I think everyone understands that not everyone on Tumblr is a dumbass SJW, nor does anyone make fun of Tumblr-types to support their argument (actually, I didn't check.. but I think most would agree that it wouldn't make sense to do so.) I have friends who use it for art and whatnot as well; nobody has a problem with these people, nor are people in general targeted for being on Tumblr.
I think people only use it as a negative label to describe the spreading of stupidity via social media, e.g. "tumblr-feminists." I haven't seen people insulting "tumblr-artists," for instance.
... If this actually happens, then it doesn't make much sense to me.
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As for the topic at hand, on the personal level? I'm not really sure. Haven't had much time nor interest to think about it a whole lot.
My parents expect me to get married eventually, but they are not pushing me to do it. I don't think I could be a very dedicated boyfriend or husband at this point, as I'm too focused on building myself and my career. I suppose I'd be expected to dedicate more time to the lady.
In terms of general observations, I find it interesting that mens' and womens' roles are converging in a way. Men are expected to be more feminine (house-husbands, etc.), but still be macho breadwinners. Women are likewise expected to get srs bsns careers, yet still be nice house-waifus. An interesting point is that this shift is causing people to be less happy. People expected the reverse.
I'd like to think the expectations are disappearing, in that they are formed on a person to person basis rather than a blanket male or female stereotype. I'm sure there's some truth to either, but I'm going to live my life the way I described.
An interesting thing is when a man and woman do the same thing but it is viewed in completely different lights; if a man does a good deed for a woman they are viewed as chivalrous or virtuous and when a woman does a good deed for a man they are seen as kind or nurturing.
Now in both examples it's seen as good, but there are other things in which a man would be scolded for whilst a woman would be rewarded, or vice versa.This isn't the best example, but if a woman rapes a man or in some way aggressively sexually assaults him then it is seen as harmless while it is criminal for a much less significant advance on a woman. Again it's not the best example. Perhaps think of other things such as a woman stealing from a man claims the item is hers, the man is likely to be assumed the robber. So how could this been as bad for women? Well in the same light women are viewed as frail or even incapable, and may lose a job to a less capable man. I'm sure there's other more interesting examples, but I can't think much right now.