Can you argue/debate with people but still get along?

• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-31 07:48
  An acquaintance posed an interesting question to me earlier. She knows I'm one of those people who loves to debate, and more often than not gets into them or arguments with practically everyone at some point. But she thought it was weird that despite that, I didn't necessarily dislike anyone that I argued/debated with.
  
  I've always thought it normal that I can debate/argue (even heavily) with people and then later on, have a casual chat or laugh with them, no hard feelings. But apparently that isn't the case for most people.
  
  Honestly, there's only one person on here I'd go as far as saying I hate, but everyone else, no matter how much we may have argued or debated, I'm neutral and/or fine with.
  
  How about you guys?
• Kueh wrote on 2011-12-31 07:50
  I like to believe I can. But I know that it's not always the case.
  
  It's just annoying the way people think that, just because I enjoy debates, means I'm a dick.
  
  I can't try and explain that I'm not a dick, otherwise they just say, "See? You're doing it right now!"
• Cucurbita wrote on 2011-12-31 07:51
  One of my closest friends and I dont share a single stance on just about any political debate lol.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-31 07:53

  Quote from Lyre;714508:

  I like to believe I can. But I know that it's not always the case.
  
  It's just annoying the way people think that, just because I enjoy debates, means I'm a dick.
  
  I can't try and explain that I'm not a dick, otherwise they just say, "See? You're doing it right now!"

  
  
  The majority of the reason people seem to hate me is, besides my constant need to get into debates (not my fault if a certain subject is brought up, imo), is what I debate. Which is understandable, since everyone has different views on things, but it's kind of stupid to think someone is a COMPLETE asshole just because of that.
  
  I mean sure, I am a major ass, but not a complete ass.
• Kueh wrote on 2011-12-31 07:55

  Quote from Cynic;714515:

  I mean sure, I am a major ass, but not a complete ass.

  
  
  If I had a dollar for how much this is true for me...
• Xemnas wrote on 2011-12-31 07:55
  You sound just like me and I have no friends whatsoever
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-31 07:59
  I only really get along with my two brahs because we 1) seldom debate and 2) have very similar beliefs. I debate with Lance a lot, but he's not the type to get all personal over it.
  
  @ Lyre; lol, right? I guess you just have to find the right people to see through it.
  
  
  edit: lolwow just noticed the unintentional pun in the first paragraph.
• Rydian wrote on 2011-12-31 08:32
  Some people just freak out at anything they perceive as hostility.
• War wrote on 2011-12-31 08:37
  As long as you sincerely wish to know their opinion you can, if you don't give two sh-ts then tough luck.
• Shizuo wrote on 2011-12-31 08:48
  I think you can. I've gotten into debates with a lot of my friends before, but we still got along. Both of you just have to respect that the other has a different opinion ._.
• Fracture wrote on 2011-12-31 09:16
  I rarely do, since most times I get into arguments with people who have an opinion that really, REALLY pisses me off. One notable exception was with Episky, from here onwards. Also one of the few people with whom I've argued religion that actually made some interesting points.
  
  Rating: A+
  Would argue with again.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-31 09:23

  Quote from Fracture;714607:

  I rarely do, since most times I get into arguments with people who have an opinion that really, REALLY pisses me off. One notable exception was with Episky, from here onwards. Also one of the few people with whom I've argued religion that actually made some interesting points.
  
  Rating: A+
  Would argue with again.

  
  
  It's like that with some people, but ironically I can't bring myself to dislike many people on here just because of their opinions. When it comes to some serious sh*t such as they hate gay/transgender people, are religious idiots, etc etc. then yeah, I probably won't like you very much.
  
  But for debates or arguments in general, I'm pretty good at keeping any passive aggressive behavior toward those conversations and those conversations only.
• Hiccup wrote on 2011-12-31 09:34
  I'd argue with Sparta till I die and enjoy every second
  
  
  [S]Since he picks and chooses.[/S]
  
  
  I can debate with people until they start attacking me personally, then **** gets thrown everywhere. But that rarely happens so.
• Cynic wrote on 2011-12-31 09:45

  Quote from Hiccup;714636:

  I'd argue with Sparta till I die and enjoy every second
  
  
  [S]Since he picks and chooses.[/S]
  
  
  I can debate with people until they start attacking me personally, then **** gets thrown everywhere. But that rarely happens so.

  
  
  I'm probably the polar opposite. When someone starts sh*t about innocent beings or certain people? You may as-well have just kicked my cat in the face. den it's awn. But if someone insults me personally? It's actually a bit flattering.
• Episkey wrote on 2011-12-31 13:51
  You probably could already guess, but I like debating as well. I'm not particularly bothered by other people's beliefs, since ... well it's what they believe. I try arguing the other point, because I just love playing the devil's advocate. Throughout my life when I encounter people who believe in a certain topic, I like debating with them to see how firm they are, so to speak.
  It also helps me out, because I don't know everything lol
  
  I find that most of the time after a debate I look back and I say, "Darn it! I should have said this to that statement! Why didn't I think about it before?" So in the end, I still win. I never understood the whole, "Hah! I won the debate." That doesn't exist for me. This is just me reminiscing over high school, when classroom debates were just a joke D:
  
  I actually do have two good friends that I debate with constantly. I never thought it was weird, after our strong discussions - life just continues forward. Most of the time they either start it or they bring something up and I say something ... It just escalates from there.
  
  

  Quote from Fracture;714607:

  I rarely do, since most times I get into arguments with people who have an opinion that really, REALLY pisses me off. One notable exception was with Episky, from here onwards. Also one of the few people with whom I've argued religion that actually made some interesting points.
  
  Rating: A+
  Would argue with again.

  
  
  My reactions in order (imagine if I was drinking something): :spit: :!!: :shock2: :skip:
  
  WHAT. I always got the impression that you were annoyed with me in that thread :fail2:
  But, thank you! You brought up many interesting points as well.
  Looking back, I never answered your post D:
  I must have been preoccupied with starting college at the time.