TA wrote on 2012-03-05 10:34
Quote from Loopulse;796174:
My brain said call, my heart told me to let her figure it out herself. That itself, is what made my decision tough. I bet half of you if not more of you had ever had to deal with a rare and unique situation like this, so please don't judge my actions too harshly.
My best friend committed suicide.
Strawberry wrote on 2012-03-05 10:43
Even if she told you that she ISN'T going to, that may be a lie. They won't care what other people think once they've set their minds on it. Suicide, like everyone said is a serious thing. Once someone ends up mentioning about it, you should do something about it.
Once you see or hear about it, and if you don't want to be the one to do anything about it, then tell someone else to take care of it for you. Don't let someone off so easily because they've said that they aren't going to do it after saying so.
Just as you think she can decide for herself, you also need to decide for yourself what to do. Even if she was placed in a mental hospital and taken under care so that she wouldn't take her life away, it is way better living then dying.
Would you rather have her in a mental hospital, or gone permanently? Being in a mental hospital may take her away from you, but at least you could have the relief to know she's alive.
And if she actually did? How would you have felt?
Letting people off the hook once they mention something about it easily is just like standing there as you watch someone die right in front of you.
I know she said that she said that she wouldn't, but, you never know. Life isn't all of a gamble. Once she told you, you're now involved with it, and it is also your responsibility as a friend to help her out when she needs it, even if you think she doesn't.
Nobody was ever putting you down in the first place. They were trying to give you advice. You made a serious topic, and you got serious responses. Please understand that, if you didn't.