Need Help With Life/Girl

• Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 21:08
  Some I come to the Internetz.
  
  Theres this girl I REALLY like. We went out once when I didnt realize how much I liked her. Than after we broke up I realized she was like perfect for me (Dont know what you have till its gone.)
  After this my best friend decides to be a ****** and go out with her. I forgive him though Im a REAL nice person when it comes to this kinda stuff. While they were going out this girl and I got REAL close. She told me all about her life. Everything. Were like Best Friends right now. She always used to call me her best friend and how she didnt know what she would do without me. Like we are real tight. My Best Friend and her broke up last week. Now shes telling me how much she loves me and stuff. I really want to ask her out but I dont want to ruin our friendship. But I like really like this girl Alot. I just want to know if shes leading me on as her Best Friend or if shes trying to go out with me again. Im so torn right now you wouldnt believe whats going through my mind. Please help. I know I look pathetic coming to the internet but I really have no one else to ask and talk to this about
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 21:15
  Did your best friend like her a lot?
  
  Ehhh, I dunno. I wouldn't go out with her if she was romantically close to your best friend. You'd betray him, even though he went out with her while you liked her. But you forgave him. I wouldn't do that to him.
  
  It's always iffy these kinds of situations.
  
  But it ultimately comes down to you.
  
  
  Can I ask, why do you like her so much? What about her gets you?
• MiniSoda wrote on 2010-06-07 21:22
  You could ask her if she likes you as a friend or more than that :x
  
  And if you both have feelings for each other, then you guys should go out
  
  I'm not good with advice
• Hiccup wrote on 2010-06-07 21:24
  If you stayed close after one breakup you can stay close again.
• Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 21:36

  Quote from Phunkie;56615:

  Did your best friend like her a lot?
  
  Ehhh, I dunno. I wouldn't go out with her if she was romantically close to your best friend. You'd betray him, even though he went out with her while you liked her. But you forgave him. I wouldn't do that to him.
  
  It's always iffy these kinds of situations.
  
  But it ultimately comes down to you.
  
  
  Can I ask, why do you like her so much? What about her gets you?

  
  
  Everything. Absolutley Everything. Like we think so much alike. It always makes both of us smile.
  
  Update: We were just having a conversation about how were such good friends and how were both gonna move as soon as we graduate. We say we love each other but...idk.
  
  @Minisoda: I think thats what Im gonna do
  
  And Phunkie how did I know you would reply to me ;P
• Cucurbita wrote on 2010-06-07 21:39
  Bros b4 hoes man.
  
  If she doesn't like him anymore, the relationship will eventually end. So there is no need to make this forceful. The end result would be the same, just delayed, with less people pissed off.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 21:41

  Quote from Bankai231;56641:

  Everything. Absolutley Everything. Like we think so much alike. It always makes both of us smile.
  
  Update: We were just having a conversation about how were such good friends and how were both gonna move as soon as we graduate. We say we love each other but...idk.
  
  @Minisoda: I think thats what Im gonna do
  
  And Phunkie how did I know you would reply to me ;P

  
  
  Haha, you're psychic, Bankai. :thumb:
  
  And it seems like you've decided already and need some reassurance.
  
  Be kind enough to tell your friend (the one who dated her). You don't wanna have any conflict there.
  
  Good luck and tell us how it goes! :ran_ronald:
• Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 21:43

  Quote from Phunkie;56649:

  Haha, you're psychic, Bankai. :thumb:
  
  And it seems like you've decided already and need some reassurance.
  
  Be kind enough to tell your friend (the one who dated her). You don't wanna have any conflict there.
  
  Good luck and tell us how it goes! :ran_ronald:

  
  
  Yeah well now Im definetly not sure. Were talking right now and were saying how much we love being around each other. I was gonna do it right here and now but...Im not really sure.
• Hiccup wrote on 2010-06-07 21:43
  go for it! YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DIDNT!
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 21:44

  Quote from bradstrt;56656:

  go for it! YOU WILL REGRET IT IF YOU DIDNT!

  
  
  YEAH DO IT!
  
  This is 2010!
  
  No "what ifs"!! You'll wonder what could have been if you don't do it.
  
  Don't wonder, take action. Ask her out.
• Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 21:50

  Quote from Phunkie;56659:

  YEAH DO IT!
  
  This is 2010!
  
  No "what ifs"!! You'll wonder what could have been if you don't do it.
  
  Don't wonder, take action. Ask her out.

  
  
  But...
  
  Ok tell me this: I just told her shes so amazing. And she said I was amazing back. Is this a friend thing or and Intimate thing?
• Cucurbita wrote on 2010-06-07 21:53
  Nobody seems to understand the situation here properly?
  What you people are telling this boy to do, is to tell a girl who is already going out with his friend, to break up with him so she can go out with him instead.
  
  If the OP is correct in assuming that the feelings are mutual, then it should be the girl's responsibility to break up with her boyfriend. If she is waiting for OP's instigation, then she is pretty much using him as a shield and placing all the blame on what is happening.
  
  The best way to resolve this case isn't for the girl to break up because she wants to go out with another guy, but rather for her to break up because she is no longer interested in him.
  
  This method will leave far less hate. It might take a little longer, but there is far less drama and we kept the sacred rule of BROS B4 HOES in tact.
  
  

  Quote from Bankai231;56673:

  But...
  
  Ok tell me this: I just told her shes so amazing. And she said I was amazing back. Is this a friend thing or and Intimate thing?

  
  
  Don't over-read it.
  
  I can tell just about any one of my friends that they are absolutely amazing and they'll respond the same.
  
  If anything you can have a serious discussion with her about it.
• Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 22:00

  Quote from Margatroid;56680:

  Nobody seems to understand the situation here properly?
  What you people are telling this boy to do, is to tell a girl who is already going out with his friend, to break up with him so she can go out with him instead.
  
  If the OP is correct in assuming that the feelings are mutual, then it should be the girl's responsibility to break up with her boyfriend. If she is waiting for OP's instigation, then she is pretty much using him as a shield and placing all the blame on what is happening.
  
  The best way to resolve this case isn't for the girl to break up because she wants to go out with another guy, but rather for her to break up because she is no longer interested in him.
  
  This method will leave far less hate. It might take a little longer, but there is far less drama and we kept the sacred rule of BROS B4 HOES in tact.
  
  
  
  Don't over-read it.
  
  I can tell just about any one of my friends that they are absolutely amazing and they'll respond the same.
  
  If anything you can have a serious discussion with her about it.

  
  
  Kita she already broke up with him because she felt like he was cheating on her.
  I really think the best thing is to just ask her if she has feelings for me.
  
  Any other suggestions. Thanks to anyone whos helped so far. This may not be big for you but it is for me.
• Phunkie wrote on 2010-06-07 22:01
  Yes, don't overread things and don't make her break-up with him for you (if she's still with him).
  
  If she's single (or when she's single), go for her. See what happens.
  
  Life is short.
  
  Also, ask her how she feels about you. Like, honestly. Tell her how you feel as well. See what happens from there.
• Bankai231 wrote on 2010-06-07 22:02

  Quote from Phunkie;56693:

  Life is short.

  
  
  Just pretty much made up my mind right there. Thanks man :)