different communication style. Being open with wants/needs while having similar values can allow for such a dynamic to work with the right mindset going into discussions regarding conflicts or possible upcoming issues.
There is no "correct" way. Fighting can be both conductive and harmful to a relationship and it is entirely based upon the two individuals and their handling of it. In the case of my boyfriend and I, we both do not like arguing, raised voices, or passive-aggressiveness, so if there's an issue we bring it to the table and resolve it by sitting down to talk for awhile. I've had relationships where arguments would happen, however it did not fit my communication style well and led to stress in the relationship. For others, it could be the entire opposite situation and fighting is a stress relief that can be helpful in resolving issues.
It's also important to remember that if you're still in your teens and early to mid twenties that learning to communicate properly as well as the communication style that works best with your partner is vital to the longevity of you relationship. As you both get older the stresses of life will only grow and you'll be forced to tackle more difficult situations together as a unit. Disagreements are inevitable for a lasting, stable relationship, as you are two individuals in a partnership, fighting is merely a style of communication and conflict resolution.
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Space Pirate Nithiel wrote on 2014-07-20 17:17
My aunt and uncle fight all the time, like, on a daily basis, and they've been together and happy for 20+ years now. So fighting definitely isn't the end of the world as long as you don't hold grudges and shit.
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Yoorah wrote on 2014-07-20 22:30
[video=youtube;OYfoGTIG7pY]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYfoGTIG7pY[/video]
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TLCBonaparte wrote on 2014-07-20 22:48
She is too academic, all the citations and quotes are so unnecessary :/
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Campylobacter jejuni wrote on 2014-07-20 23:56
Quote from TLCBonaparte;1233524:
She is too academic, all the citations and quotes are so unnecessary :/
They are never.