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Cannibal wrote on 2010-12-23 22:28
As in, if you're dating someone, how long do you think you should wait, personally, until you have sex? I put this here, but if it belongs in the Library, move it. Keep it vague.
I don't think I had sex with my boyfriend until we had been together for 3 months or so... We had known each other forever even before we started dating, so it wasn't really a big deal.
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Shirayuki wrote on 2010-12-23 22:29
I'd say as long as it takes for you both to know you're ready, and to know the risk involved with having sex.
I'd personally wait at least 6~12 months dating a person I'd met a short time from when we began going out, but maybe less time if I knew the person for a long time.
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Kayate wrote on 2010-12-23 22:31
Until you both know your ready
It might take less if your dating a person you have know for a while
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Zid wrote on 2010-12-23 23:01
I used to be "Wait, wait, I can't do it. I have this anti-premarital sex I feel strongly to."
But out of the blue, after 4 months into a relationship... Well, we all make mistakes to ourselves, right?
After that, my mind went downhill and I let go of my self-imposed rule. Every now and then, I think to myself if it's something I should regret or not, and if I was just betraying myself. Is this who I really am (having premarital sex)? Or am I lying to my true self (who wanted to wait until I'm married), the true self that is probably hiding from me from being betrayed? Lying about what, exactly?
Honestly, I would love to feel how sex is like after I actually get married, be financially stable, still be happy, and passionately in love.
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Akemii wrote on 2010-12-23 23:02
Until the person I'm dating is ready. I've yet to ask someone I've dated to have sex.
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-12-23 23:04
Until your both ready.
Could take one night, could be until marriage.
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Skye wrote on 2010-12-23 23:09
I say until marriage, but that's just the way I was raised.
LOGICALLY, I'd say until both people are ready, not one just kind of forces the other one to do it by making them feel bad for not wanting to do it. Or something.
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Akemii wrote on 2010-12-23 23:10
Quote from Chockeh;259705:
Until your both ready.
Could take one night, could be until marriage.
For me it's one night. Most likely for the girl, awhile more. If it's another guy, usually one night.
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Kayate wrote on 2010-12-23 23:10
Quote from Pride;259725:
For me it's one night. Most likely for the girl, awhile more. If it's another guy, usually one night.
Doesn't apply to every guy
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Shirayuki wrote on 2010-12-23 23:11
Quote from Pride;259725:
For me it's one night. Most likely for the girl, awhile more. If it's another guy, usually one night.
How exactly do you feel ready to have sex with someone one night after asking them out?
Makes me think you're into relationships just for sex, whereas other people may think of sex as something you'd do when you're deep enough into a relationship.
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Akemii wrote on 2010-12-23 23:12
Quote from kayate;259727:
Doesn't apply to every guy
I know, but all the guys I'VE personally been with. o .e
Quote from Shirayuki;259729:
How exactly do you feel ready to have sex with someone one night after asking them out?
Makes me think you're into relationships just for sex, whereas other people may think of sex as something you'd do when you're deep enough into a relationship.
We have to be dating?
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Skye wrote on 2010-12-23 23:12
Quote from Pride;259725:
For me it's one night. Most likely for the girl, awhile more. If it's another guy, usually one night.
I'm sorry, but my opinion of you just took a slap to the face.
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Chockeh wrote on 2010-12-23 23:12
Quote from Pride;259725:
For me it's one night. Most likely for the girl, awhile more. If it's another guy, usually one night.
Lots of guys are idiots.
I would take the time to think about it at the very least...
It could be just a few minutes of thinking though D:!
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Akemii wrote on 2010-12-23 23:14
Quote from Skye;259734:
I'm sorry, but my opinion of you just took a slap to the face.
That's just me o .e I can't help it.
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PandaSong wrote on 2010-12-24 00:34
Personally, I think that you should wait till you're absolutely 100% sure you love them and they love you back. Marriage doesn't have to happen (I know a lot of people who aren't married yet have lived happily together for years). Something like that... it shouldn't be treated casually. >_> But that's just me.